My colon is broken

[yeeeaaahhh]

So, I recently started dating someone, and so I have begun to think about sex and how to, eh, prepare for it.
So many of the sources I have looked at have said that enemas are bad to use a lot, and that just using the "natural cycle" of allowing yourself to "clean oneself out" are the best way to go. And, I've tred doing that. But sometimes after I use the bathroom and take a shower I will check and there is always either more feces in my rectum or there is residue.
So, what should I do? I've thought about changing my diet to increase the amount of fiber I take in, which should help my digestive system clean out. But do you think that will really work? And what are some good ways of getting fiber?
Or do you guys have any other, better ideas?

I just really want to be nice and clean for him when we decide to have sex. I want it to be perfect and wonderful. Not messy and gross.
So, what are your thoughts?

 

[spiderhead]

I think if there's a "little residue" you'll be too caught up in the hot sweaty sex to give a shit. I know you want it to be perfect and all but sex is just what it is. It's intense and fun and when it's done, hey how about some thai food?

Seriously though you sound a lot like I was when I first had sex. I was nineteen and had been dating someone for six months before I let him have sex with me. I guess because of my religious upbringing I was expecting everything to be so dramatic, you know fireworks and all, but it's really just a great time and I think you should let it be. Don't get overly self conscious.

 

[coyotewileye]

Until recently, I used to have really bad eating habits which resulted in similar issues like you have. I ate a quite a lot of fatty foods, often skipped breakfast and had a so-so lunch and had a huge dinner to satisfy my hunger.

I changed all that about seven weeks ago because I was fed up with my weight. Nowadays, I always have a good breakfast and lunch and a normal size diner. I increased my fiber intake by eating more bread and muesli, cutting down a lot on fat foods and started drinking water throughout the day. I also eat something small in between meals, like a banana or an apple.

As I said, I did this to lose weight (and already lost about 13 pounds since I started ). However, I found that my bowel movements have become more regular and solid. I started using anal toys a bit over a month ago, but didn't experience any messiness. I'm quite sure that would have been different if I had not changed my eating habits.

Not sure if this helps you, but more fiber, less fatty foods and more water throughout the day worked great for me.

 

[KaraBulut]

The recommendation not to use enemas is just that- a recommendation.

If you have tried the recommendations on the sticky in this forum but you still don't feel clean enough, it is fine to use an enema or a shower nozzle to rinse your anus- occasionally. The point of the recommendation is that anal rinsing and enemas are not necessary but they are a personal choice.

 

[teadrinker]

A high fibre diet, and a good soapy shower with your friend before sex will do the trick nicely.

-T.

 

[Eternaldarkness]

I don't really know, beside a high fiber diet I would recommend drinking more water.

Another way to ensure you are clean is to either eat less the day before and that day (its takes more than 10 hours for food to pass through digestive system depending on the type of food), or use the toilet more often to ensure you've gotten rid of most.

If you have emptied out everything, then you should be fine.

I also wanted to point out another fact is that, your large intestines where feces are stored is very long. Meaning, if you haven't emptied much out then don't be too worried about it. Anal sex only involve only several inches of the rectum. If you try and force it out, all you're doing is pushing the feces closer and closer to the opening (if there is any left) and this is the reason why residue keeps comming out.

Relax and enjoy it. When you're in the heat of passion...a little stuff isn't going to do anything.

 

[3stripes]

The only way you're gonna get a "squeaky clean" asshole every time you have sex is by using enemas. The ass just isn't a clean place and isn't meant to be.

It's probably not a good idea to be using enemas all the time but what can you do if you have regular anal sex and want it clean? Not much. Eating better is only gonna go so far.

That contrary to my experience and the experience of a number I have talked to who NEVER use enemas and who very RARELY ever have any issues.

There really needs to be a flat earth society for all the gay men who refuse to believe medical information re the function of the bowel.

 

[3stripes]

According to your profile, you're 20 years old. Give it a few years. I've got 14 years on you. Been doing anal since I was in my mid teens. Things work better down there when you're younger. The more anal you do and the older you get, the more tendency things have to go a little off.

When I was younger, I could do anal pretty much anytime with no mess and no worries of embarrassment. A couple of years ago, I started to notice that I needed a little "preparation time".

The "flat earth society" you speak of would be better suited to guys who think you can do anything you want with no consequences. Years of regular anal sex have consequences. It changes the natural function of the bowel. Things loosen up.

Well there you go, aint the internet wonderful. I hadnt even noticed my age thingee and dont know where I set that.

I'm older than you, I've been having anal sex longer than you. I'm not having any of those problems, perhaps because I've continued to have a healthy diet and stay away from enemas which are the cause of the problem - Not the solution.

Now what ya got to say?

 

[KaraBulut]

Now what ya got to say?

Well, maybe the two of you should just whip up out and compare 'em so that we can get back to the original posters question?

 

[3stripes]

Now what ya got to say?

Well, maybe the two of you should just whip up out and compare 'em so that we can get back to the original posters question?

I do believe I was answering the posters question. But RandomDude - like you KB - seems to want to claim some authority. Perhaps you have a CDC link you'd like to post?

 

[TriBi]

Gentlemen, this is getting ridiculous.

Obviously we have members (and medical professionals) who hold slightly differing views on things as regards the topic of anal cleanliness for sex.

I doubt anyone is going to cite conclusive scientific proof either for or against the use/safety/advisability of enemas/douching (and if they did, I doubt anyone would read it anyway).

I would suggest that people agree to disagree, let what has been proffered as advice be read by those concerned - and let them decide for themselves.

If unnecessary sniping remarks continue, posts will be pruned and/or the thread closed.

Thank you.

 

[Telstra]

I guess because of my religious upbringing I was expecting everything to be so dramatic, .

religion do not support gay sex.

 

[3stripes]

... Anal sex stretches them. After a while, they will loosen up. Matter of time. This MIGHT happen later for some people than it does for others but it probably will happen. ...

... Enemas probably do cause more problems than they solve. ...

(Edited by me.)

1. might happen? Doesnt appear that medical researchers agree with you:

"Anal sphincter structure and function in homosexual males engaging in anoreceptive intercourse ...CONCLUSIONS: Passive ARI is associated with decreased resting anal canal pressures, but total pressures are normal. There were no IAS or EAS defects, as well as no fecal incontinence, in our subjects."source

This is scientifically collected research data, not anecdotal musings.

2. Enemas definitely cause more problems than they solve, including increasing the risk of contracting an STI:

"RISK FACTORS FOR AIDS AND HIV SEROPOSITIVITY IN HOMOSEXUAL MEN ... Douching before sex was independently associated with odds ratios of 2.2–2.8. " source

"Lymphogranuloma Venereum Proctitis in Men Who Have Sex With Men Is Associated With Anal Enema Use and High-Risk Behavior." source



Heavens, even "Go ask alice" advises against enema use prior to sex!