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My suite-mate came out to me last week.

Hey Everyone! Me and my suite mate are doing fine. He isn't the horny, one track mind kinda guy I thought he was. I've been working at not letting his bisexuality bother me. Like there was a "Best Damn Hooters Girl" show on FSM last night (*rollz eyes, i know*) and I sat and watched it with him and I've become neutral to his "man she's hot" comments and just go along with it. like "well, you know, if I were straight..." comments

Nothing sexual has happened, although I've stepped up my flirting. Inviting him to shower with me (sarcastically), massaging him, commenting on his body, etc. Is it wrong for me to take things this slow?? In my mind I think it OK because I want him to be comfortable if and when we do more. But I've been called a tease more than once in my life... so yeah. I could just reach over and shove my hands down his pants but you never know how he would react you know? I don't think he has 100% accepted who he is. I was also contemplating the best method to tell him what I want out of our "friendship". But I think I will know when the time is right.

And about Spring Break, he is coming home with me :) he didn't feel like flying back home after all. I'm taking him shopping at H&M and show him a gay time.
 
Fabulous! It looks like you've made a good friend, well done. Let things flow naturally.
 
I know you're on a time crunch, but I think you're taking this at the right pace.
 
It's harder (no pun intended) for some people to come out than others.
All the girl talk etc. could just be "butch reassurance" because he's frightened of his gay feelings.
He might be using you as a sounding board for his inner conflict.
Many people experiment sexually during their college years. It's nothing for either of you to be embarassed about. If and when the time is right, you'll both know it.
 
OK. So I'm back. School is almost out and I wanted to give everyone an update. Thanks everyone for responding, it really has helped me deal with this situation in the best way possible.

Zach and I are still really good friends. Just a few days ago we worked out together and had a exciting ending. He was wearing sweat plants and was pulling them down to show me his "V". I'm not sure what came over me but I approached him and touched him down south and started kissing his neck. I think it is the full moon or something. But regardless, he didn't back away but was speechless once I backed off. He liked it! But I think he is afraid. I asked him out to dinner last night (we always go out to eat on Fridays) and he was acting weird. He had homework to do... (he Nevveerr does hw on a Friday) and felt bad because I drive him everywhere. I convinced him to come and we walked to the restaurant. And of course he was talking about boobs and vag's all dinner.

I'm excited, but worried. We have had the condom talk, and he doesn't want to wear one. He will come around, I think. But it is just a snag in this great friendship. Plus I'm very immature sexually and don't think I carry his insecurities along with my own. He promised to make next weekend "special".

I kinda don't want it to end :( This is the first guy I've felt comfortable with, and he really helped me survive this semester socially, he is confusing as hell, but he never left my side. He has been my little secret and having to keep it that way after he is gone will really hurt..
 
Well, at least it sounds like you are in control of how this thing plays out.

Just try and leave him space to back off without losing him as a friend.

I'm beginning to think he is fearful of his own sexual identity and you don't want to scare him straight.
 
So exactly how do you think this will play out?

You and Zach will play around. The next morning you will have to figure out how you're going to go back to being friends and suite-mates. He'll go back to talking about boobs and vaginas.

I think you're headed for some hurtin'.

But that's how we all learn.
 
backseatboy said:
OK. So I'm back. School is almost out and I wanted to give everyone an update. Thanks everyone for responding, it really has helped me deal with this situation in the best way possible.

Zach and I are still really good friends. Just a few days ago we worked out together and had a exciting ending. He was wearing sweat plants and was pulling them down to show me his "V". I'm not sure what came over me but I approached him and touched him down south and started kissing his neck. I think it is the full moon or something. But regardless, he didn't back away but was speechless once I backed off. ...
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To me it sounds like you guys are dating already but do not know it. It sounds like a relationship but without sex.. You guys hang out all the time, he misses you, going out to dinner etc.. I think that one of you should kick it up a notch! Also if i walked into the gym and saw u 2 making out i would of been so turned on!
 
You 2 need to sit down and have a serious talk. He's suddenly uncomfortable,and you 2 need to clear the air and get back on the same page.
 
Best Wishes, btw this WILL be the ONE that you remember the rest of your life - So Son't think you have to fuck it up having anal sex with the guy.

If it gets to a sexual situation, jack-off with him, Suck each other etc - Ya don't need to take it to an anal stage... that way the condom thing isn't an issue either.

btw - My guy in college like this was called Robin & I still fanatasize about him today :)

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