My Mom's Views on Gays... what should I do?

[GL]

if your mom is anything like my mom then i'm pretty sure the reason it would kill her is the thought of you not having a wife and kids one day... the idea that her son is gonna be judged and discriminated against for who he sleeps with and not for who he is.. and the whole promiscuity and aids problem in the gay community

From my own experience I am willing to bet that this is the reason why your mom is sending mixed signals. I think most good parents look at their children and besides hoping that they do well in life, they want to see them living that "married" life. Complete with a nice house and kids. Granted, you can still have that only it will not be as she envisioned it.

 

[Nonimus]

I think, it's fairly common to have that feeling, "i'm ok with gays as long as it's not my son". But I also feel that if a gay guy has other straight brothers that it would be much easier for the mom to accept it since one reason why a mom may feel this way is the idea of having grandchildren of her own is what she anticipates in the future, so it might be harder for only child cases.

This was my Father's attitude - He was dissapointed not because i was gay, but because he wanted grandkids - and there's nothing wrong with that, its only natural - however, when both my brother and sister popped out a few kids, his attitude changed and basically said that he's totally happy with me being gay now, nothing do with sucking cock - but because he has grandchildren.

His concern now is that i'm not gonna have anyone to look after me when i'm old and when he's 'gone'.

Parents can be concerned/scared/distressed over the gay issue, not just coz their son wants cock - but because of the whole 'uncertainy' of gay-life.