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My Cousin's Husband propositioned me - at Christmas no less!

TX-Beau said:
I just don't think I could have that conversation with either of them in any way which either would hear.
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So then move on with your own life, and don't spend any energy on them. You have not done anything wrong and/or indecent. In contrast, one might argue that this guy showed indecent behaviour towards you. But no big deal for you, when you don't bother about guys showing this kind of behaviour.

And both (your cousin and her husband) are adults, so must be able to solve their own problems.

Besides that, I (but that is just me) would not spend any time / energy on relatives who are not comfortable with gay people within the family (guys like you and me).

Best wishes
 
LOL, see I wouldn't consider this problem hot unless it was that guy who played Thor offering up his ass in the bathroom - in which case, cousin be damned I'd be all over that.
 
.....for however long, in whatever position....

I wonder how big his hammer really is? (smirk)
 
so long as it's uncut.... hell, even if it isn't lol
 
Really? I thought Australians didn't circumcise like Americans do.
 
Since the couisin is a bitch, I'd use it as a way of getting back at her.



















kidding









or am I?
 
Rolyo85 said:
Hmmm, and suddenly I doubt... My own American is only first gen, so he's uncut ^_^
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Well, in order to settle this we're just going to have to get a whole bunch of hot Aussies to show us their cocks.

Research can be so tedious.
 
Man that's a crappy situation you find yourself in. Part of me did wonder though, if he was teasing you without really intended you to follow through. Kind of like how homophobes will taunt you in high school and flash their asses or get grabby just to torment you. I'll leave it to you to decide if you really thought he'd been getting some from guys, or was just being a huge dick.

As far as telling the cousin goes, I do think it could go sour either way (the "You KNEW!??" factor). I guess it all depends on what kind of family you have. For example, I know with close friends that they'd want to be told if someone is cheating on them, because we actually discussed it as a hypothetical. If you've never had that chat with your cousin, then I wouldn't say a word.

Bottom line: you refused him regardless of whether or not he was serious. He's not going to hit on you again, and risk you going to her. Also, you don't know anything concrete about whether he's cheating. So if/when it comes into question where your loyalties stood, you say "I figured he was joking, but I wasn't entirely sure." And again, that's only IF he tries to lay some kind of "your cousin hit on me though!" excuse with his wife.

Frankly, this is one of those things you just take to your grave, unless you're 200% sure he was serious and you catch him doing something else, by chance. Your cousin wouldn't want you trailing him.

But damn...that asshole better be playing safe, if he is playing around >:(
 
I think him teasing you is a product of your cousins big mouth. She blabbed about your sexuality so , now that he knows this about you, he all flirty and suddenly its "gay night" whenever your around. Just chalk it up to another straight boy who loves attention.
 
No really asking for advice.

So, 10 years and 3 kids later. He's divorcing her, and yeah, I feel guilty.

Apparently, he's in a relationship with one of his military "buddies" (he's in the Air Force or was, and he's getting out)

She's pushing 40 and not young and pretty anymore. He still looks good.

She went to my mom and vented about it (probably because I'm gay - that's speculation, not something she said to my mom, but I can't think of any other reason why she would do that - I can only surmise, that knowing her as I do, she must feel incredibly humiliated and betrayed to be pushed into admitting this at all.)

Not much more to say about that. Same old tired story. I'm not really sure how to feel - it's not my problem. On the one hand, he's done a lot of damage; on the other, he finally came clean.

I haven't talked to her personally, which is what my Mom wanted, and I'd be very surprised if she had any use for anything I might say.

I never did say anything to her. I just avoided them both. I know this has nothing to do with me, and never did, but as a gay man, I still feel like I was remiss in my silence.

Not rational, but there it is. I also feel odd about wishing him and some guy I've never met, luck.
 
Going back to the initial post I don't think you are remiss in your silence. I think you are WISE to be silent.

This is a damned if you do and damned if you don't situation so I would suggest just mentally checking out because it truly has nothing to do with you so don't let anyone else even suggest that it does.

You also don't know the personal dynamics the cousin and her husband had. The possibilities are endless. To begin with there are alot of women who are attracted to gay men and hope to "change them".
 
Considering the brazen behavior- propositioning a relative in a family home where everyone else could hear or find out- I'm surprised this went on for 10 years without him getting caught and the wife figuring it all out.

Feel sorry for the 3 kids. They didn't do anything to deserve any of it.
 
This is pure speculation. I suspect that he got away with it because she just didn't want to see it. She's got this "perfect Christian home" thing going on and always has.

I don't really know her kids, but from what I've seen of them, they love him and he's a pretty good dad.

The thing that makes this curious, even understandably so, is that I think I feel more for him, than I do her, even though I know it's absolutely her that's been wronged.
 
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