My Messed up Story!

[rossignols]

Hello Everyone!

First of all, I grew up in a really small town (pop. of 500) and it is a very religious town. Everyone here is anti-gay, anti-abortion and everyone knows everything about everyone! I am gay, and closeted. I have been playing the role of a straight guy for a really long time. I finished my schooling there and I am now attending University in Winnipeg Manitoba.

I have never been with a man(Not by choice!).. I havent even been kissed .
I have a lot of friends in the city, we go out all the time to bars and stuff (never to the gay ones) and its a good time. But i am missing out on the getting with men!
It is not that I am ugly, or shy really, its just that I do Not have a clue how to approach this situation. I am contemplating whether i should tell my really good friend about me being gay, but I do not think I am emotionally ready for that big step. I also dont want to go to a gay bar by myself (mainly because im a country boy and this bar is in a bad part of the city, so Im a bit afraid haha)..

heres when things got confusing for me...

I just recently found out that there is a bath House in the city. I had to look up what a bath house was actually haha.. And I did quite a bit of reading about it and I am very aroused by it. I am very willing to go, its just that I have NO expericence what so ever when it comes to being with a man. I wouldnt have the slightest Idea of how to approach a complete stranger.
I dont even know how to suck cock (I want to soooo bad)
Would it be a good idea to go to a bath House???
I dont really know what else to do.... I just really want to be with someone for the first time.. I am 19 and I havent been with a man (ive been with a couple girls just to make people believe that i am "straight").

What SHould I do guys? I know you guys are really good for advice and I thank you all in advance!

P.S. the link to the bath house is... http://geocities.com/adonisspa/

Thanks

 

[WYSIWYG]

We are start someplace mate. We all had to take that first step to meet and be with a man.

Since the gay bar is in a bad part of town and you do not want to go alone, i would suggest you not go there.

You seem more than willing to go to that bath house. (Link does not work, however). I would say go to the bath house. You don't have to approach any man if you do not want to. Go a few times and get comfortable. I am sure someone will approach you. you can decide to chat with him and do more if you want to. You don't feel comfortable with that person for some reason just say your not interested. You will meet someone there where the chemistry between you will 'feel right'. Don't worry that you have never done anything...and sucking cock will be easy, it is actually a natural thing to do.

Go relax, explore....life is too short not to.

 

[youngnihilist]

Are you attracted to older men first of all? because the bathhouse aint going to be a bunch of nice college guys. it'll be men of all ages, sizes, levels of aggression, etc.

since you're young, innocent you'll be fresh meat and bait and probably easy prey since you're so desperate for any male contact.

if you do go and have preferences, dont be afraid to stand up for them.

BETTER yet, you're in a public university. there have to be gay guys there, maybe a gay group?

 

[billybob109]

i think you need to move a city like new york where there are millions of people and alot of people are like yourself

 

[grady26]

Every guy has to go through his "first time," and I can understang your anxiety.

As far as never sucking a guy off, check out the available vids in JUB's movie section. You will find lots of visuals that may help you out.

This may be too personal a question, but do you ever taste your own pre or final load when you are wanking? If not, I think you should so you will have an idea of what you may taste when you do down a your first guy.

Best of luck to ya! Most of us guys in JUB have been in your shoes. Hopefully your first guy will be willing to reciprocate for that first experience.

 

[rareboy]

I would suggest searching out what is available on campus first, even though I didn't when I was a kitten. In your case though, I get the sense that it may be seeking anonymity that is part of the attraction.

Go to the bathhouse. You don't have to do anything you don't want, but you'll at least know if it is the type of scene you're looking for. I can pretty much guarantee that you'll be in demand. When you select the guy, tell him you are inexperienced. If he's into virgins, he'll come on the spot and if he isn't necessarily, he'll probably treat you really nicely.

Play safe. Have fun. Some of the hottest sex you'll ever can be had at the baths.

 

[rossignols]

Wow, I knew I could count on you guys for some awesome advice!
I think I will try the bath house (only after exams).

Young- I actually am attracted to older men, I find older men much more of a turn on then men my age (Not even sure why).

Anyway, Thank you guys so much once again! If you have something else to say, feel free to post!

 

[megustamyn]

You may have already seen this website, http://www.gaywinnipeg.ca/index.php, a resource page for the gay community in the Winnipeg area. Among other things, it has a message board/forum where you can connect with gay people and organizations. There is also a gay center at http://www.rainbowresourcecentre.org. My own experience is that community centers are among the best places for meeting people because you get together around common interests rather than just the pressure of ‘meeting someone’.

 

[Invidious]

Best thing to remember is to never do anything that you don't want to or feel comfortable doing. Never let a man force you into anything.

 

[rossignols]

Thanks a lot once again guys!

 

[tallguy297]

Best thing to remember is to never do anything that you don't want to or feel comfortable doing. Never let a man force you into anything.

And even more than that mate...please remember to be safe. Its an awful stereotype but these places are usually for guys who want sex and nothing more which is fine, but remember that means lots of partners. It can be harder to be "organised" too so just make sure you are prepared...

Most of all mate... have a good time. Relax and enjoy yourself and your journey!