My sexuality isn't clear for me.

[Disturbance]

I set up a date, we meet, we get to my private place. We start kissing, and nothing happens. We touch each other, I feel his body, I feel his throbbing package and I don't get an erection. I don't get turned on either.
The kissing is fun, but lately it starts to become colorless. I feel nothing.

I considered trying women, see if I would feel something, but the mere thought repulses me.

What is happening?

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Sex isn't just physical, and grinding your parts together. Most people need an emotional attachment as well. Also, are you attracted to the guys you're going out with, or just hooking up with whomever says yes?

 

[Disturbance]

I only go out with guys, whose looks I like.
Are you saying that I shouldn't have "just sex" dates?

Also, "grinding our parts together" pretty much worked for me all the time. A simple touch on my belly or my butt totally turned me on in a matter of seconds.

I have morning erections, but I don't have spontaneous erections anymore.

I'm 22 years old.

 

[bruce379]

Stop watching porn so much and get some sleep. Exercise. Take a vacation. Get away. Nothing wrong with having just sex but sometimes there are other underlying issues. Take a breather. When you are calm and relaxed and horny, then look for someone you like. It might also be that you just don't connect with the guys you are trying to hook up with. Sometimes, the packaging is better than the contents. I hooked up with some guys I thought I would like but I had to leave because even if they suck my dick it's never gonna get hard because there's no chemistry.

 

[HunterM]

"Grinding our parts together" works for me all the time as well.

 

[Disturbance]

Stop watching porn so much and get some sleep. Exercise. Take a vacation. Get away. Nothing wrong with having just sex but sometimes there are other underlying issues. Take a breather. When you are calm and relaxed and horny, then look for someone you like. It might also be that you just don't connect with the guys you are trying to hook up with. Sometimes, the packaging is better than the contents. I hooked up with some guys I thought I would like but I had to leave because even if they suck my dick it's never gonna get hard because there's no chemistry.

Well I do watch a lot of porn.
And connecting is not easy.

Some exile may help Will try.

 

[journo25]

Stop watching porn so much and get some sleep. Exercise. Take a vacation. Get away. Nothing wrong with having just sex but sometimes there are other underlying issues. Take a breather. When you are calm and relaxed and horny, then look for someone you like. It might also be that you just don't connect with the guys you are trying to hook up with. Sometimes, the packaging is better than the contents. I hooked up with some guys I thought I would like but I had to leave because even if they suck my dick it's never gonna get hard because there's no chemistry.

^ ^ This. One assumes that at 22, you should have a raging hard-on 24/7. Don't discount chemistry and stop putting all this pressure on yourself.

 

[Disturbance]

^ ^ This. One assumes that at 22, you should have a raging hard-on 24/7. Don't discount chemistry and stop putting all this pressure on yourself.

But apparently I don't have raging hard-ons.
That is the whole problem. I want to have them.

 

[Rolyo85]

No offense, but your posts sound like an 80s movie evil computer. No emotion whatsoever. Could it be that you are suffering from some form of depression? Have there been any upheavals in your life recently?

Otherwise, sometimes we just burn out when it's "just sex". At some point it becomes not enough, and we need a more meaningful connection. What are your thoughts on actual dating? Cause "just sex" dates are called hook ups really.

 

[Disturbance]

No offense, but your posts sound like an 80s movie evil computer. No emotion whatsoever. Could it be that you are suffering from some form of depression? Have there been any upheavals in your life recently?

Otherwise, sometimes we just burn out when it's "just sex". At some point it becomes not enough, and we need a more meaningful connection. What are your thoughts on actual dating? Cause "just sex" dates are called hook ups really.

I often feel like a machine. Emotion isn't really there for me all the time. When I was a child it was obvious. I felt numerous things, though I seem to have forgotten them.

As for love? Didn't feel love in a long time. I recognize when it's shown towards me, but I often see the interest behind it. When I do care about someone it's more like I recognize their value and reward their good traits with care in the form of touch or words.

Sometimes I get rushes of strong emotion, when watching romantic movies. Certain songs make me cry, but only briefly. I can trigger strong negative emotion anytime, it is quite easy for me, but I cool down very easily.

I can fake emotions, like empathy, compassion or interest, but theese last for like a few minutes and then they become an act.

Sex made me feel more "alive", but it's definitely gone now.

I wouldn't say I'm suffering, I'm just disturbed by the fact that my situation could be better.

Dating is good. I am honestly interested in most people around me. I like to discover their motivations, their reasons for their past decisions, their interests and the drive behind them, but I don't develop emotional attachments, not because I don't want to, it just doesn't happen.

 

[Seasoned]

We're all different, obviously. Some people may be sex machines, others, not so much. Porn can desensitize us in more ways than one. Masturbation can make us less horny, can make us feel less adequate, can make us forget humans are mind, body and spirit, and can lead us to believe that we ought to get or already be hard anyplace, anytime. Once you invite someone into your home it's unrealistic to think it's just about looks.