My Boyfriends Brother

[js1983]

Well my bf's 22yr old brother stays with us quiet a lot and has his own little room in the house. However his sleep pattern isn't the best.
Over the last week when ever we make eye contact, there seems to be this little smile that makes me think 'what the hell was that about'
Now the other night he caught me looking at porn and doing the man thing (but didn't see much, thank god). Nothing was said, just that little smile.
Last night was different, he laid on the sofa watching TV (nothing unusual), but after one of these eye contact moments i noticed he had a erection, he did hide it, but not as quick as expected.
After a few hours he got up to make a drink and so did I, again he had a erection but this time didn't try to hide it. In the kitchen he looked nervous and ended up dropping a bottle of cola. which i cleaned up. yet he's not a nervous person by nature
about a hour later he got up and said 'night' standing again with a erection, and slowly walked out of the room.
I don't know what the hell is going on. Was he trying to instigate something? I'm beginning to wonder if I'm seeing this wrong.

 

[anchihiro]

Seems like he wants you to cheat on his older brother with him.

 

[Just_Believe18]

You need to give us more information here. Why is your man's grown brother living with you? Do you know anything about his sexuality? Has he had girlfriends before (or asked to have any over?) So far this story is looking like it belongs in another sub-forum here, so please give us more facts on what's going here.

 

[js1983]

You need to give us more information here. Why is your man's grown brother living with you? Do you know anything about his sexuality? Has he had girlfriends before (or asked to have any over?) So far this story is looking like it belongs in another sub-forum here, so please give us more facts on what's going here.

He stays with us alot, too be honest he's never really at his own flat. as for his sexuality he's straight (well as far as i know) Tho I only know of one girl he's been with.
Sometimes he can be anti gay in his view (which P**ses me and my bf off)

 

[Seasoned]

I'd suggest you not be alone with him.

 

[aijalon18]

Who cares about all this eye contact and crap? That would be so fucked up to mess around with ur bf's brother. That could destroy their family. You have no business doing that.

 

[HunterM]

Even if he is trying instigate, you should ignore his erection and dedicate your time and energy building the relationship with your boyfriend.

Everytime you see his erection, treat it as a reminder that you & your boyfriend should have sex that day.

 

[Just_Believe18]

Why does he stay with you two a lot when he has his own place that he pays rent for? Something is not right there. Does he depend on you for cooking or laundry? Have you given him his own room? One solution to this potential mess is to just stop inviting him over. If you need your boyfriend's approval about it, mention the erections.

 

[KaraBulut]

If this type of incident repeats itself, you need to have a talk with your boyfriend. It's fine that the brother stays with you on occasion, but if he's being inappropriate and he's anti-gay, he's not a welcome houseguest.

 

[recuerdeme]

Your bf's brother is having homosexual thoughts and wants to try something with you.

If you want this you will continue to let him stay with you guys until you have an "accident" and destroy two relationships your own and the one between two brothers.

If you don't want this you will tell your bf know ONLY your unease about the living/visiting situation and ask that he insist that his brother not stay with you guys any longer.

That is all.

 

[Anders123]

what it he's encouraging you to make a move on him so that he can go run and tell his brother that you're an out of control sex maniac who molested him to try and drive a wedge between you two?

Sounds like a gay version of Chuck Bass, haha

Either way don't cheat on your boyfriend, especially not with his brother. Who cares if he gives you looks? Or walks around with a raging erection? Or drops objects so that you check out his ass when he picks it up? Or he can check you out when you pick it up. Don't even perpetuate those silly little games.

Don't those situations make you feel uncomfortable?

 

[js1983]

Does he depend on you for cooking or laundry?

Yes to the above

But ive now kind of solved the problem, told him he has his own flat and needs to start staying there.
I love my bf very much, and wont let anyone come between us even his brother.
If his brother does try anything I think we'll be having harsh word and I'll have to tell him that I will say something to my bf.

Hopefully nothing will happen tho

 

[recuerdeme]

Yes to the above

But ive now kind of solved the problem, told him he has his own flat and needs to start staying there.
I love my bf very much, and wont let anyone come between us even his brother.
If his brother does try anything I think we'll be having harsh word and I'll have to tell him that I will say something to my bf.

Hopefully nothing will happen tho

The outcome looks hazy.

 

[star-warrior]

If you love and value your boyfriend, then his brother is off limits, despite all the messages and body lingo you're getting. Trouble isn't more than an indiscretion away.

 

[texan_slant]

As much as this might be hard to do, try to ignore the erections and not to make eye contact. If this becomes a trend, you're going to have to gently tell your boyfriend that his brother has been flirty - because, if this happens often enough, and your boyfriend inadverdantly catches on, he might think that you brought it on! Just be cautious.

 

[Ninja108]

You're being set up..and while you have to walk a fine line, if he keeps it up, you will have to tell your bf.
For now, good for you on telling him to get his own place. The sooner he's out the better

 

[chance1]

could be lots of things

none of them classified as good

i'd have a talk with him

tell him he's making u uncomfortable with his inappropriate behavior

that he needs to stop ASAP

in a really nice way that is

if he doesn't give u satisfaction go to ur bf and tell him

good luck

btw ......... is he hot?

 

[aijalon18]

TBH i feel like ur being dramatic. There's no need to mention ur circumstantial evidence to his brother. What he has done so far is not that serious. Unless he openly propositioned you there's no need to blow anything out of proportion. The most important thing is not to disrupt this family.

This whole thing says more about you than the brother. You seem to be totally looking for something to happen. Maybe you need an open relationship or maybe spice up the sex life with the bf.

 

[js1983]

TBH i feel like ur being dramatic. There's no need to mention ur circumstantial evidence to his brother. What he has done so far is not that serious. Unless he openly propositioned you there's no need to blow anything out of proportion. The most important thing is not to disrupt this family.

This whole thing says more about you than the brother. You seem to be totally looking for something to happen. Maybe you need an open relationship or maybe spice up the sex life with the bf.

Disrupt this family. What about my family, We have a six yr old daughter.

You seem to be totally looking for something to happen - Er no thanks, if i wanted some 'fun' that'd be way to close to home. (would rather go across state line).

 

[aijalon18]

Disrupt this family. What about my family, We have a six yr old daughter.

You seem to be totally looking for something to happen - Er no thanks, if i wanted some 'fun' that'd be way to close to home. (would rather go across state line).

Sorry but you never mentioned having a daughter and you seem much younger from how you expressed yourself. It just seemed a little odd that you wanted to talk to your brother, when all you had to go on was eye contact and an erection. It's not like he took his penis out or groped you.