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My Friend has died.

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Golliwog

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My friend Damon died last week, and I learned about it when I read his obituary in today's paper. He was forty-seven. He was an activist for causes he believed in. I am deeply saddened for this loss. We had unfinished business, not of a sexual nature, and now it is finished, though not satisfactorily.

I don't start threads often, and not with the need for validating posts.

I just needed to tell somebody.

Our newspaper uses the heading, REMEMBERING, which I think is so much better than Deaths, or Obituaries. Death by whatever name is raw and shocking. I will try to remember Damon by his life, not because of his death.
 
Sorry to hear about your loss.
Its nice to remember someones life and
what they did with there life.
My sympathies and condolences
 
You are right to remember his life rather than to mourn his death.
 
I, too, am sorry to hear of your loss. (*8*)
 
Memories of love revealed in the life of a friend, speak of love that feeds the heart beating at one with love eternal.
 
Golliwog,

I wish I could sit with you and listen, and then give you a good strong hug. You are a class act, and I know this must be distressing for you. Undoubtedly you have sat with others in their time of dying, and I am sad you did not have the opportunity for closure with your friend. May the peace of the Lord be with you friend.

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Golliwog, I am sorry to hear you lost your friend (*8*)
 
Something like a year and a quarter ago, I found out that a person who had been important in my life had died. We had lost touch (and honestly I expect she was fine with that -- she had things to do!). I didn't even know she was sick.

She was a faulty human and a really awesome individual. There were occasions when she treated me in ways I certainly experienced as "cold." There were moments I had with her, and looking back, I recognize that those were moments of what seems to me to be a very uncommon level of intimacy.

Other people had many more than I!

I would like to have talked to her again. It's probably 100% OK that I didn't. I gave away a gift she once gave me -- no, actually, I sold it for cheap. How stupid -- and not just because *she* gave it to me, but also because it was a really cool object!

Oh well.

People *loved* her. In her online obituary, there were all these glowing descriptions and remembrances -- and none of them were from the time I knew her (which was part of a period of several years and involved a ton of people)! "Wow," I thought, "it's like she had a whole other life after she moved away from our town, and this other life was way more fabulous than the life she lived here, which seemed to me to be pretty fabulous."

When I found out she died, there were very few people I was still in touch with, with whom I could talk about her, who would have any idea at all about what I was talking about. They didn't know her.

I know the impulse to tell someone, "a friend of mine has died," and you want to tell it to people even though they'll never ever understand exactly what you're talking about.
 
Goll,

I know you have mixed feelings about NOT being present for your friend when he passed; but know that he probably will be better off without any more pain...

It's very commendable to recognize your friend here in JUB and offer this eulogy for him for ALL he did in his short life on Earth.

Try NOT to be too sad; but DO remember ALL the great things you two experienced as friends!(*8*)(*8*):kiss::kiss:
 
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