My ex is 35 (I am 30), but his parents still run most of his life and finances as if he were a 15 year old. (He makes six figures.)
Everything we ever did was based on his parent’s approval. I was sick of being treated like a second class citizen whenever they were around. His parents know of him being gay, but refused to acknowledge me as his partner.
The funny thing is that I am a great, wonderful guy. Everyone who knows me loves me. I am in awesome shape, have a great face, come from a supportive (and well connected) family, and love what I do for a living. Yet, my ex’s family always acted as if I were not good enough for their son or for them.
Last week my ex told confirmed was having a two year fling with one of his father's employees because his parents knew of that, but did not approve of me. (I had always suspected something.)He told me that I could either accept his fling/ affair while still being faithful to him or leave. I felt horrible and sick to my stomach. I left his house and came back to my own.
Through the grapevine, my ex discovered that I had hosted a surprise party at my house for a friend two nights ago and spent the previous day working with a community organization. (He on the other hand, had spent his time in a nice hotel with his new guy.) My ex called me in the middle of the night and yelled me for an hour for not cancelling my social life due to our break-up. He told me that I was always too independent for my own good, while his fling and his family make him feel needed. (They are very manipulative.) He hung up on me when I asked him, “Why did you leave me for someone who isn’t nearly as attractive, popular, smart or hot as me,” because I was “insulting” his “innocent” new boyfriend. (More on that guy’s “innocence” below.)
What does he want? He'll do everything for his family (even if it means treating me like crap) and refuses to stop seeing this new guy (who is taking him for all his financial worth, while I never got a dime or asked for any gifts)! Yet, he wants me to stay at home alone waiting for him to call or come back.
I am pretty masculine and a guy’s guy (most people refuse to believe I am gay) and my ex’s fling is a clingy, dramatic, flaming queen. Yet, he keeps telling me that I am THE embarrassment to his family. His fling has a well-known criminal record and is loved by them. I am a highly educated and respected member of the community…but still not good enough.
We were together for over 10 years. I love him. We had good times when his family and fling were not around (that says alot). However, I can’t go back because to do so would be nuts. I am heart-broken, but not in pieces. (My family has been wonderful.)
What should I do? What should I say? I was the PERFECT boyfriend, but was still cast aside for a real loser. However, I had to leave him for my own sake and self-esteem. (I took a lot of blows to my ego because of him.)
Everything we ever did was based on his parent’s approval. I was sick of being treated like a second class citizen whenever they were around. His parents know of him being gay, but refused to acknowledge me as his partner.
The funny thing is that I am a great, wonderful guy. Everyone who knows me loves me. I am in awesome shape, have a great face, come from a supportive (and well connected) family, and love what I do for a living. Yet, my ex’s family always acted as if I were not good enough for their son or for them.
Last week my ex told confirmed was having a two year fling with one of his father's employees because his parents knew of that, but did not approve of me. (I had always suspected something.)He told me that I could either accept his fling/ affair while still being faithful to him or leave. I felt horrible and sick to my stomach. I left his house and came back to my own.
Through the grapevine, my ex discovered that I had hosted a surprise party at my house for a friend two nights ago and spent the previous day working with a community organization. (He on the other hand, had spent his time in a nice hotel with his new guy.) My ex called me in the middle of the night and yelled me for an hour for not cancelling my social life due to our break-up. He told me that I was always too independent for my own good, while his fling and his family make him feel needed. (They are very manipulative.) He hung up on me when I asked him, “Why did you leave me for someone who isn’t nearly as attractive, popular, smart or hot as me,” because I was “insulting” his “innocent” new boyfriend. (More on that guy’s “innocence” below.)
What does he want? He'll do everything for his family (even if it means treating me like crap) and refuses to stop seeing this new guy (who is taking him for all his financial worth, while I never got a dime or asked for any gifts)! Yet, he wants me to stay at home alone waiting for him to call or come back.
I am pretty masculine and a guy’s guy (most people refuse to believe I am gay) and my ex’s fling is a clingy, dramatic, flaming queen. Yet, he keeps telling me that I am THE embarrassment to his family. His fling has a well-known criminal record and is loved by them. I am a highly educated and respected member of the community…but still not good enough.
We were together for over 10 years. I love him. We had good times when his family and fling were not around (that says alot). However, I can’t go back because to do so would be nuts. I am heart-broken, but not in pieces. (My family has been wonderful.)
What should I do? What should I say? I was the PERFECT boyfriend, but was still cast aside for a real loser. However, I had to leave him for my own sake and self-esteem. (I took a lot of blows to my ego because of him.)
