The Original Gay Porn Community - Free Gay Movies and Photos, Gay Porn Site Reviews and Adult Gay Forums

  • Welcome To Just Us Boys - The World's Largest Gay Message Board Community

    In order to comply with recent US Supreme Court rulings regarding adult content, we will be making changes in the future to require that you log into your account to view adult content on the site.
    If you do not have an account, please register.
    REGISTER HERE - 100% FREE / We Will Never Sell Your Info

    To register, turn off your VPN; you can re-enable the VPN after registration. You must maintain an active email address on your account: disposable email addresses cannot be used to register.

  • Hi Guest - Did you know?
    Hot Topics is a Safe for Work (SFW) forum.

my little sister came out to me....

JASON0980

JASON0980

here i am
Joined
Jan 7, 2007
Posts
2,950
Reaction score
0
Points
0
Location
Woodstock
Website
nathanieleverhart.web.officelive.com
ok. my younger sister told me last night that she is a lesbian. i have to admit i am scared to death for her. she is so young. and the road is going to be so hard. i have always been afraid that my younger siblings may turnout gay. i know that sounds really bad. i just can't help but remember how hard the road to where i am was. and i don't want that for them.

i am glad she came to me with this. but i am really bad at being gay. i know nothing about gay culture. i am compleatly in the dark sometimes. (ok a lot of times) what if i screw up? what if i end up ruining her? what if i end up fucking her up really bad? i have always looked at her as my responsibility, but now i think i almost know what it is like to be a parent. i am petrified, and i am trying really hard not to show it. i want her to know that this is a tuff road, but i want her to walk into it with courage. i don't want her to fall apart the first time some one tells her she is going to burn in hell for it. i don't want her to worry about what other people think.

i think i can do this. the problem is i have to know i can do this. i am so proud of her. for having the courage to tell me about it i know it was hard for her. it was the first step in a very long journey.
 
Just ve there for her. You don't have to 'be' anything. She'll deal with anything that comes her way and if she can't, she can know she can tell you.
 
Well, look at it this way. You've been walking the path so you have a unique perspective. When it comes time to discuss these issues with her, think back on that unique perspective. I'm pretty sure if you give it some reflection you will see that you have what it takes to help her through it all. You'll be fine! The both of you will.
 
Yes, her road may be a hard one to travel, but at least she has you by her side. I bet you didn't have that! Be grateful that she came to you for support. You might not always have the answers she needs, but just being her brother is more than most have.
 
My heart goes out to you! I know what a hard responsibility it is to take on raising your sister! Then to have this on top of it! But as usual the Jubber's give great advice! Just be there for her. Back her up. Talk with her, not at her, when and if she needs to! She is very lucky to have a wonderful brother!! You'll do fine! You have done well, so far!
 
gmoney said:
Yes, her road may be a hard one to travel, but at least she has you by her side. .
Click to expand...

^exactly^

And in the end, all we really have in this world of ours is each other, Jason.

Don't for one second forget how important it is to her that you are in her life.
I'm sure it took a lot of guts and deep breaths for her to come out to you, and being by her side makes that road a much smoother experience.

Golly, you don't have all the answers :rolleyes: Guess what, NONE of us do, babe,
it's a day at a time. And also, don't forget that that 'hard road' is a two way street as well. It may not seem like it at the moment, but I suspect there will come a day that she is there for YOU as well.

This is a good thing, this is how it is...this is family.
 
Is all the drama really necessary? Seems to me that being gay (or lesbian) is perfectly ordinary and no big deal. By treating it as something devastating you help create what you fear.
 
spreadeagle said:
Is all the drama really necessary? Seems to me that being gay (or lesbian) is perfectly ordinary and no big deal. By treating it as something devastating you help create what you fear.
Click to expand...



actually i am happy that she knows who she is. i am not afraid of her being gay. i am afraid of the way people will hurt her because of it. my family is less than supportive of my lifestyle and neither is the community we live in. so even though you may think that it is no big deal, and even though i would love for it to be nothing, it is something that is going to make her life harder. and looking at this child that i have watched grow, who's diapers i changed, i have always been afraid that life would not be kind to her.

now i look at her and i know the path that she is going to have to walk. and to be honest i wish i could do it for her. i wish that i could shield her from all of the things that the world is going to do to her.

that is why it is a big deal. not because she is gay, but because of the pain that is going to cause her. pain that every gay person knows on one level or another.
 
JASON0980 said:
ok. my younger sister told me last night that she is a lesbian. i have to admit i am scared to death for her. she is so young. and the road is going to be so hard. i have always been afraid that my younger siblings may turnout gay. i know that sounds really bad. i just can't help but remember how hard the road to where i am was. and i don't want that for them.

i am glad she came to me with this. but i am really bad at being gay. i know nothing about gay culture. i am compleatly in the dark sometimes. (ok a lot of times) what if i screw up? what if i end up ruining her? what if i end up fucking her up really bad? i have always looked at her as my responsibility, but now i think i almost know what it is like to be a parent. i am petrified, and i am trying really hard not to show it. i want her to know that this is a tuff road, but i want her to walk into it with courage. i don't want her to fall apart the first time some one tells her she is going to burn in hell for it. i don't want her to worry about what other people think.

i think i can do this. the problem is i have to know i can do this. i am so proud of her. for having the courage to tell me about it i know it was hard for her. it was the first step in a very long journey.
Click to expand...

You don't have to be 'good' at being gay to be a good mentor. If you love her -- and it's apparent that you do -- you'll watch after her, and everything will fall into place. Just knowing that you support her will be all the help she needs in getting through it. Just think back to when you were younger, and how much help a shoulder to cry on would've been (if you didn't have one). You can be that to her.
 
I agree with those that post that the best thing you can do is just be there for her, emotionally and spritually.

She, like you, will seek out her education through the internet, and other lesbians. Not really anything you can "teach" her, she will find out on her own.

Just let her know how much you love her, and worry about her.
 
I agree with everyone else. You need to be there for her, if I had a little brother or little sister that came out to me I would be there for them more than anyone else in the world.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top