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my crush told me he's bisexual - what to do?

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I was in a regular club yesterday night and my crush - a friend - who was drunk out of his mind came up to me and told me out of the blue: "I'm bisexual". I'm not out to anyone, nobody knows i'm gay. Could he be joking? Could he be for real? Just the thought being on his mind surely means he thinks about that at least? I don't know what to think or what to do and I was too drunk as well so I don't remember what happened next, i think another friend came along to bring us a round of shots

ps: He's really manly but for such a beautiful guy I see him with very few girls (only one recently that i know of) but he never showed any signs of being into guys before...
 
Wow, sounds like another night of drinking between just the two of you is on taps. Sometimes people can be there most honest with some drinks in them.
 
I'm assuming he knows you're gay...? It sounded like an invitation from him, and a missed opportunity from you.

ok...it's a conversation that you may want to have alone with him when neither of you are drunk. Perhaps you could invite him over for some video games and a beer or 2 (again... not while you're drunk!). When the time is right, ask him if he was serious when he said he was bisexual. Let him know you're here for him to talk to about it if he is. If the conversation goes really well, ask if he's at all interested in you.
 
This is your opportunity to ask if he wants to have a beer or hang out somewhere. Maybe something early so you can spend the day together. Go for a walk and window shop, people watch, Have pizza. make it casual. No need to ask any questions, He already came out to you. Keep it friendly and have fun. Keep us updated.
 
I would assume two things, and do one thing:

1. He's really Bi--or at least not totally straight. You don't make this stuff up when you're drunk.
2. He's knows--or strongly suspects--you're bi or gay too. That was the point in telling you.

I would sober up and have a candid conversation with him, but be clear on what you want--if anything--to happen and get this out in the open. For example, do you just want to know this about him? Do you want to hook up with him? Why did he tell you that--did he suspect you? And, if so, so what? Lots of unanswered questions. Also, lots of possibilities, depending on if you want anything to come of this.
 
The problem with too many questions, at least in my case, is that it can make him feel uncomfortable. I say make him your new best friend and let things unfold naturally.
 
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2. He's knows--or strongly suspects--you're bi or gay too. That was the point in telling you.





It sounded like an invitation from him, and a missed opportunity from you. .




Wow, sounds like another night of drinking between just the two of you is on taps.





This is your opportunity to ask if he wants to have a beer or hang out somewhere. Maybe something early so you can spend the day together. Go for a walk and window shop, people watch, Have pizza. make it casual. No need to ask any questions, He already came out to you. Keep it friendly and have fun. Keep us updated.




The problem with too many questions, at least in my case, is that it can make him feel uncomfortable. I say make him your new best friend and let things unfold naturally.




All of ^this
 
I agree! This is an invitation to talk and probably fool around. Make the jump and let us know how it goes!!
 
I get that more often than not from new acquaintances/friends. I am indeed out, but I don't wear my sexuality on my sleeve; apparently, my aforementioned acquaintances and friends inform peeps for me. Lol ... I don't care, as I said, "I'm out." But I am not a teenager any more, so I don't automatically think that someone whom confides in me his curiosity wants to jump into bed with me. I do believe that everything happens for a reason, but sometimes "God" doesn't put someone into your life for you ... sometimes, it is for him(/her). With that said, I agree with the consensus here and say, "GO FOR IT!!" and by all means keep us updated!
 
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