My sexual/love insecurities... *Sighs*

[TheAverageJoe]

So, I barely post on this site. I typically read. But here it goes.

Some people find me attractive. They claim the like my skin, smile, almost...always my butt, which is often referred to as cakes , and my personality.

Fortunately, I've learned to accept those compliments and be comfortable in my own skin...for the most part. As a result, I find it rather easy to find potential hook ups; however, I'm not the type to cruise or have one night stands. I typically like having sex with people I know.

Recently, I've been bottoming. Ironically, I don't think I'm really a bottom. I've done it a few times but I don't think I've truly enjoyed it. I think I submit to being a bottom because I feel like that's the only way I can please who ever I'm having sex with. Why? Because my penis is 5'5. I enjoy topping when I get the chance, but when I attract a bottom, I ignore them in fear of being rejected.

So does size really matter? Are most people size queens? Or am I overreacting?

 

[kallipolis]

Re: My sexua/love insecurities... *Sighs*

Or am I overreacting?

Yes....

...just do, what you enjoy doing... avoid psycho-analysis....and always choose the big hearted guy...when satisfaction is guaranteed.

“A great man is always willing to be little.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

[Seasoned]

Re: My sexua/love insecurities... *Sighs*

People will accept or reject another person for every imagininable reason including penis size. Size queens won't be interested, but others will. Find another versatile guy and go back and forth. You are in the average range, as am I. I've kept my husband happy for 31 years. The "package" that's important is the entire one. Don't worry.

 

[njcollegekid]

Re: My sexua/love insecurities... *Sighs*

5.5" isn't small. It's right around average as far as I'm aware. And if I bottom, I'm probably not gonna take more than that anyway since Im not too good as a bottom. So I feel like more than that is redundant as far as the act itself is concerned. The only thing more is good for is to look at. But 5.5 is nothing to be embarrassed about.

 

[KaraBulut]

Re: My sexua/love insecurities... *Sighs*

So does size really matter?

Yes, but not as much as talent and inspiration.

Are most people size queens?

Some are. Some aren't. There's a lot of things that turn people on visually that prove to be impractical in reality.

Your size is average. That means that guys who like giving head can take all of you without having his gag reflex triggered. It means that you can top even guys who have trouble bottoming.

Or am I overreacting?

Yes. Given the choice between an average dick attached to a nice guy that knows how to use it or a big dick attached to someone without those skills... most guys will go for the former.

 

[TX-Beau]

Re: My sexua/love insecurities... *Sighs*

I won't let a big dick top me, unless I've made a commitment to it's owner. I prefer them averageish, you can do more with that, than you can with a 12" monster.

 

[youngnihilist]

I hear you. 6 inches here and it looks really small flacid sometimes. Look, it sucks but we can't do anything about it. Some guys are size queens but they're usually the biggest sluts. Plenty are okay, and some even prefer average to smaller. You can be a top and be small to average. At least you're not 3-4 inches hard!

 

[Just_Believe18]

Focus less on roles and penis size. Too many gay men get hung up on that. Just be versatile. If you want to top a guy, top him. A bottom is often more turned on by a guy with confidence than his size.