My gay pal

[randomdude24]

I have a friend whom I've lost touch with over the years but every once in a while my mind wanders...

I'm a closeted bisexual and he's openly gay, and he's also the only person I ever admitted my bisexuality to (well if you don't count the 3 guys I've been with in my life, but you know what I mean), but that was years ago and I never brought up the subject again, as I was too afraid he'd tell any of our common friends. Not too long ago I chatted with him on a gay site, but as I didn't have a face shot on it he didn't know it was me. I thought about doing more than chatting, but decided against it.

Ever since I often get horny thinking about how sex with him would feel like. I think doing it with someone you know pretty well (or at least, someone you spent several years hanging out with) is a lot different than a random encounter with a stranger, and it makes me super hot just thinking about it.

However, he is a blabbermouth and I have no doubt he'd tell everyone if I went ahead and hooked up with him in any way (since I'm in the closet and with conservative friends and family, this is pretty much my biggest concern). I don't have a crush or anything, I never felt any romantic affection for guys in my life, but it's pure, sizzling lust for a cock of someone you know.

So, what would you do in my position?

 

[cinnamontea]

don't do it. lust makes you do things you'll regret later on.

 

[swerve]

I would recommend being honest with yourself AND others about your sexuality...

Then you can have ALL SORTS of FUN without worrying about "blabbing"...

jmo...

 

[star-warrior]

I too would caution against the sex with him, save yourself for someone better, don't throw away your first time to someone you don't really have any love for.

 

[randomdude24]

Thanks for the advice. And yes, if I were out of the closet this wouldn't even be an issue, but as it is unfortunately...

Oh and it wouldn't be my first time. Done it lots of times with girls and three times with guys. I'm by no means a Casanova, but at least this wouldn't be a concern.

But yes, your advice basically goes into the same direction I was pretty much sure on following - which is don't do anything. I just needed some reaffirming, and it helped a lot. Hopefully I don't change my mind the next time hormones take over of course...

 

[funnshtuph]

i would go so far as to say try not to chat with him much at all at least not without telling him who you are.
he probably wouldn't think you were a stalker or anything, but that trust would still be gone for good

 

[Reality101]

I say go for it. Why not? Because you want to stay in the closet? Do you REALLY want to stay in the closet? That's a legitimate question. If you do and you don't want to risk messing around with a guy who will tell people then don't do it. But the fact that you are teeter tottering on whether or not to mess around with him tells me that maybe just maybe you want out of the closet. I could be wrong though.

Go for it. Life is short. This "blabbing" might be just what you need. Take the risk and swallow the consequences. That's my advice.