My brother-in-law passed away.

[peeonme]

Here is what I wanted to ask about, this man was a bit of a loudmouth, opinionated know it all who just had to be in charge of anything going on. At his memorial service (he was cremated) many people who had known him spoke and said about the same thing as I have just said.

Here is the strange thing, we all liked or loved him, we all miss him. He was no people pleaser; he could really piss you off. He rarely smiled and yet he could be fun to be around at the same time. I am never going to win a popularity contest. I try to be polite and helpful and the only time I am fun is after about 3 beers.

What do you suppose makes a person who is a bit annoying a bit popular at the same time?

 

[Dargelos]

Nobody is perfect, least of all people who affect faultlessness. Sounds like this man wore his faults openly, which makes it easier for his friends to do likewise and so feel relaxed in his company, annoying as it may be.

 

[LeicsDom]

Maybe it was the fact that you got what you saw and people were easily able to ignore him if they didn't like his attitude.

 

[NotHardUp1]

He sounds like he was honest. That's something.

People tend to lilke strong personalities.

 

[rareboy]

I suspect you were all being overly polite.

I had to help write a eulogy for someone just like him and described the guy as being like a hard, sour candy with a soft sweet centre.

And everyone nodded and smiled and felt better about him.

But the reality is that he really was an asshole to his wife and kids.

 

[peeonme]

I suspect you were all being overly polite.

I had to help write a eulogy for someone just like him and described the guy as being like a hard, sour candy with a soft sweet centre.

And everyone nodded and smiled and felt better about him.

But the reality is that he really was an asshole to his wife and kids.

He was stubborn to a fault but not mean to his family. He hated air conditioning in his home and his family paid the price in hot weather, however it was fine in his truck. I have had family members die and I have to say that while I am not happy that they passed away I don't miss them. I miss this guy, maybe because it was a bit fun to get pissed off at him.

 

[NotHardUp1]

He was stubborn to a fault but not mean to his family. He hated air conditioning in his home and his family paid the price in hot weather, however it was fine in his truck. I have had family members die and I have to say that while I am not happy that they passed away I don't miss them. I miss this guy, maybe because it was a bit fun to get pissed off at him.

Maybe he was merely cheap.

When I split a lease back around 2016 with an electrician in Connecticut, he would not let the AC run more than a few hours each day and would open windows as a remedy. That only brought in the humid air. It became apparent from his attire and comments that it was all a matter of cost, and he would not pay half of an electric bill for a modern two-story house with central heat and air. Essentially, he had never progressed to the bit about modern homes having AC, albeit much of the Northeast and Northwest tries to stick it out without AC unlike the South where no one does.

 

[peeonme]

Maybe he was merely cheap.

When I split a lease back around 2016 with an electrician in Connecticut, he would not let the AC run more than a few hours each day and would open windows as a remedy. That only brought in the humid air. It became apparent from his attire and comments that it was all a matter of cost, and he would not pay half of an electric bill for a modern two-story house with central heat and air. Essentially, he had never progressed to the bit about modern homes having AC, albeit much of the Northeast and Northwest tries to stick it out without AC unlike the South where no one does.

His "thing" about a/c was that people just sat inside during the hot weather if they had it, he wouldn't join the crowd.
Speaking of a/c, most in my age group grew up without it and lived. Now I have central air and we use it when necessary (high humidity) and keep it set at 76 degrees. I keep in mind that many around this world don't have indoor plumbing, let alone a/c.