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My story

^I'm assuming that most of your friends are straight guys. And they are often limited by the confines of straight guy expectations. Like getting married, settling down, and having kids. But many gay men in their 40s dont have those limitations and are very active. Many are like you who have spent their younger years uncomfortable with being their authentic self and never had real relationships. I know very few gay guys in their 40s or 50s who are not incredibly active.
 
^Interesting point..... It almost seems to me that being straight is a dis-advantage, in some ways. Yes, they are all straight, and settled. In fact, they all seem to age very fast.
Maybe being "normal" isn't all it's cracked up to be after all.

I'm so glad I found this forum.
 
Audio Tech said:
^Interesting point..... It almost seems to me that being straight is a dis-advantage, in some ways. Yes, they are all straight, and settled. In fact, they all seem to age very fast.
Maybe being "normal" isn't all it's cracked up to be after all.

I'm so glad I found this forum.
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it's so true because I'm 25 and a lot of guys who went to high school with me are married, engaged, and/or some have children. They all look about 12 years older than me. It's so funny because all the dudes I thought were so hot back then are SO not today.
 
aijalon18 said:
it's so true because I'm 25 and a lot of guys who went to high school with me are married, engaged, and/or some have children. They all look about 12 years older than me. It's so funny because all the dudes I thought were so hot back then are SO not today.
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Errr.... Yeah..... that sums it up PERFECTLY. ..|
 
yep i saw a lot of FAT married guys and shocked about how fast they aged.

Shocked about some fat un-married guys too so not judge ......... :badgrin:
 
Audio Tech said:
We talked for 4 hours. My mom is so incredible.... she cried for me and said "why didn't you do this much sooner and spared yourself all this pain?"
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Audio Tech said:
It all seems like a dream, still. The only regret I have after ALL this, is that I didn't have the balls to do this MUCH sooner.
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Anyone in the closet should tape those quotes to their mirror (or inside of a desk drawer if they're living at home).

I came out at 43 and I feel identically to you: shoulda done it decades ago. But then JUB and JUBbers have made it so much easier now. There was no one I could confide in back then.

But then other men came out. I shoulda had more balls.

But I've never been happier and have the partner of my dreams (see photos of us in the JUB Supporters forum).

So don't look back, just keep going forward. You're out of that hell hole called the closet! ..|

P.S.--You really did this fast. Pretty amazing. Took me 6 months.
 
^no, he really didn't.

I finally had a total break down. I was so close to suicide that I had nothing more to loose. That's about it. After finding this forum, I thought about it and started to plan how to do this. I initially planned to wait for the right time, and come out to my mom first, and then MAYBE to my brother.

But then I totally cracked. I quite literally broke down in tears on my way to the kitchen to get coffee. I just couldn't anymore. I HAD to get it off my chest.

Once I committed, there was NO way back. It happened much too soon in my mind as well. My heart ran so fast, I thought I may end up in the hospital. But once I said those 3 words, that was it. And then it ALL just poured out of me.

No planning. Not at ALL how I hoped, but I'm glad it's over.

I "Planned" to NEVER tell.
 
^ wow, that was dramatic situation then.

Good on you and well done.
Everyone's style of coming out is different i guess. :)
 
Let us know how things go.

And let us know about your brother. I'm guessing there's more to come with him.
 
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