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My last night.

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So my BF is finally going to be totally moved in tomorrow.

This is my last night as a single man. I usually come home from work, walk and feed my dogs, pour myself a Crown Royal and have a cigarette and read a book, listen to come music and maybe post on JUB.

This weekend I'll have a TV and a new permanant resident.

It'll be interesting to see how my life changes...
 
I thought this was your dramatic "I'm leaving and never coming back and you're going to miss me I'll make an account tomorrow to make sure" thread.

Goodluck with everything :)​
 
Good luck Jasun!

May I offer some suggestions?

Remember you MUST give and take in this relationship........like you did in your other long term relationship...

So, when he comes in viewing TV and you don't want to watch, you and Halford go and read a book or some other activity.....

Seriously, arguing over the little stuff like NOT squeezing the toothpaste tube or some other crap, is NOT worthy of arguing.......

Remember, communication, communication, communication!!!

Going to bed mad is a NO-NO, always make-up, kiss, make love or something before going to bed....Do NOT go to bed angry.....

Best of luck!(*8*) (*8*) :kiss: :kiss:
 
Soilwork said:
It'll be interesting to see how my life changes...
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Gawd, I dunno, J....

Seems to me that your life has already changed quite a bit in the....I dunno, how long has it been that we've been sniping at each other ? Three or four years or so.....

I applaud the BF moving in....But, TV is just gonna piss you off, and I suspect you'll have little tolerance for the mind-numbing idiocy that passes for entertainment, these days.

Has your bro found his own place ?
 
not yet. he was staying with a friend but he's just staying with his new boyfriend for a couple weeks until he finds the right place.



anyway.. I noticed to night that I have more rituals than I knew... I light a cedar candle in my bedroom every night when I get home so it smells nice in my bedroom when I go to bed and I turn on the orange lava lamp so when I go to bed it's glowing brightly.

I light candles in my bathroom and hallway so there's no other lights on, and I light lots of candles all over my apartment.

I make a pot of tea to steep while I'm eating dinner... it's all thes little things.

He's been around for all of them before, of course.. he's stayed the night.. but you know.. it's just going to be different now that he'll ALWAYS be here for them.

Oh well.. it's a rather large apartment and two people still have plenty of space..
 
Well advice from someone who has spent the greatest part of his life living alone doesn't really seem appropriate but here goes.

You will probably find the initial invasion of your space and routine/rituals extremely annoying and even stressful. You will have to adapt and try to be aware which ones annoy him, those he is ready to share with you and those which he can't stand at all.

Slowly you will probably build up new shared ones, those initiated mutally and developed with real understanding between you.

Patience and understanding are the key words.

By the way never forget that he is moving into your space and subsequently giving up his rituals and will be trying to adapt to yours.

But it is all part of the adventure and some small sacrifices suddenly become inconsequential and in fact a pleasure to make in that they prove that loving someone is more important than lighting a scented candle before you go to bed.
 
Best of luck to you both. Three words for you both.
Patience, Compromise and Love.
 
I hope he doesn't like American Idol.

It'll be a short relationship if he does. :)
 
Since you are going into this with your eyes wide open, and you have done it before, I'm sure it will be great.

Will you be sharing the Crown Royal?
 
Jasun,
That's great news. It's always fun and exciting to have a new beginning. You sound like you have a really warm and romantic side. Best of luck to you both.
 
Hey! That's great! Nothing like sharing your life with someone you love. All the best to you, man!
 
good luck buddy , i am so happy for you. And dont worry about the things you do , im sure he has his own things he does as well that he will bring along with him
 
Good luck Jason.. and don't worry, everyone has their own quirks
 
Good luck Jasun. I wish you guys much happiness! ..|
 
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