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My Dad saw me viewing JUB... what do I do?

Trolli

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He'll eventually have to know anyway. Use this opportunity to tell him who you really are. I'm sure he already knows "what's up" if he saw what was on your screen anyway.
 
I'd play it cool. Act like nothing's wrong, because in all reality nothing is.

If he brings it up, deal with it then.
 
enta10020 said:
I was looking at some pics earlier when my dad poked his head in (I didn't realize that the door was unlocked) and there were some pics of naked men on the screen. I panicked and took some time to shut the monitor down, but I think he saw what I was looking at.

I'm in the closet and I like it this way, but I think my dad may get mad or disappointed. What do I do?

My dad and I are close, but I don't know how he'll react. I think he might've slammed the door a little on the way out.

I don't know what to do.

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Don't do anything. Leave it up to your dad to say something and if he does then come clean.
Of course he may be disappointed but that is hardly your fault. That's how dads react sometimes but it's nothing that you can control.
If you and he are as close as you say he will figure it all out on his own. And although he may not have wanted a gay son he will realize that you are the same son that he's been close to all this time, he just knows a bit more about you is all.

Most dads are better at this than we figure they will be, especially now days....
Give him some time to think about it and see if he brings it up. He may not.
Let us know how it turns out.
:D
 
First off, just in case...

HELLO,
ENTA'S DAD!

WE'RE ACTUALLY
QUITE A COOL
BUNCH HERE!
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As for you, play it cool. If he asks, tell him. "It's a gay porn site."

Lex
 
Why do you like being in the closet? Wouldn't it be better to be honest with your parents? Do you have a good reason to feel that he would reject you for being who you are?

How old are you? Where are you? Are you living in a repressive society?

It's difficult to answer questions without knowing enough about the person who is asking the questions and where they are coming from. I would give one answer if you are living in Alabama and a different answer if you are in New York. Also, your age is a factor. After a certain age, you don't need to pretend with your parents any more, unless they belong to a repressive religious cult.
 
you should tell him that youre bisexual, thatll lessen the load.
 
As easy as it usually is to make up some excuse and have them somewhat delude themselves into believing it, hopefully this will become a good thing. As embarassing as it is.
 
of course it is. [really, i do believe in this]

but for other people, its always easy to lie than to tell the truth
 
I can understand where you are and your age. They add somewhat to the problem. However we also know that the glbt movement has been making great strides in the Phillipines over the last decade or so. How to handle this. Is just to relax. Don't seem embarrassed if confronted by your father. Use JUB and other resources on line and make contact in person with a support group in your area. I know most developed areas of your nation have them now. Friendship Centers etc. and most of all if your father asks, don't lie. It will make it worse when you do need to come out. Be honest but not hurtful, tell him who you are and actually listen to his concerns if he raises any. Most parents are more concerned about your happiness going forward then they are disappointed. The gay lifestyle they grew up around is not the one that exists today, in many places on the globe. These days with alittle work and creativity you can have what ever life you will want or need. In the mean time good luck. :kiss:
 
but for other people, its always easy to lie than to tell the truth
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Not good advice or even accurate.

As Liam and others said, let your Dad raise the subject and when he does use the opportunity to tell him who you are. Don't be a puss. Maybe he'll get mad a little or a lot, but he'll get over it and I'm sure he'll continue to love you for yourself.

If he doesn't, he's a dick and it is his loss not yours.

And why do you like to be in the closet ????????????????
 
The same thing happened to me when I was 16. My mother poked her head in and saw me on gay.com. Whether she noticed or not, we never mentioned it.

Today she knows I'm gay and she's fine with it. Just play it off and don't worry about it. It would be great if your dad saw it because that means he's actually taking time to think about it, which means he loves you no matter what. But if he didn't see it, take a sigh of relief but also know you're just putting off the inevitable.
 
>>>Lex, you know I love you, but... We are so much more than a porn site. I foreget we even have that front page most of the time.

No, this isn't JUST a gay porn site, but it's a website for, by, and concerning gay men. And since there were naked guys on the screen, he obviously was is in the porn-y sections thereof. :)

Lex
 
Hey, comming out can be a tough deal. Think about it this way. It's no one's business, If he says anything at all about what you was doing in your room, Simply say. You should Learn to Knock first before opening my bedroom Door.

And walk away.
 
Tell him straight guys go here too? :lol:

In all seriousness, just tell him at this point. Don't let the both of you suffer by letting precious time pass. He's waiting for you to say something so say it. If he was really going to get mad or pissed or disown you, he would have reacted immediately. I think he's just as shocked as you are. And if you are as close to him as you say you are, I believe his love for you will transcend any obstacles.
 
hes in the p.i. they have a different legal system, and a social system as well.

if anyone finds out he is gay, he and his family will be the laughingstock
 
look at pussy pics next time you think he's gonna walk in. Than he'll slap you on the back instead of across the face.
 
i can't believe how many people are telling you not to do or say anything brah. that's not the way to go. first off, if yer dad has an issue with you bein gay brah, he's have said something by now. trust me when i say that, even before he saw you lookin at JUB, he more than likely knew. parents know their children. secondly, i'm full on with trolli on this. brah, the universe has like, given you a tool (no pun intended haha) to help you come out to him. use it. sit him down and talk to him. brah, i'm shure he's fine with you being gay. if he wasn't, he'd have flown off the wall when he saw you lookin at pee pees.


but yah, i'm seriously amazed at how many people are tellin you to stay in the closet and junk. i think that's kinda alarming #-o
 
SurferBoyKai said:
i can't believe how many people are telling you not to do or say anything brah. that's not the way to go. first off, if yer dad has an issue with you bein gay brah, he's have said something by now. trust me when i say that, even before he saw you lookin at JUB, he more than likely knew. parents know their children. secondly, i'm full on with trolli on this. brah, the universe has like, given you a tool (no pun intended haha) to help you come out to him. use it. sit him down and talk to him. brah, i'm shure he's fine with you being gay. if he wasn't, he'd have flown off the wall when he saw you lookin at pee pees.


but yah, i'm seriously amazed at how many people are tellin you to stay in the closet and junk. i think that's kinda alarming #-o
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Don't listen to this guy! He's 18 and riding the fence! He has no clue how your dad will react or if he really saw what you are looking at. Gay kids get kicked out for coming out or college not paid for. It's best to wait if you think he will flip out. Damn, I miss being 18!! I thought I knew everything to but I didn't know shit about the world. Good times.
 
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