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My Cousin Saw My Browser History

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curboi321

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Well let me start by saying me and my cousin are close and sometimes he just shows up at my doorstep to hang out but today could have been one of the worst days possible. I was home alone and i was watching some porn on my computer and out of nowhere i hear a knock on the door well i didn't even think about cleaning my history i just cleared the screen and opened the door so we hung out a little bit and then he starts looking up something on my computer which is when he clicks on the drop down arrow and sees some of the websites i had typed in....... he doesn't say or do anything he just closes the browser and ask me if i want to go to the store with him:confused: now some of u may say that is a good thing that he didn't immediately disown me and storm out of the house but since he didn't give any reaction i don't know what to say or do i mean he was cool with me the rest of the night like nothing happend im scared out of my mind that one day out of nowhere he's gonna be like "i saw those websites on your computer r u gay?" i wouldn't even know what to say he has already asked me if im gay before but everytime i tell him im not which is the truth b/c i don't even know what i am yet but now that he saw that he's gonna automatically think im gay.
There's a slight chance he didn't see the names of the porn sites since they were mixed in with other non-porn websites but even i don't believe that and if he did see them why hasn't he said anything yet my worst fear is that he's gonna tell my family and my life is gonna go down the drain but i don't really know what to think or do im just really confused and scared right now. Right now im thinkin of pretending like nothing happened and keep on acting the same around him but i don't really know what i should do pls help me:help:
 
I would say nothing and let it go. If he did not actualy go to any of the websites, it doesn't matter anyway. Even if he did, shame on HIM. A PC is exactly what it is. A PERSONAL computer. Frankly, it is none of his...or anybody elses business what websites you visited. Do you go to his house and check HIS websites?? I don't let people use my computer, no matter who they are. If they are in my house and want to find something, I will get it for them. Besides snooping, I don't want anyone in my computer messing up my settings or causing a problem. Let them use their own computer. MOST people know that. I would never jump on anyone elses computer. I would ask them to find something for me. Your computer is part of your personal privacy.
 
how old is he? I doubt he will spread the word throughout your entire family behind your back...unless he's really evil, but like you said, him and you are close. I'm sure if it really bothers him that much he'll confront you about it. If anything else, it just confirmed some suspicions he had about you.
 
RukkuS said:
how old is he? I doubt he will spread the word throughout your entire family behind your back...unless he's really evil, but like you said, him and you are close. I'm sure if it really bothers him that much he'll confront you about it. If anything else, it just confirmed some suspicions he had about you.
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He's 24 and sometimes i use his computer at his house so i guess he thought it wasn't a big deal but usually im more cafeful about "covering my tracks" this time for some reason i wasn't
 
I definitely agree with Orlandude, your PC is part of your personal privacy and you have a reasonable expectation that people will treat it as such. But you did set the precedent by using his, so that kinda makes it a wash. Since you can't be certain of what he took notice of and what he didn't, I think the more attention you pay to this situation, the more likely he is to begin to question it. I would just let it go for now. Once you are more certain in your own mind as to where you stand on the issue of being gay/not gay, then you can begin to contemplate what to do next. None of this probably relieves any of your anxiety, but I hope it helps in some way.
 
Do you ever let friends use your computer? wink, wink, nudge,nudge. Those don't exactly have to be your site histories, do they? On a scale of white lie vs family harmony I know which way it would tip if it were myself.

If you and your cousin are close and feel comfortable discussing your sexual curiosity, which explains your browsing history if the question comes up then that gets to be your decision.
 
That's why I always lock my screen when I leave my Computer desk...
 
Hm...I think he is alright with you being gay/Bi, which you are, base on his reaction. But I can't be certain. If he going to hang out with you again, that shows it OK with him.
 
dude don't worry!!

you're from cary? i grew up in raleigh, i know it can be hard there.

honestly, don't worry man. if he didn't freak out upon seeing the websites then i imagine if he saw them he doesn't care. you guys hung out the rest of the day anyways like nothing was wrong, right? its totally cool man.
 
I think if he has asked you several times in the past whether or not you're gay in the past, as you stated, then chances are, he's the run the idea through his head that you are, and has probably come to terms with that possibility. His repeated questioning of your sexuality may mean, in spite of your denials, that since he already had suspicions, perhaps he just wasn't surprised to see such things on your computer.

It's definitely not an enviable position to be in. I was in a similar situation myself around one year ago. There's no ideal way for this to work out. I know you're so curious about finding out whether he did in fact see these sites, but the only way to find out for certain if he did in fact see them and his opinions on them, would be to ask him about it, and therefore basically come out to him. As hard as it may be, I think the best to do is to just try to forget about it. I can understand your nerves and fears at this point in time, but it's something that will go away in time. You may feel a little awkward around him or your other family members for a little while, but I'm sure in due time, when (fingers crossed) no dramatic changes in behavior happen, you'll slip comfortably back into your old self around him.
 
Have you ever seen his browser history?

If you're obsessing about this and he is a great guy that you can trust, why not come out to him.

He probably already has some idea that you're gay.
 
If he hasn't mentioned anything yet, chances are that he's OK with it. Don't stressover it, and carry on like nothing happened.
 
If you're as close to him as it sounds, you might consider telling him the truth when the subject comes up: "I don't know." It may give you the opportunity to talk about things that you need to sort through. His own sexuality is irrelevant. People don't need to be gay to be supportive; they just need to be loving and understanding.
 
If he mentions the websites you can say "You should see some of the crazy stuff I find on the web". Segway into another topic. You can come out when you are ready, don't feel obligated.
 
well he called me today(he was suppose to come over) but i didn't pick up the phone b/c i was alseep and when i finally got the courage to call him bk he didn't pick up. man this is crazy its like im afraid to be alone with him or even talk to him on the phone now i don't even know what his thinkin and im still afraid he's gonna get mad at me one day and just blurt it out in front of everyone. I mean this is extremley serious b/c no one knows about me and if they found out it would ruin my life even more than it already is, i mean im just not ready for anyone to know about me yet.
 
Ok, this is a tough lesson to learn, probably one of the hardest for homosexuals:


If someone doesnt like you because you are gay then they don't deserve your company to begin with. Period.
 
curboi321:

If your cousin had any opinion about any of this, he would have said something before now. So, either the names of the websites didn't click with him or he's too embarassed to talk about it.

The fact that he's calling you and the two of you are still hanging out is an indicator that nothing has changed from his viewpoint.

Stop stressing out.
 
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