My Weird Crush Situation

[rareboy]

Well, technically eighteen is adult, but I know what you mean. And for millionth time, I get it. I know confirmed he's straight. The flirting a joke. I used joking as an excuse to outlet my feelings. I shouldn't do it anymore.
I'm not in love by the way. I said there were notable romantic elements beyond just, but I didn't mean I'm crazy about him
And I'm asking for advice on how to behave in situation. You guys aren't really giving that. Please move on from the standard straight guy crush lecture, I already knew before any of you said it

You've had tons of advice from all of us as to how to handle it.

But either you aren't getting it...or you are looking for a particular answer that we aren't giving you.

I repeat. Just show that you can be cool around him.

Don't flirt anymore.

Don't touch him.

Don't sit next to him in class.

Don't hang out with only him.

Just be polite and friendly.

Make it clear you have no further sexual interest in him.

Move on.

 

[HornyJock]

Seriously people, I already said, I'm not asking if I should pursue him. I never thought that was feasible. I did say he was straight in the first sentence and I said the flirting was a joke. I'm asking about how to deal with the situation. And how to ensure I don't end up making it awkward or something. I have had other opinions but I want to add some more. He is my friend, and having feelings is problematic for that situation so t needs to be delicate I think. That is what I'm talking about. Now please stop telling me not to go after him. I know.

I don't think you are listening dude.
My previous advice cover this as well. Read it again.
If he's taking the piss, he is not your friend, ditch him.

If that's just healthy banter and you like it, I don't see what is the problem frankly.
Joke back, but don't touch him, just learn your boundaries.
If you don't like him teasing you that way, tell him to stop.
If he is your friend he will stop.

I don't know what else you need to know, there are not really many options.

 

[62624rd]

I agree with Hornyjock and rareboy posts^^ Know your/ set boundaries between you two.

 

[SexyLion514]

Cool, thanks people. That's much clearer and more helpful. Seems my friend was on the nose. Just be less attached and intimate to make sure that if he does know he isn't feeling uncomfortable, and if he doesn't he never finds out.

 

[genthree]

You are not giving up , are you.
I think you must be a bit thick.
cheers..

 

[SexyLion514]

You are not giving up , are you.
I think you must be a bit thick.
cheers..

What are you talking about? The tone of the conversation has changed. I literally said "That's much clearer and more helpful". I'm not rejecting their advice. Just the insistent notion that I am going after him, which I'm not and never did even consider as feasible. I am going to do something different from my signal-sending before, and that was my intention from the start. I asked this question to hear productive answers, not the same already-known advice over and over. Where was I the stubborn one other than denying that? I was just defending reality, essentially. And the topic of my actual question, which was I repeat, signal sending.

 

[SexyLion514]

Maybe I missed a little bit of the usefulness in some comments, but repetition of the don't get your hopes up sentiment was very distracting because it was quite annoying. And the burden of communication, like with proof, is more on the speaker than the listener. You need to ensure what you say is understandable and adapt if it's not interpreted correctly.

 

[eastofeden]

Maybe I missed a little bit of the usefulness in some comments, but repetition of the don't get your hopes up sentiment was very distracting because it was quite annoying. And the burden of communication, like with proof, is more on the speaker than the listener. You need to ensure what you say is understandable and adapt if it's not interpreted correctly.

My take on giving or receiving advice...take what you can use and throw the rest away...period....it's timeless...and true...

Thing is...there are a lot more people who read boards than write on them...we live in a world full of voyeurs...and so the same advice will have many different effects on as many different people...so just anyone answering is nice IMO...it adds to the spectrum of things....

 

[HornyJock]

My take on giving or receiving advice...take what you can use and throw the rest away...period....it's timeless...and true...

Thing is...there are a lot more people who read boards than write on them...we live in a world full of voyeurs...and so the same advice will have many different effects on as many different people...so just anyone answering is nice IMO...it adds to the spectrum of things....