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My little bro has started using the 'gay' word...

vadersapprentice

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This may seem relatively minor compared to the other dire situations on this forum--- but I wanted to hear everyone's suggestions on how to handle this little issue.

My little brother is about 10 years old and I was watching him for my folks the other day. We were having a conversation about his favorite tv shows or something of the like and I asked "so do you like power rangers? that was my favorite show when I was your age."

He replies with "No, power rangers is SO gay."

woah.

Now understand that I am not typically offended by people saying 'thats so gay', i understand why some people do, but personally it doesn't get me all rialed up. But... for some reason my little brother saying it threw me for a loop. Perhaps its because I know my friends who say 'that is so gay' aren't homophobic or intend to offend.

but i am worried about what my little bro is learning from his friends at school... how do explain to a ten year old that could be potentially offensive to a large group of people?

mind you, im not out to that side of my family, my dad and step mom don't know and it is their son.

what to do, what to do...:confused:
 
Be a teacher and correct him.
 
"You know, I know several gay people (which you do), and it's not cool to use the word 'gay' like that. Could you find another word to use instead?"

Lex
 
does he know you're gay? even at ten i'm sure if you told him, he would be able to comprehend how offensive and hurtful saying something like that to some is. or at least how deep it hurts you. and if he doesn't... well explain it to him. maybe then he can set an example to his friends.

i was taught to never ostracize anyone for anything they cannot help. i.e. black people, jews, overweight people, the financially unfortunate. we are all human, nothing less, nothing more. tell him that it is NOT okay to make fun of people, especially a group of people who are already told and shown everyday by their country, government, every major organized religion and society that they are second-class citizens who do not deserve the rights and privileges that everyone else is entitled to.

he's your brother, and you're his. he will love you no matter what. stress it to him how much it hurts you. even if it doesn't that much.
 
Ask him what it means. He probably won't be able to tell you.

Children use these words out of mimickry.

Explain why it's not a good word to use to call something "lame" or "stupid". Don't let him know that it's a personally offensive word to you but that it's just a word that's not cool to use. And all 10 year olds want to be cool.
 
KaraBulut said:
Ask him what it means. He probably won't be able to tell you.

Children use these words out of mimickry.

Explain why it's not a good word to use to call something "lame" or "stupid". Don't let him know that it's a personally offensive word to you but that it's just a word that's not cool to use. And all 10 year olds want to be cool.
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Definitely agree with this. When my younger cousin started using "gay" in his sentences he'd use it to mean "stupid." But when my other younger cousin told him that "gay" is when two people of the same sex like each other, the first cousin was in utter disbelief. lol
 
He's your brother, which means he's one of the only few people you can beat up right?

Bitch slap him. Tell him using that word in any negative context offends you.

Just use the back of your hand. You'll be asserting your masculinity. That way he'll know saying that isn't good AND a queer is still capable of beating him up.

Two birds, one stone! You're welcome. :)

Btw, I'm only half serious haha.
 
well did you say anything when he said it?

you should have said, watch your language at least.

It shouldn't throw you off, you should explain why using the word gay in that way is disrespectful, just like anything else he might say is disrespectful.

If he laughs at you, torture him like every brother is supposed to.
 
Terps, thats pretty damn funny....probably won't get the point across that i intend, however.

I did ask him where he heard it. He told me from friends at school and I sorta nonchalantly told him that he shouldn't use that word.

I could start off explaining to him that there are better words to express his disinterest or dislike of certain things... and that 'gay' isn't a word that one should use to express dislike.

My only fear is that Dad will become suspicious-- after all, why should his 'straight' son ever care about how his little brother is throwing around the word 'gay' as a derogatory statement.
 
vadersapprentice said:
My only fear is that Dad will become suspicious-- after all, why should his 'straight' son ever care about how his little brother is throwing around the word 'gay' as a derogatory statement.
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Get over it.

You're doing your brother and your dad a favor by telling your brother how to behave like a civilized human being when he's in public.
 
KaraBulut said:
Get over it.
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easy for you to say-- but i understand your intention. My family is very southern and very religious...so im not doing anyone a favor exept myself. That favor being instantaneously putting myself in an uncomfortable position that I'm not ready to deal with.

But I don't mind talking to my brother one on one, which is what I'll end up doing.
 
tbh it's a phrase which is heard in every school in England and probably America. I've used it, my friends used it. It's something that you grow out of but he'll still use it infront of his mates, it's not particually aimed at offending people anyways.
 
Since your brother is 10, you could just keep the conversation to "You shouldn't say that, it's not nice" or that general topic. At his age, he is likely just repeating something his friends say who heard it from their older siblings, etc., but you definitely need to stop it now.
 
I think you should correct your brother.

But realize this will certainly raise suspicions in your family. Undoubtedly.

That's the price you pay for being closeted. It doesn't come without cost.
 
^ Hey Booboo.

I think you may have made my point.

BTW Do you have any idea how hard it was to get the White Power Ranger the Christmas it was hot?
 
vadersapprentice said:
He replies with "No, power rangers is SO gay."
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rareboy said:
But he's right, you know.
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-Noiro said:
No they aren't!

I worshipped the power rangers. I was all over that show.

the actor who played Trini the yellow ranger died. The others have had boring lives except for pink and blue. And let's not forget about the red power ranger
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Maybe they should come with a warning label, "Use of this product may turn you gay?"
 
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