My first college experience.

[Samskeyti]

*long*

When I first arrived at my dorm, I was pleasantly greeted by my Residence Assistance along with my two roommates. They were both fairly quiet at first, but they seemed like cool people, but I mean whatever. Later that night, as I settled down for that evening, I said to myself, "man, this place is gonna be great." And as I was snuggling my blanket because my room had Air Conditioning (yeayuhz), about to enter a trance like state, a thunderous fart rips through the air like a fucking jet breaking the sound barrier. I was flabbergasted...but I brushed it off because, I mean, who doesn't fart.

A month later. Goddamn, was I fucking wrong about this place being great.

Outside, he seems like a jolly, friendly, average fat guy who is congenial towards everybody, and maybe even a little bit gay. But little did I know, this creature...this beast is a living hell, a walking bog.

Since my first day here, I have seen this guy going to shower twice. Maybe it's the clashing between my schedule and his, but his smell sure proves otherwise. I come home every afternoon, relax and rewind after an effortless day of class in my pristine and fresh room, it's all fun and games until he comes home. As soon as he walks in, an invisible rat that seemed to bathe itself in shit juice crawls up my nose and disintegrates. Remember Lephew? That cartoony skunk? Yeah, remember how he walks into a room, and a flower wilts because of the vile stench? If I had a flower on my desk for some aesthetics reason, I would not be surprise if it falls into pieces as soon as he enters the room.

Another part that bugs me is that this swine keeps invading my personal space. Dude, fuck off. I don't need your germy hands all over my chair. Did I mention I was a hardcore germa-phobe? And stop talking to me like we're friends. Geezus. And stop walking around shirtless, no one wants to gander at your hideous and hairy flabs. You're not America's Nexy Top Model, put some clothes on asshole. Also, while you're at it, stop changing your underwear right fucking behind me, or around me for that matter, I don't want to risk accidentally turning around one day and bleed my eyes out.

But this is just scratching the surface. The best part happens when night comes. Remember the blast of air I experienced the first day I was here? Well, it seems to be a nightly thing now. I really don't know what the fuck he's been shoving his fat face with, but that shit stinks. It smells like death. Not to mention he farts every twenty minutes on a bad night. Can you imagine your world, your sanctuary being violated by gas pockets of shit that have traveled through the sphincter and out of a fatass' hairy anus. Well, I DON'T HAVE TO IMAGINE, I EXPERIENCE IT EVERY NIGHT. At the moment, my room smells like a mixture of shit and Febreze and thousands of other air freshening products. It's devastating. He turned this place into a shit hole, literally.

Sometimes, I want to tear his face off to quench my anger, but of course, why waste my breath, I can barely breathe anyway. This guy just pisses me off with his smell. AGH

In short, how do I deal with this guy. I've confronted him once, and I clearly said to his face, you smell like shit, shower more often. And it worked...for like two weeks. Should I keep reminding him? I mean, I can't do this.

HELP

I would request a room change, but it's apparently too late, even for next semester I think.

 

[JackFTwist]

I would request a room change, but it's apparently too late, even for next semester I think.

request anyway - and look desparate but like a lovable good guy when you do it without saying why you want it -

but request anyway

 

[Huskerboy]

I agree... make the request for a room change anyway...

 

[Kulindahr]

At Oregon State when I was there it was possible to make a room change request if you had strong personal difficulties with your current roommate. I'd think this qualifies.

Where's your other roommate in this picture, anyway? Your post said "two roommates", right? If number three is as disgusted by this guy as you are, that might give leverage.

I'd say make the request anyway. Talk to your R.A. and if he wants a reason just say you need a different atmosphere; if he persists, tell him "personal incompatibility". If it's messing up your sleep, interfering with studies, or anything like that, it's worth mentioning.

Whatever you do, do NOT blame the other guy. The way to put it for openers is "I just can't handle some of his personal habits". Let the R.A. ask what those are.

 

[Blakiepoo]

reminds me of my roommate. ugh i hated him. He put his dirty laundry right under the heaters, so their smell would heat up and be blown around the room. I had the decency to put my laundry in a laundry bag in my closet.

So don'tyou have 2 roommates? Can't you talk to the other and both come to him telling him he needs to up his cleanliness? Tell him that you guys do it for him and you just want him to give you two the same consideration. Maybe even offer to buy him his first bottle of Beano.

And don't unleash your fury upon him when you talk to him. That would make him less cooperative and even ashamed of going to have a shower because it would make him feel like he's giving in.

 

[BlueD]

Get a room change...at my school, you are allowed to change room any time you want (except for the first two weeks of the semester I think or talk the the RA or the residence housing... and for the reason, I agree with Kulindahr....

 

[Croynan]

At Oregon State when I was there it was possible to make a room change request if you had strong personal difficulties with your current roommate. I'd think this qualifies.

Where's your other roommate in this picture, anyway? Your post said "two roommates", right? If number three is as disgusted by this guy as you are, that might give leverage.


I'd say make the request anyway. Talk to your R.A. and if he wants a reason just say you need a different atmosphere; if he persists, tell him "personal incompatibility". If it's messing up your sleep, interfering with studies, or anything like that, it's worth mentioning.

Whatever you do, do NOT blame the other guy. The way to put it for openers is "I just can't handle some of his personal habits". Let the R.A. ask what those are.

a fine posting and great advice.​

eM.

 

[Otherwise]

You really should change rooms. I use to be an RA and I know for a fact that you right around this time there are room shifts and vacancies due to study abroad programs and roommate situations.

What you need to do is go to your R.A. and tell them that you've already attempted to speak to you roommate several time but his hygiene is starting to effect you and that it poses serious health issues. You can't live in the room and work in that situation. Don't get angry stay calm and just present your case. Don't back down and if your R.A. pushes back and tries to set up some type of meeting between the three of you to "discuss" and hash out a plan, tell them that you did it already, that it worked for only two weeks and the situation is as bad as ever and you don't want it to effect next semester the way that it did this one and if they can't help you just go to the RHD or RD whatever they're called at your school.

Bottom line, don't back down, don't be embarrassed and change rooms. I know my Freshmen year the guy who lived next door to me smelled so strongly that you can smell him through the walls. The stench was so strong that I whenever I had to speak this kid directly I would start to gag because it felt as if the stench was just going down my throat. I can just imagine what it must be like for you. So just remember a few key words when talking to you're R.A. health hazard, previous meetings unsuccessful, effecting school work (i.e. can't stay in the room to study or concentrate when you get back, constant farting not allowing you to sleep), immediate room change or going to RHD.

Good luck and keep us posted on how it goes!

 

[treanir]

Have you ever actually, oh I don't know, *said* anything to the guy? Maybe he's not aware of his smell. Sounds weird, I know, but it's possible. If he's had to live with it for years, there's a fair chance he doesn't even realise it any more. It could be a hygiene problem he's not aware of, but it could also have a physical cause. Either way, nothing will change if no-one says anything. So why not be the one to change that? Instead of running away, try to fix the situation first.
Don't do it in a sneaky and mean way. Dropping 'subtle' hints like buying the guy deodorant and leaving a leaflet on personal hygiene on his pillow are passive-aggressive and warrant a good tongue-lashing in my opinion. No, the best way to go about this is to sit him down, tell him what you experience and ask him if he recognises this. If he does, he will probably explain why he has a strong smell around him. If he does not, try to bring up personal hygiene and see if the problem could be there.

Why run away. Why not see if you can improve someone's life?


(of course if he just doesn't care about hygiene, feel free to request a room change)

 

[Ohiospeedo]

Check around and see if you have any friends with an open bed or room. How big is the school you are going too?

 

[josher]

Have you ever actually, oh I don't know, *said* anything to the guy? Maybe he's not aware of his smell. Sounds weird, I know, but it's possible. If he's had to live with it for years, there's a fair chance he doesn't even realise it any more. It could be a hygiene problem he's not aware of, but it could also have a physical cause. Either way, nothing will change if no-one says anything. So why not be the one to change that? Instead of running away, try to fix the situation first.
Don't do it in a sneaky and mean way. Dropping 'subtle' hints like buying the guy deodorant and leaving a leaflet on personal hygiene on his pillow are passive-aggressive and warrant a good tongue-lashing in my opinion. No, the best way to go about this is to sit him down, tell him what you experience and ask him if he recognises this. If he does, he will probably explain why he has a strong smell around him. If he does not, try to bring up personal hygiene and see if the problem could be there.

Why run away. Why not see if you can improve someone's life?


(of course if he just doesn't care about hygiene, feel free to request a room change)

Read the OP again- carefully this time.

 

[treanir]

Read the OP again- carefully this time.

Okay, missed the last bit. Last line stands.

 

[backpacker]

Request a new roommate.

 

[ilovegaysex]

LOLOL....oh my god. I just died laughing at that!! I'm sorry...I know it's not supposed to be funny...but it is.

Anyways maybe you should just tell him that he stinks and he should take showers every day. And get him some fart pills!! Are there such a thing?

 

[hawkia]

oh my god another crisis

 

[seven_sins]

Print out a copy of your post and put it on his desk. Heh, heh, heh.

 

[Kulindahr]

Get a roomchange.

Your roommates don't deserve to have their college experience ruined by low heelers, such as you are now. Grow up already.

"Grow up"?
I think you need that advice. There are some incompatibilities that can't be resolved. If the OP's account is reasonably accurate, this roommate is a disgusting slob; even if he isn't, there's obviously something seemingly unresolvable between them.

Why run away. Why not see if you can improve someone's life?

That notion has gotten me into more trouble.... Making such a decision takes a serious and broad assessment of things; it also takes a refuge from which to proceed, not the constant tension Samskeyti is under.

(of course if he just doesn't care about hygiene, feel free to request a room change)

oh my god another crisis

Someone has to be on the statistical limb....

Print out a copy of your post and put it on his desk. Heh, heh, heh.

Or "accidentally" leave it on the computer screen?