My Cousin's Husband propositioned me - at Christmas no less!

[TX-Beau]

So over Christmas one of my cousins husbands offered up his ass on a silver platter. No, there’s no way in hell I’m going to fuck him – and I can’t say I’m surprised, he’s always had his toes over the line since I met the guy.

There were a lot of people in my Grandfather’s house over the holidays, and of course showers were in pretty heavy rotation. So I’m coming out of the bathroom (fully dressed) one morning making way for one of my brothers, but it wasn’t him in the bedroom, it was the husband, just wearing a towel, no brother to be seen. I was a little taken aback – but whatever, so I turn to drop the towels in the hamper next to the bathroom door as he goes in, and when I turn back around he’s kinda bent over the bathroom counter, no towel, ass right there up front and personal.

OK yeah I looked, this guy isn’t exactly a supermodel, but he is cute, fit, and unfortunatly possessed of this really round, slightly fuzzy, high and tight (I confess I’ve noticed before – but in my defense it’s this pert, probably firm come-fuck-me ass that no straight guy has any right possessing,) so yeah, I perved for a second, and then the fucker starts chuckling because he’s watching me in the mirror, and he just says, “… anytime you want it…”

I got out of there. Now here’s the thing. Of course I’m not going to fuck him. Hell, I spend a lot of time avoiding him because I’ve long since had the suspicion that’s where he wanted to go, but now he’s gone and made the whole thing real. Once a guy has pointed his naked ass at you and told you point blank he’d like you to fuck it, it’s no longer possible to tell yourself it’s just suspicion.

Second, the complete and utter casual way he went about it. He was not furtive, he was not drunk, he was not hesitant, I’d go so far as to say he probably set that up and was pretty aggressively going after an assfucking. Which begs the question of how much assfucking he’s taking.

Third, he’s a cheating asshole married to my cousin (not a favorite cousin mind, she’s kind of a bitch to me – but still doesn’t really deserve that, kind of a cousin.)

So I’m 99% sure I’m not going to do anything with this little incident. I don’t want to be involved, nothing happened, and it’s not really my place, plus I suspect she’d never believe me anyway. But still, the way he went about it makes me think he’s got a lot of experience in finding guys to fuck his ass, and that kind of bothers me. It’s strange, I don’t think I’d feel half this apprehensive if he’d gotten sloppy drunk then awkwardly hit on me.

So, unless someone can come up with some reason that I haven’t thought of to go to her with this, I’ll probably just shrug it off and move along.

 

[Críostóir]

I'd keep it as a good story and move on. If he does it again, of course, you should handcuff him naked and call your cousin.

 

[FuryOfFirestorm]

You're getting trolled, big time. Dude knows you want him, and he gets off on the attention and making you squirm.

Next time you know he's coming, hide a web cam, then present the evidence to his wife.

 

[TX-Beau]

Well the only interest I have in him is a completely superficial generic hot ass thing. The rest of him I could take or leave. In fact he just pushed himself into negative numbers on the hotness scale.

Please don't think I've done anything to encourage him, nor do I have any intention of ever doing so.

 

[seven2go]

This is the husband of a cousin right?
I'd keep my mouth shut and move on.
If this was a sister it might be different.......but cousin is a little too removed for you to get your ass in a sling over it.

 

[jensu846]

ya , i would keep quiet as well, I have a similar situation in my past, not the same but alot of similar parts, and I have never spoken about it and I am so glad I kept it to myself. there would have been way to much drama in my life had I spoken out. Its just easier to stay quiet. But ya, it makes you think how much ass he is getting that she doesnt know about. And you will always be thinking that now too. He will get caught eventually. "What you do in the dark, will always come into the light." was something a close friend told me.

 

[Rolyo85]

The only reason I could think of to tell her is that you don't know how much dick he's getting, and how careful he is about it. Which puts said cousin at risk too.

Also, I'm glad it wasn't me. I have too little experience and the situation sounds "hard to resist" hot haha.

 

[Dashriprock3172]

Don't tell her. It was cause a hugh fight and at the end she will think you are just trying to cause problems

 

[Seasoned]

Mail yourself a letter detailing what happened. Keep it unopened. I've got a feeling he's going to tell her you hit on him.

 

[TX-Beau]

The only reason I could think of to tell her is that you don't know how much dick he's getting, and how careful he is about it. Which puts said cousin at risk too.

Also, I'm glad it wasn't me. I have too little experience and the situation sounds "hard to resist" hot haha.

See that's pretty much what bothers me - I have this sneaking suspicion that he's a big ole slut. If he uses protection or not I don't know, but it's been my experience that the closeted can be way less careful. That and I'm still a bit incredulous that he thought I might just jump on and pound away.


In another context in another life I probably would have gone for it, he does have a hot fucking ass. The key to resistance is in the consequences. I wouldn't be able to get off for thinking about the fallout.

Plus I like my self respect. (having surrendered it egregiously so often in my mis-spent youth)

 

[TX-Beau]

Don't tell her. It was cause a hugh fight and at the end she will think you are just trying to cause problems

That's pretty much my read on it. It is ironic though that he's married to this kinda intolerant, prude who probably says nasty things about my gay ass behind my back - he's wagging his tail at me, and I can only assume a whole bunch of other guys.

Southern Baptists the both of them, go figure.

 

[TX-Beau]

Mail yourself a letter detailing what happened. Keep it unopened. I've got a feeling he's going to tell her you hit on him.

If he tries to pull that, it's open season, I hadn't thought about that possibility.

Good idea about the letter.

 

[ajal]

Was that the extent of his coming on to you? You're making him out to be a big slut off of one little comment? That sounds like any random comment that some fit guy who's comfortable with his sexuality would say.

 

[hotatlboi]

That's pretty much my read on it. It is ironic though that he's married to this kinda intolerant, prude who probably says nasty things about my gay ass behind my back - he's wagging his tail at me, and I can only assume a whole bunch of other guys.

Southern Baptists the both of them, go figure.

Sexually repressed people are always the most crazy in private.

 

[bw92116]

I would say nothing to anyone about it. But after they have divorced, and he's truly single, not dating anyone, then that's the time for that to happen.

 

[yhtang]

Does he know that your relationship with your cousin is not the greatest? Is there a possibility that he is trying to entrap you to gain brownie points with his wife, your cousin?

It does sound like a dicey situation to me. You were right not to fall into his trap.

 

[inimegblue]

Does he know that your relationship with your cousin is not the greatest? Is there a possibility that he is trying to entrap you to gain brownie points with his wife, your cousin?

It does sound like a dicey situation to me. You were right not to fall into his trap.

See I thought this as well. Knowing females the way I do, she's already given her husband the 'run down' of most of her family members...especially the 'gay one'. Then again, that could explain why the closet case husband thought it was ok to do what he did.

Women usually have a good intuition about their men so chances are she knows something is amiss with him..even if she doesn't know exactly what it is. TBH I don't think you will HAVE to tell it. Sounds like this guy has become overly confident because he's had a lot of success playing both sides of the fence. He will trip himself up soon enough. My only concern is for your cousin because if he isn't being safe he's putting her at risk and she doesn't deserve that.

 

[Ganoderma]

So (..) I’ll probably just shrug it off and move along.

IMO, and based on what you have told over here and on your position (an open gay), I would indeed shrug it off and move along.

IMO, the behaviour of this guy tells alot about him. You are open, but that does not mean, at least IMO, that guys like him, and in the said situation, should behave in the way he did.

You are an open gay, and I tend to think that this cousin's husband is aware that he is welcome to discuss any of his gay feelings (or whatever) with you.

Its really tough to decide what to do with your cousin, if you have the idea that she might be on risks of getting any of the STD's, because her husband is fooling around with other guys? Tell her, or don't tell her? You don't have any proof the husband ever had sex with other males. He might also have copied his behaviour from gay porn.

Why not have an educational talking with the husband about possible consequences for his wife (your cousin) of unprotected sex with other males? So no moral talks about cheating (as that's not any of your business), but only about transmitting STD's and so on. It is a fact he offered himself to you. So why not talk first about STD's, safe sex, proper protect himself, eg.?

How tight is your relation with your cousin?

Well, some of my thoughts.

 

[TX-Beau]

I'm sure he knows I'm gay. I'm sure he knows that she and I aren't that close - but don't think that's completely a phobe thing on her part. She's just that person. None of our cousins are really that close to her because of it.

I'm sure she does have plenty to say about the gay, but then she pretty much has plenty to say about everyone else also. We all know she says shit behind everyone's back, she's a huge sanctimonious gossip.

I really don't think there's any kind of conspiracy going on, I think she married a closet case, or at least a pretty bi guy who isn't monogamous.

Like I said before, I've had my suspicions pretty much since I met him. He's always been flirty and grabby with me, it's why I usually try and avoid him. He's just never been that blatant before.

His entire M.O. comes across as practiced. He's not nervous or awkward at all. Sure I guess it's possible that me being gay makes him think he has some kind of licence, but then guys who are inexperienced generally aren't that cocky. The way I read that, he knows he's got a hot ass, and he was exploiting it.


I don't know if I even want to get involved to the degree of talking to him, first, I suspect he'd take that as opportunity, second, it is involving myself, and yeah, it's hard to let it go, she and I may not be close, but she's still family.

But then there's the specter of doom on the horizon if I prod this. I really don't think he'd go running off to tell her, but then I agree, at some point he's going to get busted, and I really don't want my name being anywhere near that kind of drama. I don't want to deal with the shrieking "...You KNEW..." or the suspicions that I fucked him, in fact I wish he'd stuck with the innuendo 'cause I suspect I'm going to end up feeling guilty anyway when he does get caught, let alone if he does catch something and bring it home.

I just don't think I could have that conversation with either of them in any way which either would hear.

 

[Enduster]

Have you fantasized about him at all, or jerked off thinking about his ass?