My mom told me that she cannot accept me

[aijalon18]

^No i agree there are some things parents can do that completely crosses all lines. I just disagree with the idea that parents have no right to be upset and should be fine with it instantly.

It's like a kid throwing a temper tantrum and saying "I hate you!" to their parents. In this situation the parents become the bratty child and you have to realize they do love you and ignore the mean things instead of focusing on how they are hurting your feelings.

Too many gay people throw away their relationships with their parents b/c their parents said mean, awful things when they first came out. It is a hard situation but it is something you as the gay child are gonna have to work a little bit harder for.

 

[saymyname]

Parents who find out their child is gay have the right to throw a bit of tantrum and not be thrilled about it.

What the fuck. You basically just said "Homophobia is okay." Pray tell, why, oh wise one?

 

[mbamike]

Just give her some time to contemplate the idea of you being gay. Until then, go on with your life.

 

[hylas]

I just disagree with the idea that parents have no right to be upset and should be fine with it instantly.

i thought i was being clear, but appearantly not: im not saying that a parent has to be "fine with it instantly" - i dont think anybody here is. but there is a lot of room between being "fine with it instantly" and doing something as drastic as demanding the housekeys back. throw a tantrum, if thats what you need to do (my mom did, and we have a great relationship now), but you dont throw your child out of your home without having to deal with the consequences of your actions.

besides, just because lucas cuts his undeserving, hateful, asshole parents out of his life (which is what i think he should do) doesnt mean that their relationship is lost forever. nothing keeps the parents to come back with an apology and ask for forgiveness once they realize what they did.

 

[rareboy]

nothing keeps the parents to come back with an apology and ask for forgiveness once they realize what they did.

Only ignorance or pride.

But I can tell you that if my parents had pulled this stunt, in our family, it would be 7 years before forgiveness. Seriously.

 

[aijalon18]

i thought i was being clear, but appearantly not: im not saying that a parent has to be "fine with it instantly" - i dont think anybody here is. but there is a lot of room between being "fine with it instantly" and doing something as drastic as demanding the housekeys back. throw a tantrum, if thats what you need to do (my mom did, and we have a great relationship now), but you dont throw your child out of your home without having to deal with the consequences of your actions.

besides, just because lucas cuts his undeserving, hateful, asshole parents out of his life (which is what i think he should do) doesnt mean that their relationship is lost forever. nothing keeps the parents to come back with an apology and ask for forgiveness once they realize what they did.

Hey be easy. I didnt mean you specifically. The up arrow was a mistake.It was just a lot of people were being so gung ho that if a parents is upset you, you need them out of your life. But I think people need their parents more than they realize and should try everything they can, while not compromising who they are, to maintain that bond. But yes throwing your child on the street isnt right at all.

 

[lucasss]

Hey be easy. I didnt mean you specifically. The up arrow was a mistake.It was just a lot of people were being so gung ho that if a parents is upset you, you need them out of your life. But I think people need their parents more than they realize and should try everything they can, while not compromising who they are, to maintain that bond. But yes throwing your child on the street isnt right at all.

thank you for this.

 

[syoBsUtsuJ]

I'm from a devoutly Catholic family, and my mom still fervently prays for "grace." I came out to her, my family, and friends as being bi when I was 17 and gay at 22. I'm soon to be 27, and she is still successfully deluding herself into believing that I am merely just going through a phase.

I feel it is infinitely better to be honest, and just let her deal with her own issues in her own time; it's not like you made a conscious decision to be gay just to hurt her.

 

[Deandbn]

I think it's time you stand up to your parents and tell them to wake up and smell the roses sometime.

Tell them to grow up and get real, ask them if they are going to be delusional all their lives.

Tell them that one day maybe you will forgive them for being so disinterested in you that they did'nt notice your sexual preference for all these years and that you may let them back into your social circle if they're really good and behave themselves properly over the next couple of months.

 

[lucasss]

so i left with my dog. i've had him for 4 years, tho my parents had been watching him for the past year and a half.
went home after work on sunday to get his cage and the rest of his things.

i got out of the car and my parents (mid-drunk) outside say 'hello did you change your mind?'

i dont say anything. go inside. get the dogs stuff. and bring it out to my car... its a extra large dog sized cage.. heavy..

my mom comes inside and says, oh i guess we dont have anything to talk about, and starts doing the dishes..

so i put it in my car, my dad is saying how i'm just confused, i'm not gay. i'm not a "pee pee puffer". and to get over it.

i tell him to fuck off you fucking drunk. piece of shit asshole. your fucked you stupid drunk fuck, i hope your happy when your wife leaves you.

and drive away.

have not spoken with them. my sister is on my side with all of this and is not going to speak or see them either. i don't even want anything to do with them anymore.

they are going to realize quick when there children and the dog they love are gone