The Original Gay Porn Community - Free Gay Movies and Photos, Gay Porn Site Reviews and Adult Gay Forums

  • Welcome To Just Us Boys - The World's Largest Gay Message Board Community

    In order to comply with recent US Supreme Court rulings regarding adult content, we will be making changes in the future to require that you log into your account to view adult content on the site.
    If you do not have an account, please register.
    REGISTER HERE - 100% FREE / We Will Never Sell Your Info

    To register, turn off your VPN; you can re-enable the VPN after registration. You must maintain an active email address on your account: disposable email addresses cannot be used to register.

  • The Support & Advice forum is a no-flame zone.
    The members offering support and advice do so with the best intention. If you ask for advice, we don't require you to take the advice, but we do ask that you listen and give it consideration.

My Cousin's Girlfriend

C

curboi321

On the Prowl
Joined
Jul 7, 2007
Posts
79
Reaction score
8
Points
0
Location
Los Angeles
I hoping someone can give me some advise on this:
Pretty much me and my cousin's girlfriend have been getting really close lately just today she called me on the phone and we talked for hours i know most people would say this really isn't a big deal but it fells like it to me i mean i really like being friends with her but it feels a little awkward whenever were on the phone talking or hanging out at his house b/c due to me still "finding myself" i don't really open myself up to most and she's one of the only people i really talk to and today she asked me if i wanted to go to the movies with her- alone:eek:. Now first of all i love my cousin very much and i don't want him to hate me for getting so close to his girlfriend but the problem is he doesn't spend anytime with her and he's always out doing other things (or other people if u know what i mean) and the only person she really has to talk to besides him is me.
Im glad were friends and i don't want anything to happen to jepordize that but i would be lying if i said i didn't like her a little bit and going back to the previous comment my cousin is currently seeing another girl on the side and it really hurts having to choose between staying out of my cousin's business and not letting my friend get hurt and knowing what i know im afraid if i start spending too much time with her then we may get closer that we should.
I guess the question is do you guys think a girl and a guy can be friends without it eventually turing into more? I mean im trying to keep the relationship strickly in the friendship zone and i don't even know what her intentions are for asking me to hang out with her alone but my cousin has been pretty cool with us hanging out together so far even though he's always been there.
Well I could go on for days but im going to stop here any comments or advise you guys have would be helpful. Thanks for reading!!!
 
Of course it's possible. I have many close friendships with women and not all of them turned into something more. Actually, one of the closest friendships I have is with a girl I used to date. We went out for about nine months until I broke it off with her because I didn't feel the same way about the relationship as she did. We took sometime before we began speaking and hanging out but once we did our friendship really bloomed.
 
curboi321 said:
I hoping someone can give me some advise on this:
Pretty much me and my cousin's girlfriend have been getting really close lately just today she called me on the phone and we talked for hours i know most people would say this really isn't a big deal but it fells like it to me i mean i really like being friends with her but it feels a little awkward whenever were on the phone talking or hanging out at his house b/c due to me still "finding myself" i don't really open myself up to most and she's one of the only people i really talk to and today she asked me if i wanted to go to the movies with her- alone:eek:. Now first of all i love my cousin very much and i don't want him to hate me for getting so close to his girlfriend but the problem is he doesn't spend anytime with her and he's always out doing other things (or other people if u know what i mean) and the only person she really has to talk to besides him is me.
Im glad were friends and i don't want anything to happen to jepordize that but i would be lying if i said i didn't like her a little bit and going back to the previous comment my cousin is currently seeing another girl on the side and it really hurts having to choose between staying out of my cousin's business and not letting my friend get hurt and knowing what i know im afraid if i start spending too much time with her then we may get closer that we should.
I guess the question is do you guys think a girl and a guy can be friends without it eventually turing into more? I mean im trying to keep the relationship strickly in the friendship zone and i don't even know what her intentions are for asking me to hang out with her alone but my cousin has been pretty cool with us hanging out together so far even though he's always been there.
Well I could go on for days but im going to stop here any comments or advise you guys have would be helpful. Thanks for reading!!!
Click to expand...

It will probably turn into something if you want it to or not. She either does and you let it orYou do and she lets it. It's a fact of life and a badge of growing up. Honestly, I say go with the flow. The whole romantic thing that is all planned in and written for in movies is bs. Plus we alllll make mistakes , if its the wrong move ... You live and learn man. There is no greater teacher than life it's self. So based on that I'd say go hang out and se what comes of it. :)
 
If you really are interested in keeping the relationship at the friendship level, make sure that you have communicated that to her and that she has the same thoughts. More importantly, perhaps, is to keep your cousin apprised of the situation. He will still be "family" long after this woman is out of both your lives.
 
I suggest you quit thinking to much about it. What will be,Will Be.
Just go to the movies and relax and have fun and keep being yourself.
 
If she is giving you that many mixed signals then my advice to you is to keep your distance. I say this because "friends come and go, but family is forever", and I wouldn't put myself in a situation where I'm going to jeopardize my relationship with my cousin.
 
Hey everyone thanks for the comments.

Well we didn't go to the movies today we just watched the new terminator show instead(which is basically like watching the movie- which is not a good thing). What's so crazy is that my cousin actually found out that we were planning on hanging out and he was cool with it but i don't know i guess im the only one that's weirded out by it we may go out this weekend but idk yet ill keep ya'll updated thanks.
 
curboi321 said:
Hey everyone thanks for the comments.

Well we didn't go to the movies today we just watched the new terminator show instead(which is basically like watching the movie- which is not a good thing). What's so crazy is that my cousin actually found out that we were planning on hanging out and he was cool with it but i don't know i guess im the only one that's weirded out by it we may go out this weekend but idk yet ill keep ya'll updated thanks.
Click to expand...

Your cousin's actions speak very loudly.I think ,he maybe getting ready to dump her. i also think,she may think your gay,or they both do. So play it cool and wait to see. Where their relationship heads to first,before getting romantic with her.:-)
 
I believe that no one should be minding other people's business, when it comes to the dating games.

You are not your cousin's moral guardian. Yeah, he is cheating on the side, but that's his call, not yours.

Equally so, you are not your 'friend's' moral guardian either. If you see a potential there, and if you are interested in getting there, go with the flow...

In this time and age no one owns anyone else and everybody above the legal age is basically a free game...

SC
 
Kinda of a sticky situation here...if you want to be friends, but then she finds out that you knew that her bf was cheating on her. She will probably be pissed off, and break off the friendship. On the other hand, if you told her that her bf was cheating on her, then your cousin will probably be pissed too. Either way, this can't end good.
 
curboi321 said:
I hoping someone can give me some advise on this:
Pretty much me and my cousin's girlfriend have been getting really close lately just today she called me on the phone and we talked for hours i know most people would say this really isn't a big deal but it fells like it to me i mean i really like being friends with her but it feels a little awkward whenever were on the phone talking or hanging out at his house b/c due to me still "finding myself" i don't really open myself up to most and she's one of the only people i really talk to and today she asked me if i wanted to go to the movies with her- alone:eek:. Now first of all i love my cousin very much and i don't want him to hate me for getting so close to his girlfriend but the problem is he doesn't spend anytime with her and he's always out doing other things (or other people if u know what i mean) and the only person she really has to talk to besides him is me.
Im glad were friends and i don't want anything to happen to jepordize that but i would be lying if i said i didn't like her a little bit and going back to the previous comment my cousin is currently seeing another girl on the side and it really hurts having to choose between staying out of my cousin's business and not letting my friend get hurt and knowing what i know im afraid if i start spending too much time with her then we may get closer that we should.
I guess the question is do you guys think a girl and a guy can be friends without it eventually turing into more? I mean im trying to keep the relationship strickly in the friendship zone and i don't even know what her intentions are for asking me to hang out with her alone but my cousin has been pretty cool with us hanging out together so far even though he's always been there.
Well I could go on for days but im going to stop here any comments or advise you guys have would be helpful. Thanks for reading!!!
Click to expand...


So,has any thing new happened of late?:wave:
 
well we finally went out to the movies last weekend but it wasn't just the two of us. my cousin had invited his 13yr old "friend" to come with us (or more like to monitor us in my opinion) but what makes it so bad is that i actually asked my cousin to come along but he didn't want to and instead he invited some kid i didn't even know who was extremely annoying as expected and she was too busy talking to him the whole night to even spend anytime with me. what makes it worse is she didn't even tell me the kid was coming until i got in the car and saw him sitting in the back seat and when i confronted her about it she said i was being rude and mean we haven't talked since thenand i don't think i'll be going to the movies with her again
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top