My mate wants a bj

[Quality Street]

Right, just to get some things out of the way. I consider myself bi and have fooled around with some guys in the past. This guy is one of my best friends and I've known him for about 9 years. We're both 20. The other day, we were chatting online and out of the blue he asked me if I wanted a blowjob over the xmas hols. I should probably point out, something similar happened like a year before but he quickly decided against it because he had a girlfriend...

Well, now he says his girlfriend is ok about it, and he wants to practice his bi side a bit. He said he hasn't previously done anything with guys but wants to give and receive bjs with me...

so basically, obviously, i would love to. He's always been kinda hot, but i just don't want to ruin our friendship and have it go all awkward afterwards where we both end up being ashamed and just stop talking

 

[BiBlackMan]

It will change your friendship forever. It's not a good idea.

 

[CGHJ]

I've fooled around with buds, and it always made us much better friends. Some of the tightest friends I have are ones I've played around with. Go for it and enjoy!

 

[2untru]

it could go either way.
not doing it when you both want too could also make it awkward, so enjoy the fact that your friend feels comfortable doing this with you and trusts you.

 

[Quality Street]

thanks for the advice

 

[HunterM]

You both are sexually attracted to each other. GO FOR IT! It will bring you closer together...literally and emotionally.

 

[RaZrBlayde]

uhm i have to say go for it. over the past 2 years me and my other straight friend have been experimenting with each other (only to the extent of blow jobs) and ive never been closer to a person in my life. yet you need to be careful because you dont want to get feelings for this guy because it could screw up your friendship.

im just talking from experience because i have feelings for him now. it kind of sucks. :/. but do what you think is right but make sure to specify it is only a friendship thing, nothing more.

 

[rysmiley88]

I will post my 2 cents. I have posted about this before. If you feel it won't affect your friendship, go for it. I have a friend who was curious about a BJ from a guy. I obliged, we had a great time, and he returned the favor, and we left it at that. We would occasionally bring it up casually, and make light of it, but we didn't have a repeat performance. It just made sense to acknowledge the experience, and the fun we had, and leave it there. I hope my post helps..

 

[rysmiley88]

I will post my 2 cents. I have posted about this before. If you feel it won't affect your friendship, go for it. I have a friend who was curious about a BJ from a guy. I obliged, we had a great time, and he returned the favor, and we left it at that. We would occasionally bring it up casually, and make light of it, but we didn't have a repeat performance. It just made sense to acknowledge the experience, and the fun we had, and leave it there. I hope my post helps..

 

[strangepoetry]

I've been in this situation a number of times and the best advice I can offer is to do it and have fun but remember that straight guys don't make an emotional connection during gay sex so you shouldn't either. Emotional attachment will screw with the friendship. If you keep your cool and maintain the same level of "Bromance" afterward without suddenly bombarding him with puppy-love eyes and energy, I've found that a lot of straight guys will want to continue fooling around/hooking-up randomly.

 

[Quality Street]

Haha remote I'm sure he'll know some basics.

The guy actually claims he is bi, and also did say in the conversation that it may lead to something more regular (bj buddy?) I don't think feelings will play a huge part. He's not really my type. I think he's not bad looking but I don't see myself falling in love or becoming all obsessive over him.

Also, although we've been friends for ages, we don't meet up lots or anything like that, I have many closer friends. In conclusion, I think I'm gonna go for it. I'll post here how it goes as well as in my story section. Cheers for all of the good advice as per usual.

 

[pasacon]

My girlfriend/wife/boyfriend/husband is okay with it really means I'm cheating on my girlfriend/wife/boyfriend/husband with you, but what they don't know won't hurt them.

Unless it comes straight from the horse's mouth, don't trust what someone in a relationship says their significant other is okay with.

 

[BIMICHAEL4FUN]

I would go for it...your friend initiated this. I think it would be different if you were the one pushing for it. I've been in this situation before and our friendship was not affected. However, the first time we got together to fulfill my friend's fantasy, he backed out at the last minute. But, a couple of weeks later, he suggested it again and went through with it. I had several repeat sessions with this guy after that, but always let him be the one suggesting it.

My only suggestion is that if he backs out, be understanding and do not appear to be disappointed. Just let him know that you are available if he ever changes his mind.

 

[The White Stripe]

You're better off trying to find someone else to suck your dick dude.

I know you will most likely end up doing it either way, but I doubt things will be the same after you guys fool around and I doubt your friendship will ever blossum into more....

It will most likely end up being ruined or at the very least, damaged.

If you're just horny it might work, but I wouldn't be able to do it. I believe sex to be a deep experience and I have always connected sex to love. I can't imagine having sex with someone who I didn't have a deep personal love for.

Thats just me...

 

[conrad]

For what it may be worth to you, I can tell you from my own happy journey into the fullness of my sexuality, which included three long term sexual relationships with males, that sex that happens between two persons who have bonded in deep friendship and reach the point where they find it right to express their affection sexually find that such sex seems right and natural because in fact it confirms the bond that exists between those two persons.

You are the one who decides the status of your relationship. Personally, I don't think I could ever bond to the point ofd sex with someone who is in a sexual relationship with another person, man or woman. But, I do not judge.


Some bisexual married men believe they should not deprive themselves of sexual intimacy on that other side of their sexuality.. To me that is a recipe for trouble..

I wish you success in finding your way in this matter.

 

[swerve]

This is a NO BRAINER!!

DEFINITELY DO IT!!!

If you DON'T -- you'll live your life in REGRET!!!

HAVE FUN!!!

 

[Quality Street]

Thing is, we're close friends in the fact that we've known eachother so long, but we're not as close now due to us both going to different universities.

Also, unlike you white stripe, for me at the moment, sex is just another thing. I know I may get judged for that, but it's how i feel inside. Be it with a guy or a girl, it's just a bit of fun for now. Of course, that viewpoint will change eventually but it's just my mindset at this present moment in time.

 

[swerve]

That's how your MINDSET SHOULD remain...

NEVER over-think it...

 

[The White Stripe]

That's how your MINDSET SHOULD remain...

NEVER over-think it...

You shouldn’t encourage others to be reckless and careless Swerve…

Sex is fun yes, and I understand this guy is just looking for a good time but it isn’t something you should take lightly either…

Especially considering it is someone he knows very well. You shouldn't give advice like that.

 

[Krakenbwool]

This is a NO BRAINER!!

DEFINITELY DO IT!!!

If you DON'T -- you'll live your life in REGRET!!!

HAVE FUN!!!

Since you're the only "gay" guy who replied on this thread, I'm not sure that you'd really understand the mindset of most bi or curious guys who go into the situation. It's not just "oohh, let's get the hawt str8" guy. There's a whole plethora of other emotions and complications that go with it.