My eyes are puffy and my sinues hurt

[JayHew]

Wow, bummer for sure. Sorry for that loss. It will take you time to get over, but it will eventually fade for you. Just don't give up hope and don't put yourself down because it happened. At some point along the way, you will find someone who will have you forgetting this episode completely.

Best now to let go and move on. Being friends,......perhaps much later, but not for now. Stay away. Again, sorry for your loss, but as with much in life, this too shall pass.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

You are most probably grieving his loss and not yours.

I can understand his saying that 'the feelings are simply not there anymore' or whatever. No one controls that really.

But for Pete's sake, it is his b'day and Christmas is approaching in a matter of days? Does this dude have any sense of compassion for the people around him? Nope, he doesn't.

Grant yourself some good, undisturbed sleep, wake up, take a shower and put him behind you. He is history.

You have got a life a to live, and you know very well how to do that.

---
A few years ago, my BF of several months at that time called me from the SFO International at 7:30PM, 31 Dec, just as I was about to dress the table for the New Year's Eve that he is calling it quits. That he wants to go and spend the holidays with his family. That his family means everything to him, no matter, how much abuse he had suffered at their hands in the past. He was never going to see me again. Why??? Who knows? His priorities shifted.

So, I asked him, 'Where does this leave me, tonight?' And he said, 'You are a great guy. You'll find your way around, no matter what.'

I woke up the next morning and mentally thanked him up for showing me his right face sooner rather than later. AND for getting so quickly out of my life. I owe him for that.

And, yeah, he was right. I found my way around anyway. And always will.

SC

 

[SilverRRCloud]

He only knows his reasons. If you want to know them, you'll have to ask him.

However, I would never go there. He has thrown the dice and he has broken your heart in thousand pieces.

Run and never look back.

SC

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Please, read my previous post.

And do not let him take charge of any closure. It is your life, we are talking here and you are calling it a closure.

SC

 

[boy0boy]

Yeah why are you putting the closure on him? You're basically waiting for his reactions to everything hoping that he's going to show some sign of affection. "I'm confused?" well... perhaps it's because you aren't letting yourself view the whole picture... which is hard to do when in the situation, I understand.

But from a viewers perspective. It's over, for whatever reason, he's lost his spark for you. DON'T make yourself a wreck trying to figure out why and if it will come back! Nobody knows. Just do what you can do... continue living your life, you'll be fine as much as it hurts.

Just try to know that it's over. Don't reach for hope obviously, keep it to yourself but prepare for the worst. You never know, people change... he might realize what he's missing, of course by then you will probably have met a great new guy.

Hope everything goes well.

 

[oracle12]

Boys suck. (nods)

 

[Holiday/Knight]

So he said he loves you after getting the MP3 player

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Take from a guy, who has been around the block more than just a couple of times...

You are walking on a thin ice. And I see it cracking, too...

Good Luck...

SC

 

[spreadeagle]

Did it not cross your mind that he was more upbeat and had his life back on track BECAUSE he had ended with you?

I think it unlikley that you'll get back together; you sound too needy.