My Gay Guy Friend Doesnt Feel Comfortable seeing Magic Mike :(

[MissAnne]

He thinks that people will stare or perhaps say something rude about his sexuality. I feel horrible, but I can understand. Do any of the guys here feel the same ?

 

[subsonic]

Nooo..
It's just a movie. Besides, I don't think that any one would actually go up and say something nasty to someone at such public place as a cinema. I could be wrong of course, but it seems unlikely. Besides, he could have been your boyfriend or lost a bet or something. How would they know that he was gay? And, come on, that movie whole target audience is ladies, teenage girls and gay guys.

 

[G-Lexington]

I have no interest in seeing the movie. Not because I'd feel uncomfortable seeing it, but because it's not something I have any interest in seeing.

Lex

 

[MissAnne]

Nooo..
It's just a movie. Besides, I don't think that any one would actually go up and say something nasty to someone at such public place as a cinema. I could be wrong of course, but it seems unlikely. Besides, he could have been your boyfriend or lost a bet or something. How would they know that he was gay? And, come on, that movie whole target audience is ladies, teenage girls and gay guys.

I told him that it would be unlikely. But I cant guarantee that. Idk. He's self conscious

 

[subsonic]

I told him that it would be unlikely. But I cant guarantee that. Idk. He's self conscious

Couldn't you just hold hand on the way in and out of the theatre then? I've never heard of anyone saying anything to anyone after a trip to the cinema. And this comes from a guy who's seen SATC 1 + 2 and Twilight Eclipse at the premiere. People go to the cinema to have a nice time, not to bash people.

 

[MissAnne]

Couldn't you just hold hand on the way in and out of the theatre then? I've never heard of anyone saying anything to anyone after a trip to the cinema. And this comes from a guy who's seen SATC 1 + 2 and Twilight Eclipse at the premiere. People go to the cinema to have a nice time, not to bash people.

I suppose, I could tell him that..

 

[refujiunderground]

did someone actually compare seeing a movie about male strippers to sex in the city 1 and 2 and twlight as a guy? that's WAY different, breh. there's straight guys that watched the sex in the city tv show because they're attracted to the women on the show. i DON'T think you could imply someone's sexual orientation from those movies in comparison to something like magic mike. there's no straight guy that's going to go to see the movie magic mike UNLESS they're going with their girlfriend/wife. you might see a straight guy going with his lady friend or whatever BUT for the most part, there's no straight guy that's going to be there choosingly.

with that said, i completely understand his fear. is he out and is he afraid that other people will know that he's gay if they see him in the theater with you or is it because he's afraid of the prejudice that comes along with being gay? regardless, i completely sympathize with him because i too would like to see the movie but i'm afraid of the attention i might get from others being a man watching a movie about male strippers in a public movie theater.

 

[DigitalFudge]

Tell your friend this: Who will heckle you? Women? No. So men? Question, if you are being heckled by men... Why are they seeing it?



Enjoy the movie sis, I know I will


The only people that will know he is seeing it is the ticket-person (Which you can simply use your credit card at one of the machines) and the people that are also seeing it.



Tell him he's safe.

 

[Mr-Brooding]

there's straight guys that watched the sex in the city tv show because they're attracted to the women on the show.

I'm sorry, but I laughed at that comment. I can assure you 100000% that is false.

Anyway, there's no reason to push him into something he doesn't want to do. If he's uncomfortable, he can make his own decision. It wouldn't be fun for him if he's just sitting there worrying instead of watching the movie. However, if you can politely coerce him into going, I think it would be a great experience for the both of you. It may also teach him to loosen up about his sexuality. I hope he decides to go with you. If he doesn't, he'll probably be at home wishing he did.

 

[Stoowii]

I'm sorry, but I laughed at that comment. I can assure you 100000% that is false.

I agree. XD

I have no interest in seeing the movie. Not because I'd feel uncomfortable seeing it, but because it's not something I have any interest in seeing.

Lex

From what I have read on the reviews, it's not the freewheeling, fun-loving, male stripper extravaganza the trailers peddle.

 

[refujiunderground]

I'm sorry, but I laughed at that comment. I can assure you 100000% that is false.

Anyway, there's no reason to push him into something he doesn't want to do. If he's uncomfortable, he can make his own decision. It wouldn't be fun for him if he's just sitting there worrying instead of watching the movie. However, if you can politely coerce him into going, I think it would be a great experience for the both of you. It may also teach him to loosen up about his sexuality. I hope he decides to go with you. If he doesn't, he'll probably be at home wishing he did.

wanna bet? i know a couple of straight guys that have seen the show and know the characters. does it make them any less straight for watching sex in the city like if it would make you less gay for watching a show like the sopranos or the wire? you can say the same thing about magic mike even though there's supposedly topless scenes of women in there as well but that movie clearly isn't for straight dudes.

 

[jensu846]

I was nervous about seeing Brokeback Mountain with a girl friend of mine since i live in a smaller town, but then I figured who cares, its a movie. is your friend out? if not, then I understand his nerves, but if he's out, then tell him to chill and enjoy the flick with everyone else. that movie does look hot tho.

 

[subsonic]

did someone actually compare seeing a movie about male strippers to sex in the city 1 and 2 and twlight as a guy? that's WAY different, breh. there's straight guys that watched the sex in the city tv show because they're attracted to the women on the show. i DON'T think you could imply someone's sexual orientation from those movies in comparison to something like magic mike. there's no straight guy that's going to go to see the movie magic mike UNLESS they're going with their girlfriend/wife. you might see a straight guy going with his lady friend or whatever BUT for the most part, there's no straight guy that's going to be there choosingly.

Refuji, this will be the first time you and I have had direct/indirect contact. I've seen how you've twisted the words of others and now it's my turn to go through your twisting-machine I see.. But okay, I'll clarify for you what I meant with my comment.

1) I did NOT, repeat, NOT:

compare seeing a movie about male strippers to sex in the city 1 and 2 and twlight as a guy?

What I did say state was that I, as a gay man, have been to the cinema to watch both SATC 1 and 2 and Twilight, without having anyone coming up and saying anything to me, which was what the friend of the OP was fearing. So, I was simply just stating that this is very unlikely to happen.

2) I didn't imply that you could derive someone's sexuality based on a movie. In fact, I don't think you could imply someone's sexuality based on a movie at all, whether it being "Legally Blonde" or "Mean Girls". A movie is just a movie. It's all entertainment and hasn't necessarily any connection at all.

With that said, I have to disagree with you about the Magic Mike/Sex and the City thing. I think guys are a lot more likely to see "Magic Mike" than SATC, because of the simple fact that the movie is about men. And surely, straight men can relate more to straight men, than the ladies of SATC. Some men would be able to relate to some of the men in "Magic Mike", while others simply admire some of the guys' bodies/talent/whatever. That can't be done in SATC.

 

[refujiunderground]

Refuji, this will be the first time you and I have had direct/indirect contact. I've seen how you've twisted the words of others and now it's my turn to go through your twisting-machine I see.. But okay, I'll clarify for you what I meant with my comment.

1) I did NOT, repeat, NOT:
What I did say state was that I, as a gay man, have been to the cinema to watch both SATC 1 and 2 and Twilight, without having anyone coming up and saying anything to me, which was what the friend of the OP was fearing. So, I was simply just stating that this is very unlikely to happen.

2) I didn't imply that you could derive someone's sexuality based on a movie. In fact, I don't think you could imply someone's sexuality based on a movie at all, whether it being "Legally Blonde" or "Mean Girls". A movie is just a movie. It's all entertainment and hasn't necessarily any connection at all.

With that said, I have to disagree with you about the Magic Mike/Sex and the City thing. I think guys are a lot more likely to see "Magic Mike" than SATC, because of the simple fact that the movie is about men. And surely, straight men can relate more to straight men, than the ladies of SATC. Some men would be able to relate to some of the men in "Magic Mike", while others simply admire some of the guys' bodies/talent/whatever. That can't be done in SATC.

we're going to have to agree to disagree then. your experience at the movies doesn't mean that someone else will experience what you have experienced. i'm just saying, maybe the guy in question experienced something bad in the past relating to the movies. maybe that's why he feels the way to begin with. around some places, people aren't that tolerant towards sexual orientation. you never know.

 

[subsonic]

we're going to have to agree to disagree then. your experience at the movies doesn't mean that someone else will experience what you have experienced. i'm just saying, maybe the guy in question experienced something bad in the past relating to the movies. maybe that's why he feels the way to begin with. around some places, people aren't that tolerant towards sexual orientation. you never know.

I know all of this and I agree. That's why I specifically used the contraction "I've" to indicate that my statements were purely based on my own, personal experiences and nothing more.

 

[BFizzle]

He thinks that people will stare or perhaps say something rude about his sexuality. I feel horrible, but I can understand. Do any of the guys here feel the same ?

I kind of do, tbh. I'm from a small southern town, and even though I don't lie about or hide who I am, it can still be kind of overwhelming to put yourself out there. After reading some of the comments in this thread though, I think I'll go this weekend, just to clear a small hurdle.

 

[pat grimshaw]

Here are two quotes from IMDB about that Kevin Costner film called Rapa Nui.

I think a lot of guys are reluctant to see a movie that has naked or skimpy-dressed men in it. They don't want to let on to their friends that they want to see the movie, even if they are interested in the story, so they don't go. That's probably why the movie didn't do well at the box office. I know a kid who said Apocalypto was "gay" and I've heard Emerald Forest and Lord of the Flies called "queer movies" too.

American men get incredibly nervous at seeing male asses on screen. Homophobia or whatever, it just seems like American men's sphincters sieze up whenever a good looking male shows his naked butt on the screen. And there were a LOT of male butts on view here.

IMDb :: Boards :: Rapa Nui (1994) :: why is this movie considered so dull?

 

[Callum]

I saw it at an advanced screening and there were a lot of guys at it. Maybe 40%. Gay, perhaps...but I wouldn't feel uncomfortable buying a ticket for it due to the awesome reviews (100% on Rotten Tomatoes). Take a notepad and say you're a critic. It's a good film, actually has characters worth watching, and the eye candy is wonderful. The script is clever and the direction is top-notch.

(I personally don't see the appeal in Alex Pettyfer, but whatever.)

 

[star-warrior]

I see the advert on buses and have no idea what it is, except there is a half naked man amongst other men just staring out.

I don't think I'll be going to see it, just like Hunger Games and other films that played in the cinema recently.

 

[TickTockMan]

If i was your friend, i'd be making excuses not to go and see it, i couldn't bear to sit there, watching the likes of Tatum and Pettyfer stripping out of their kit, and me not being permitted to hold my cock! Honest lol

It would be hard.