LoveMyPeppermill
We turn each other's cranks
Thanks very much for sharing this, @TX-Beau, and especially for remembering to do a follow-up post after an entire decade.
I think your emotional reaction makes a lot of sense, even if it doesn't match your moral instincts and beliefs.
It stands to reason (though reason isn't quite the right word) that you -- especially as a gay man in Texas -- would feel more sympathy for
a gay or bi man who finally overcame a lifetime of Southern Baptist conditioning and found love with another man (despite the hurt he caused his wife and kids in the meantime)
than you would for
an intolerant, sanctimonious prude (as you've described her) who refused to see what was going on with her husband because of her need to be seen as keeping a "perfect Christian home" and who's never been nice to you anyway (despite the fact that she's a blood relative).
I dare say most of us Jubbers have the same emotional reaction -- and even wish him well, sort of -- despite the fact that we understand that he's the one who's in the wrong for cheating on her.
I think your emotional reaction makes a lot of sense, even if it doesn't match your moral instincts and beliefs.
It stands to reason (though reason isn't quite the right word) that you -- especially as a gay man in Texas -- would feel more sympathy for
a gay or bi man who finally overcame a lifetime of Southern Baptist conditioning and found love with another man (despite the hurt he caused his wife and kids in the meantime)
than you would for
an intolerant, sanctimonious prude (as you've described her) who refused to see what was going on with her husband because of her need to be seen as keeping a "perfect Christian home" and who's never been nice to you anyway (despite the fact that she's a blood relative).
I dare say most of us Jubbers have the same emotional reaction -- and even wish him well, sort of -- despite the fact that we understand that he's the one who's in the wrong for cheating on her.









