My sexuality

[thirseyevision]

I don’t know what my sexuality is, but I’ll try to explain. I mostly go for females just because I know the majority of the time they’re the ones I can hook up with, but if I’m at a late night party or just givin the opportunity I do like to give blowjobs and possibly fuck although I’ve never really been into anal female or male. I find it difficult to feel a connection with someone male or female.
So I like to have fun sexually with very open and willing adults either way, but I don’t think I’ve ever felt a real connection with anyone. Also i don’t know the name for it but I like when people watch me fuck.

 

[thirseyevision]

I don’t know what my sexuality is, but I’ll try to explain. I mostly go for females just because I know the majority of the time they’re the ones I can hook up with, but if I’m at a late night party or just givin the opportunity I do like to give blowjobs and possibly fuck although I’ve never really been into anal female or male. I find it difficult to feel a connection with someone male or female.
So I like to have fun sexually with very open and willing adults either way, but I don’t think I’ve ever felt a real connection with anyone. Also i don’t know the name for it but I like when people watch me fuck.

I should mention I have had anal sex with guys and girls both giving and receiving (strap on for one girl, the other girl was trans) and I had a boyfriend for a couple months but he had to move for work and in the area I was in it was just easier to go for girls cuz there weren’t many gays

 

[TickTockMan]

I don't feel you 100% meet the labels, but pansexual and a bit demisexual.


Enjoying being watched is being an exhibitionist.

 

[thirseyevision]

I don't feel you 100% meet the labels, but pansexual and a bit demisexual.


Enjoying being watched is being an exhibitionist.

Exhibitionist! That’s it, one time ( we were all drunk) me and my boyfriend at the time took turns sucking eachother infront of my best friends bell and her friend who were sitting on the couch,lol because I wanted them to score us on who could suck cock better lol

 

[thirseyevision]

Exhibitionist! That’s it, one time ( we were all drunk) me and my boyfriend at the time took turns sucking eachother infront of my best friends bell and her friend who were sitting on the couch,lol because I wanted them to score us on who could suck cock better lol

Oh no it was also, who was better at deep throating . It’s me btw, I won overall on enthusiasm points lol, but that might be because I was also getting off on them watching me

 

[LeicsDom]

Why do you need a label?
You have obviously found what you like.

 

[NotHardUp1]

You sound like you are a sexual recreationist. That's not a label, just a description I made up for you.

Life creates a sex drive from hormones. We express it in conventions our culture affords us. You appear to have been raised in a context that prevented you from being confined by mores and taboos and roles. However, you may be fueled by the excitement of appearing to violate those norms and roles, hence the exhibitionism.

Or, it could be that you simply feel validated because you are good at sex and it affirms you.

There is also the possibility that because your feel unconnected emotionally during sex, you intentionally trivialize it by making it entertainment for you and others, so remove any imposed expectations on you to behave in any bonded sense.

All or none of those may be true. It's up to you to parse the thinking and actions and uncover for yourself the reasons.

I have only one question. Do you mean you do not feel emotionally connected to sex partners as in long-term remationship bonding, or do you mean that you do not feel connected to anyone? Are you close to family, or best friends, or those whom you see as peers? Do you feel like you have peers?

 

[rareboy]

There is also the possibility that because your feel unconnected emotionally during sex, you intentionally trivialize it by making it entertainment for you and others, so remove any imposed expectations on you to behave in any bonded sense.

I suspect this is part of it. But you do you.

As long as you are happy otherwise in life, no problem.

If you do feel that there is something missing, seek out a counsellor who might help you understand the basis of your emotional disassociation.

 

[thirseyevision]

You sound like you are a sexual recreationist. That's not a label, just a description I made up for you.

Life creates a sex drive from hormones. We express it in conventions our culture affords us. You appear to have been raised in a context that prevented you from being confined by mores and taboos and roles. However, you may be fueled by the excitement of appearing to violate those norms and roles, hence the exhibitionism.

Or, it could be that you simply feel validated because you are good at sex and it affirms you.

There is also the possibility that because your feel unconnected emotionally during sex, you intentionally trivialize it by making it entertainment for you and others, so remove any imposed expectations on you to behave in any bonded sense.

All or none of those may be true. It's up to you to parse the thinking and actions and uncover for yourself the reasons.

I have only one question. Do you mean you do not feel emotionally connected to sex partners as in long-term remationship bonding, or do you mean that you do not feel connected to anyone? Are you close to family, or best friends, or those whom you see as peers? Do you feel like you have peers?

It’s hard for me to feel a connection with anyone, I just don’t get the attachment part , like. If my mom or brother were to disappear suddenly, I’m sitting here like …. Well, alright then. And just move on with my day

 

[NotHardUp1]

It’s hard for me to feel a connection with anyone, I just don’t get the attachment part , like. If my mom or brother were to disappear suddenly, I’m sitting here like …. Well, alright then. And just move on with my day

I'm not sure that is an issue. We feel what we feel.

It's possible to care about people without feeling emotional.

If it does not bother you, then I'm not seeing it as a problem.

 

[LeicsDom]

It’s hard for me to feel a connection with anyone, I just don’t get the attachment part , like. If my mom or brother were to disappear suddenly, I’m sitting here like …. Well, alright then. And just move on with my day

I feel the same about my family, but then I am estranged from them

Failure to emotionally connect with people, in general, is often a sign of being on the autistic spectrum

 

[thirseyevision]

It’s hard for me to feel a connection with anyone, I just don’t get the attachment part , like. If my mom or brother were to disappear suddenly, I’m sitting here like …. Well, alright then. And just move on with my day

I feel the same about my family, but then I am estranged from them

Failure to emotionally connect with people, in general, is often a sign of being on the autistic spectrum

Damn, I was in the army for a while cuz I like structure. And now that I’ve been out (of the army) for a year, idk what to do or how to make friends lol

 

[NotHardUp1]

Damn, I was in the army for a while cuz I like structure. And now that I’ve been out (of the army) for a year, idk what to do or how to make friends lol

May I suggest you actively pursue opportunities to join with others in whatever you enjoy avocationally?

Enjoy cooking? Take a cooking class if the junior college offers one.

Enjoy indoor sports? Join an intramural league, a bowling team, or find a billiards hall.

Outdoors sports? The same.

Enjoy gambling or cards? Look for a group near you on Meetup.com. They have all sorts of groups that do dinner and a movie, hiking, philosophy discussion, investing, you name it.

And, as far as making friends, that's a common problem when people move from school or the military into evereyday life. Consider being the one that forms a group if you don't find one already in your area. Host a poker night. Get a couple of co-workers to go to a concert, or a hike, or to some exhibit.

The fact you are not attached or clingy makes you even better adapted to host or join, as you won't be a threatening presence to them.

 

[thirseyevision]

May I suggest you actively pursue opportunities to join with others in whatever you enjoy avocationally?

Enjoy cooking? Take a cooking class if the junior college offers one.

Enjoy indoor sports? Join an intramural league, a bowling team, or find a billiards hall.

Outdoors sports? The same.

Enjoy gambling or cards? Look for a group near you on Meetup.com. They have all sorts of groups that do dinner and a movie, hiking, philosophy discussion, investing, you name it.

And, as far as making friends, that's a common problem when people move from school or the military into evereyday life. Consider being the one that forms a group if you don't find one already in your area. Host a poker night. Get a couple of co-workers to go to a concert, or a hike, or to some exhibit.

The fact you are not attached or clingy makes you even better adapted to host or join, as you won't be a threatening presence to them.

Yeah, there’s a whole process I have to go through cuz I’m in a different province now to get my license. So when I get my license I’ll stilll….. I’m basically restarting my life rn at 32

 

[NotHardUp1]

Yeah, there’s a whole process I have to go through cuz I’m in a different province now to get my license. So when I get my license I’ll stilll….. I’m basically restarting my life rn at 32

I restarted mine at 45. Over the next decade, I moved to four cities where I knew no one. I know you'll find your way.

 

[LeicsDom]

Yeah, there’s a whole process I have to go through cuz I’m in a different province now to get my license. So when I get my license I’ll stilll….. I’m basically restarting my life rn at 32

Several times in my life I have upped sticks and moved to somewhere I knew nobody.
My latest move, 35 years ago, I got a part time job in a gay club 2 nights a week. It was a great way to make new friends quickly