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A guy I like keeps blowing me off, but today he sent me an invite to his birthday party. Would you go?
 
It depends. If he keeps blowing you off, he might not be interested.

If he invited you on fb or such, and you think it was a mass invite, he probably didn't see who he invited- then don't go

if he specificially invited you, then yes go.

If you want to go and have a good time and know people there that you'll have a good time with then go.

If you want to go just to see him and stalk him, don't go.

I hope you're catching my drift...
 
To clarify, when I said he keeps blowing me off, it was really only once or twice but recent and always via text. I.E. He ignores them :) We were hanging out and have always been flirty, but nothing has ever happened. Today he asked for my email, so he knew he was inviting me. At first I thought it was a mass invite because he'd want a lot of people at his birthday party. But he only invited a few people. So I'm confused :) Part of me feels that if I don't go, that will be the end of it and I will be the jerk. But if I do go, I'll be just another person at his party and he won't really care that I'm there. AKA I'll feel used and could get hurt if he's flirting with someone else. I want to be the bigger person, but have learned from the past that doesn't always work and usually backfires :) If I don't go, maybe he'll realize he's been acting like a jerk or at least miss me. I'm trying to think in terms of seduction, which sometimes is the opposite of being the nice guy. I know I'm over-analyzing this, but my gut feeling is I've been too nice to him and need to try a different approach. Thoughts?
 
guycandy said:
To clarify, when I said he keeps blowing me off, it was really only once or twice but recent and always via text. I.E. He ignores them :) We were hanging out and have always been flirty, but nothing has ever happened. Today he asked for my email, so he knew he was inviting me. At first I thought it was a mass invite because he'd want a lot of people at his birthday party. But he only invited a few people. So I'm confused :) Part of me feels that if I don't go, that will be the end of it and I will be the jerk. But if I do go, I'll be just another person at his party and he won't really care that I'm there. AKA I'll feel used and could get hurt if he's flirting with someone else. I want to be the bigger person, but have learned from the past that doesn't always work and usually backfires :) If I don't go, maybe he'll realize he's been acting like a jerk or at least miss me. I'm trying to think in terms of seduction, which sometimes is the opposite of being the nice guy. I know I'm over-analyzing this, but my gut feeling is I've been too nice to him and need to try a different approach. Thoughts?
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My gawd, why are you making this so complicated?! The fact is that whether you got an invitation ingraved in gold or on the back of a used napkin, yolu did get invited. You may be one of fivw, ten or a hundred, at least you will be there. Go.....and have a great time. However it turns out, it will be what it is.
 
as someone in a semi-similar situation as you, I would probably go. At the very least to get some kind of closure or understanding as to what is going on.

If you do want to play the hard to get game (not that I'm saying its the right thing to do) then you could say something like, "oh Im not sure if I can make it, I got such and such to do, but we'll see" and then show up then its one way to go. Again, I am not sure if its the right way to go about it, given I am partially putting myself in your shoes given that I understand your position.
 
Go and confront reality. I mean this to be gentle. You are living too much in your head. Go and objectively assess the situation with none of this, well he did smile at me, or he got that guy a drink but didn't bring back one for me, stuff.
 
Seasoned said:
Go and confront reality. I mean this to be gentle. You are living too much in your head. Go and objectively assess the situation with none of this, well he did smile at me, or he got that guy a drink but didn't bring back one for me, stuff.
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^^^^^^
This post is just so full of common-sense and great advice , i hope you do go
and that whatever the outcome you have a great time . ..|
 
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