The Original Gay Porn Community - Free Gay Movies and Photos, Gay Porn Site Reviews and Adult Gay Forums

  • Welcome To Just Us Boys - The World's Largest Gay Message Board Community

    In order to comply with recent US Supreme Court rulings regarding adult content, we will be making changes in the future to require that you log into your account to view adult content on the site.
    If you do not have an account, please register.
    REGISTER HERE - 100% FREE / We Will Never Sell Your Info

    To register, turn off your VPN; you can re-enable the VPN after registration. You must maintain an active email address on your account: disposable email addresses cannot be used to register.

  • Hi Guest - Did you know?
    Hot Topics is a Safe for Work (SFW) forum.

My Facade is crumbling - So much for masculinity

I don't know if this applies to this type of situation or not, but here it goes. My co-worker and I were talking today about work and our jobs and the fact that even though the job we do is rather mundane and does not challenge either of us intellectually, we both enjoy coming to work. We have fun while at work, and neither one of us dreads coming to work. He admitted that he was quite surprised to find out that I was gay. He said that he also admired me for living an honest life and for standing up for myself when people say things that really should not be said in the workplace regarding gays. He said that he never really had such close contact with anyone who was gay, to the best of his knowledge, but he liked the fact that I did not wear my sexuality on my sleeve but I did not shy away from it either, and can laugh at myself just as easily as I can laugh at others. He said that he realized, by getting to know me, that I am no different from anyone else. He then finished by saying that he has noticed that we both work the same and actually find ourselves saying the exact same things to our supervisors and managers without talking between ourselves first. He said that he has learned that I am either straighter than I think that I am, or he is not as staight as he thought he was.
 
gerrit said:
Personally if I may voice my opinion here (because last time I got blasted by newboy12) I'd say #2 suits Newboy12 perfectly.
That is what facades usually do, crumble.

As someone mentioned in another thread something along the line of: "newboy12 you are only 12" what can we expect from someone of that (mental) age?

Do yourself a favour...

Get over yourself.
Click to expand...

Well said man! Well said! :=D:
 
newboy12 said:
Until there is complete tollerance in the world lots of people will put up facades to adhere to the status quo.
Click to expand...

Just incase you don't read Andreus' response in your other thread:

If that were true then Rosa Parks would never have claimed her seat

she lived to a ripe old age and all she did was refuse to consider herself a second class citizen and not give up her seat to a very rude man.

her courage inspired a nation to make many many changes

anything ios posible if you just live an honest life

I take hits all the time from gay people for being a muslim and from muslims for being gay

do you think i would ever deny either of those identities to either group?

and who do you think has a better life because of it?

that would be little old me ;)

Life aint about being popular... its about being free and happy

Read this VERY carefully.^
If 'we' (we = any minority or group that is 'different' from the rest of the world) don't change our attitude no one will.
 
You mean the thread starter was not looking for advice about the front of his house?
 
You're such a butt, darling. Don't you understand that screeching at these girls every time they make oblique mention of your homosexuality only cements their certainty that you are, indeed, gay? It's called "the lady doth protest too much." Straight guys don't do it, so you're pretty much outing yourself when you do.

When are you going to realize that gay and masculine are not mutually exclusive? You don't have to be a big scary fairy for people to put two and two together and figure out you might be gay. Girls in particular are very intuitive about that sort of thing.

So relax and learn to take life a little less seriously. If you want to stay in the closet, stay there; but discretion is required, and cussing girls out isn't very discreet, my dear.
 
newboy12 said:
Until there is complete tollerance in the world lots of people will put up facades to adhere to the status quo.
Click to expand...

Heh,

Well, then you'll go to your grave with your 'facade' completely intact.

There will NEVER be 'complete tolerence', DEAL... It's just a fact of life.

I can only echo what others have already said here. Fags can't front with
other fags, sweetie. I'm proud to be a raging one, and I wish only the same
pride finds you as well.

Although, you might take a step back and wonder why the entire thing pisses you off so much. Your friend tried to set you up with someone that might have been a possible relationship.

The nerve ! :rolleyes:

Let's just drag her out into the street and have her shot.

C'mon.

There's nothing more attractive on a man than the personal acceptence with which he carries himself.

But of course, I mention this only in passing.
 
Hell, if you don't want this Gregory fella, then I'm sure there's someone here that will gladly take him! ;)

Seriously, though, if she had wrongfully assumed you were gay, I could begin to understand your annoyance. But when you are gay, what's wrong with her knowing? If you don't trust your close friends with it, you've got deeper issues than your masculinity. Whatever they are, don't make it her problem that you don't have the guts to be who you are.
 
Maybe you should ask yourself how in the world did she find out u are GAY when you think you are STRAIGHT looking... maybe what you think isn't what the others see...

Also, I'm not judgeing but what is this obession of looking straight, hating all that has the word "gay" in it and having sex with straight guys only....

Well, let me tell you, you are not straight no matter how hard you try to look like one, you are still gay.

You aren't having sex with straight guys, guys who fuck other guys are also homosexual...

Sorry if that sounded rude, I'm just assuming that you feel ashamed of being gay and you hate being gay that's why it's so hard for you to accept that gays are worth your attention as well...

You can find yourself a nice masculine gay guy to have fun with.

Straight men who fuck men do not exist... that's all in your head... stop fooling yourself.
 
I don't know why i even bother reading your posts. They make my skin crawl. You have good male friends that you set up to take advantage of and violate them when they're unable to say "no," and then you supposedly have caring female friends who can sense you are gay and try to show you they are accepting of it by wanting to introduce you to someone so you can be yourself, and you go off on them for seeing through your "facade."

I don't understand how you have any friends at all if this is how you treat them, and if you continue to do so, you probably won't have them for long. And from how you portray yourself on here, it doesn't sound like you deserve them.
 
You need a hug, (*8*)

Your friend did nothing wrong, but I understand the shock, and how your mind extrapolated negatively. If she knew how many other people could know type thing.

Does it matter though? Does it matter if the whole world knows? It doesn't change a thing about who you are!
 
Roland00 said:
You need a hug, (*8*)
Click to expand...

Thanks but i'm over it now.

There are alot of effeminate men that are heterosexual, and lots of really masculine men that are homosexual.

Given this ^ it is always wrong to assume someones sexuality and not even come to them and ask them instead just assuming and throwing a man in your face.

Her appraoch was wrong, and newboy12 doesnt play that...
 
newboy12 said:
There are alot of effeminate men that are heterosexual, and lots of really masculine men that are homosexual.

Given this ^ it is always wrong to assume someones sexuality and not even come to them and ask them instead just assuming and throwing a man in your face.
Click to expand...

But you aren't one of the effeminate homosexuals aren't you? You act masculine according to you (I take you on your word). Thus she has nothing to assumed on. I take it she is better at picking out signals than you realize, especially since she is your friend, and is friends of other gay men. People aren't blind, least of all friends.

Regardless you shouldn't have cursed her out. Maybe tell her not to assume things in the future, but there is a difference between telling her that and cursing her out.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top