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My penis isn't sensitive enough anymore

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Hey,

I'm 19 and have only recently become sexually active with a guy I like very much. We really enjoy laying in bed giving hand jobs and blow jobs, but I take FOREVER. It still feels good but not as good as it should. I think its because I used to masturbate SO much when I was younger. I was wondering if there is anything I can do to make my penis more sensitive again because it is almost impossible to get me to cum with a blow job or hand job. Thanks to anyone with advice.
 
Can you still achieve the desired results when you masturbate yourself? If so I would suggest that the problem isn't in the penis but in the head.
Being even subconsciously nervous can have all sorts of effects on the physical aspects of sex - you lie there, you want it, you really want to do it and yet something always goes wrong. It's kind of a cycle which will go on for as long as you try for it to stop. Take it easy, relax, don't worry if it doesn't work just now and most importantly talk it over with your guy. If he understands what's happening, and has the patience then your penis will start to respond justthe way you want in no time at all.
While you're thinking "I must cum, I must cum, I must cum.....don't take ages, don't take ages..." all your energy is being channeled to your worry rather than just enjoying being together.
 
Nantha is correct. Sex has to be practiced. When you are comfortable with the guy you are with, this is easy. As you focus more on him, you'll probably find your own situation improves.
 
"but I take FOREVER." ...so do I. Great isn't it?

I'm not one of the 'Wham bam thank you ma'am' brigade .. I like to take time with my partner. Enjoy the time, enjoy the body, enjoy the experience... it is not a race!

A massage , a cuddle, a role play, a variation, sex toys, just allow yourself to BE with you partner.

Eat food off of his body, tie each other up, play games, Kiss, smile, enjoy.

Sex shouldn't be an Olympic event... there is no scoring of points, it is not a contest.

It is Love and enjoying being with each other. erection or not. Cumming or not... If that happens it is a bonus... not the end game.

Talk to each other.. what do you like or not like doing....What is your fantasy? What is your turn on? What is your turn off?

Having 8 hours of sex is truly an amazing thing.
 
8 f'n hours? I'd get so, dare i say it, bored! 2 hours at most...
 
...and love of course.
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cbtfan, I envy you. What you have is something I will never experience.
7incher, it is something that you may have - savour it, enjoy, relax and just realise how lucky you are.
 
As long as you can end with the desired result, lay back and enjoy. As cbtfan said, it's not a contest.
 
My bf has an unusual penis, it bends down instead of to the side, or upwards. He also gets more than rock hard...harder than with anyone else I have ever been with! He always takes forever to cum! My lips get sour and my arm hurts. He always says he is sorry for taking so long. I tell him not to worry but relax and enjoy! Sometimes he cums sooner when he is relaxed.

Since I am 32 years his senior, I had mental problems when we first me.. I was afraid I would not be able to 'perform' well enough for him. I am on blood pressure meds, and I can't get hard! Over time, we have found ways to make me harder. We have found other ways to stimulate one another and enjoy one another. Through all this experimenting we have found that there is more to love and a relationship than just sex!! An hour or 2 of foreplay is wonderful for the both of us...especially when we both come home from work to relax! Foreplay before dinner makes us both hungry !!!

As I agree with others here, enjoy, relax, and as you get used to one another, it will change for you. Do not worry about it!
 
I've read that using a fleshlight and staying away from the death grip you can re-condition your penis to respond to different sensations. At least that what I read on the fleshlight wedsite forum.
 
If you cannot get off when you receive a hand/head-job than I suggest you start giving one :)
I mean it's all about your emotional mindset
 
enjoy it, dont be in such a hurry, I would think it would be better if it takes longer, more closeness with your partner.

Keep off the masturbation for a few weeks, dont do anything to make you cum for a few weeks then see what happens, you'll most likly explode on contact.
 
I had the same problem but everything said above is true: it is mainly a problem in the head not the dick. After my relationship with my boyfriend was getting more intimate, I shot my load more often when he was giving me a handjob. The other trick also works: don't masturbate. I don't think that hard weeks of abstention are needed, 2-3 days is more than enough. One more practical advice that worked in my case: don't lay as a piece of wood but help your partner. While he is working on your cock try to concentrate on your breathing. Before cumming I always hold my breath and strain the muscles of my leg. I do this almost automatically when I masturbate but once I had the great idea: I can also do this when my bf is jerking me off. The feeling soon became familiar and I cummed. At first time my bf was really surprised: after 6 months together he was sure that he will never be able to give me a "successful" handjob.
 
fjancsi80 said:
One more practical advice that worked in my case: don't lay as a piece of wood but help your partner. While he is working on your cock try to concentrate on your breathing. Before cumming I always hold my breath and strain the muscles of my leg. I do this almost automatically when I masturbate but once I had the great idea: I can also do this when my bf is jerking me off. The feeling soon became familiar and I cummed. At first time my bf was really surprised: after 6 months together he was sure that he will never be able to give me a "successful" handjob.
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This is really good to know!
 
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