As little as I tolerated President Reagan's policies, rhetoric, or disparagement of President Carter, it doesn't follow that his widow must be incarnate evil. To be sure, she was indeed the power behind the throne, and they were every bit as much the political couple as the Clintons were and are.
Whereas I agree that the administration's neglect of the AIDS crisis was horrible, it was, and is, a form of VD and carries with it the same neglect and stigma by the government that all the other venereal diseases bear. The gay activists were not so vocal about other forms of VD before this one began killing gays at a disproportionate rate, so it's a little convenient to lay it all on the federal administration that failed to recognize the enormity of it.
Of course we would like to have seen it stemmed early, but it wasn't, but it was due to a widespread contempt for gays, not just the inaction of the president.
Other presidents have done more egregious things to more Americans than President Reagan did, but we justify excoriation because it touched us nearer, yet those who pushed us into WWI, Korea, Iran, Iraq, Bosnia, Lebanon, Vietnam, and many other pointless wars have killed far more, but enjoy more forgiveness.
Politicians are hard to stomach, but we also ask elected heads to be responsible for everything and to everyone. I told my evangelical neighbors long ago, "we don't need to elect a messiah."
I disliked President Reagan's policies and words, but I am not called to become Donald Trump to denounce Nancy Reagan to feel triumphant or even relieved. Let her go. Dancing on graves is a poisonous affair.
