My Whole life I thought I was Gay...

[lifeisamazing]

Okay so things have changed alot since I've moved from san diego to long beach. i am going out with all my friends again, got a great job, and men have taken such a back seat - its hard to picture myself in a gay relationship, however, the more i think about this girl i work with - the more i can see myself with her.

ive had my experience's with guys you know, dated here, dated there, relationship here and relationship there - ever since i was young, really young, its always been guys. Except when I was 12 I dated this one girl "Sophie", I'll call her. It was a great relationship, I was happy, fun, but it was more like a Puppy following a person around. I got played. I dumped her. Since then its been ALL guys. But lately there has been this girl at work, "Ariel" and the more and more we get to know each other, the more I am emotionally, mentally, and physically attracted to her.

I have this feeling in my stomach that I haven't gotten since I was with my finacee, she has told me several times, once bitting her lip, "if only you were straight". And I asked her out on a date, she accepted, knowing very well that I am gay - but I just can't explain all of this, its all strange. I have never ever been attracted to woman, sexually, but lately she's always been catching my eye when we see each other in the restaurant, which we work at.

anybody got advice?

 

[hitboyqt]

I'm not sure. I always wonder if I had the chance to go straight I would. I mean.. hell. It's an easier life.

I think you should try it out. I mean, hell, if it doesn't work. Go find a man

 

[Shepherd 2]

The journey to sexual identity is sometimes so very confusing to the young. Keep on journeying. Be true to yourself.
Shep+

 

[Eagle653]

The journey to sexual identity is sometimes so very confusing to the young. Keep on journeying. Be true to yourself.
Shep+

Truer words were never spoken. You might be bi, or you might be gay whose eye was caught, momentarily, by a woman. It happens.

Enjoy your friendship with her and keep an open mind and be upfront about your past experiences. She has a say in where this relationship goes (or doesn't). In the meantime, it sounds like a great friend and companion, so enjoy the moment.

Good luck!

 

[JackFTwist]

I have never ever been attracted to woman, sexually, but lately she's always been catching my eye when we see each other in the restaurant, which we work at.

anybody got advice?

as you journey, bear that in mind that if you are not sexually attracted to her, a relationship more than friends can (will) end badly. A real intimate relationship includes sex. Explore, check things out, but she may just be a really good friend - and that is itself a wonderful gift. Good luck, keep your mind open as you explore all options, since it is your life.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>anybody got advice?

Start writing this stuff down. You've got an album to record.

Other than that, play it by ear. Free yourself. If you're attracted to her, you're attracted to her. Go for it.

Lex

 

[lifeisamazing]

thanks ya'll!!!!

 

[mac_twck]

I'm confused.

Your status says patrnered. Are you?

It sound to me like you just met your BFF. Don't confuse that "soulmate" with a sexual "soulmate." I do believe that certain people come into our lives to make us "whole" and better people.

Mac

 

[sheep]

Do you feel like you are gonna pop a boner when you are with her? I would be open about your past and see where it goes.

 

[GaiBoi]

*subscribes to thread*
I'm interested to hear what comes of this. Whatever the case, follow your heart and best of luck!