Need Advice - Me and my Best Friend Fooled around, now he is ignoring me

[Jamesb11]

Basically last night me and my friend (who is straight and doesn't know that I'm Bi) went to a party and got very drunk, he was staying at my house after the party and when we were back at mine in my room he got his dick out, so i got mine out and we were comparing, then he said he wanted a wank and started wanking.
So I also started, I was watching him jerk his hard cock and really wanted to help him out so I put my hand on his body and he seemed to like it so I moved my hand to his dick and started jerking him off, he was kinda nervous but he also liked it and he said 'are you gonna suck my dick?' so I said 'do you want me to suck your dick?' and he went 'dunno just for a bit' so i sucked him off till he jizzed.
Then when we finished we realized what we had just done and we went 'we will just forget this ever happened' and then I went to work this morning and now I'm getting the feeling he is like freaked out and trying to avoid me.
He is like my best mate and I don't want to loose him as a friend because were really close. Anyone have any advice?

 

[Scottyboi]

give him time to think, don't worry about it affecting the friendship. All thats gonna do is make you push him away as you're gonna "want to talk about it" and he's just gonna want to forget it.

Like you said, just pretend it never happened

 

[Lefty]

various scenarios....

it never happened...you were over partied and had a sticky dream or

it happened, he started it (after all, you don't pull your dick out at

somebody elses place with them in the room unless you really need

to pee or you want to play)then

a. didn't care for it and is embarrassed.

b. liked it and is embarrassed

c. awaits your reaction and..

Now, if he is 'best friend' treat it as a wet dream and go on..if he wants more
you haven't shot either one of you in the foot. The uhm ball is in his court.
You don't lose best friend here.

But, if he wasn't a best friend and this becomes an issue, you didn't lose any
body man. Don't act or pretend. Look at the big picture via his lens.

Luck Bud.

 

[Jamesb11]

Thanks for the advice guys, it defiantly did happen there is a cum stain on my bed and it isn't mine as i didn't cum. When i next see him in person I will know if this is a real 'issue', i'll see him either monday or tuesday, I will let you know how It goes, Thanks again :}x

 

[Lefty]

Best of the best

We'll pull for you.

 

[jjonn3]

I had the same thing happen with a friend as a teenager.

He is probably feeling guilty "I am straight - why did I suggest it? Why did I enjoy it? And why did my straight best friend do it?"

As the others have said - let him take the lead. If you try and bring it up or talk about it and he is not ready you could loose a friend.

He may come to terms with it and accept he enjoys a bit from the other side of the fence - or it may never get mentioned again.

But be prepared - things may be a bit awkward for awhile between you two.

 

[looseliam]

I wouldn't bring-up the topic. If it is to be discussed or repeated, let him take the initiative.

As for you, go on like business as usual.

 

[Jamesb11]

Yeaah your probably right, don't worry im definatly not going to bring it up with him, thanks for the advice.
I kinda hope he liked it and brings it up, coz i know i liked it aha
thank you :}x

 

[Lefty]

There you have it James...consensus at JUB

You didn't start the fire. Nor did you put it out.

Next camping trip....share the tent...

but let him start the fire, if any.

 

[Jamesb11]

Ahaha thank you, i just wanna say thanks again to everyone, and your all so nice, most people on internet forums are dicks aha Thanks again guys i'll let you know how it turns out :} x

 

[sixthson]

The bigger question may be how you will handle your attraction for him. Did the experience make you want more? If so, how will you deal with that?

Oops, I just noticed where you said you enjoyed it.

Good luck, keep us informed.

 

[Seasoned]

I'd give him the out of denial if that's what he wants ans wouldn't play again unless he'd take a more active role.

 

[billybob109]

Been there a hundred times. Act like it never happened and wait until he brings it up on another drunken night or asks for you to blow him again on another drunken night. it will never go past that.

 

[texan_slant]

Also, it's just barely been a day, so definitely allow some time and space if need be. and don't bring it up.

 

[Jamesb11]

Heyy, thanks for all the advice, i went to Manchester with him and a friend today and it was actually fine, we just acted like it had never happened so i think were fine again and yeaah next time we get drunk if he brings it up again ... aha thanks again guys, really helped

 

[jjonn3]

Glad it seems to be working out.

It can be very scary - realizing how much you liked it but wondering if you just lost a friend...

 

[future_retro]

Heyy, thanks for all the advice, i went to Manchester with him and a friend today and it was actually fine, we just acted like it had never happened so i think were fine again and yeaah next time we get drunk if he brings it up again ... aha thanks again guys, really helped

Glad it has gone fine - these things usually work themselves out after a little while. All the best to you.