need advise

[EvilForce]

im a virgin and bisexual and i dont know if i should turn gay fully (i love mens asses...) or follow my religion and brain and be straight cause to be honest i dont get horney over a dick but i wouldnt turn down gettin a blowjob from a guy or fuckin a guy... another thing if i am gay any tips of how 2 come out? thanks

Um. I think you are putting the cart before the horse there.

Why don't you start having sex, and figure it out as you go along. Frankly, the bible never said anything about being homosexual. That is a recent phenomenon of the past 100 to 150 years. Bible beaters claimed for decades the bible said the black race was a cursed one, and used scripture to show how inter-racial marriage was against "the bible".

No rush to figure out what you are, or are not. Maybe you are gay. Maybe bi. Just enjoy yourself.

 

[racer2438]

you need to go out and have some good safe sex with both and find out what you feel is more comfortable to you. You just find you will like both. Or some about one or other will steer you to one and you will be who you are.

I was str8 at first and the a bit bi, but then I met my current b/f and fell in love and now i am 100% gay. But aleast I tried it out to see whats out there and then made my decision.

I also found the women where more demanding and more bitchy, an need alot of maintance. But thats my opinion only.

But most important play safe , safe, safe..

 

[G-Lexington]

Go to a gay club. Most of the guys there? Gay.

Lex

 

[EvilForce]

thanks man but im young and its hard 2 tell whos gay i dont wana try something with a friend and look weird

I dunno. I'm not sure how old you are/aren't. But when I was 13 I was having sex with my friends. Most of whom grew up to be straight, or at least bisexual.

My gaydar has always been pretty sharp though. Most teens go thru a period of experimentation. In fact according to Kinsey and other sex researchers almost 40% of men have had a same sex experience of some sort. Whether full on sex, or just oral, or mutual masturbation. Young males are highly sexed, and at a certain level, if you can have some sex with a buddy, it sure beats not getting laid from your girlfriend who may not put out for years to come.

 

[EvilForce]

Who said you had to kiss him first?

Why don't you be a little more subtle. Give him a massage. If you two are playing video games or something....put your feet on him, or get close and touch his leg. Evaluate his reactions.

 

[racer2438]

if your in school sometime there are gay/lesbian groups to go to, your local book store may offer ad's to get to meet people,bars, clubs, evne bars and clubs in other areas away from your home may work for you in case you dont want to be seen yet.

But be safe safe

 

[racer2438]

well you seem to be giving your self a very very narrow avenue to find and experiance sex, Most not all younger guys have some school buddy they j/o with or know of someone in school.

But dont know what else to tell ya...

 

[EvilForce]

thanks 4 advise but im not public bout likin boys and im young and if i was 2 go 2 a gaybar i think alot of older guys would try it on with me and im a giver and not a taker and most people r givers there days...

Oh pumpkin, you're mistaken. The gay bars are filled with tops and bottoms, and in betweeners. Many times the butchest, jock type men, are the biggest bottoms you will ever meet.

 

[EvilForce]

oh and another thing i view rimming as dirty (virgin...lol) but im thinking its gotta be dirty cause people take dumps an all sort! but whats it really like

It's ok. You don't have to like everything. For me, I will only rim my partner/bf after we have both been tested for everything and no longer use condoms. Even then, rimming is a very, very rare occasion, and only after we have come right out of the shower.

Now, others may like it if the guy is all musky, and sweaty. Human sexuality is unique to all of us. One thing may gross me out, but turn you on. And something may gross you out, that turns on someone else. There is no right, nor wrong, as long as you are two consenting adults, and play as safely as you can.

 

[KaraBulut]

im a virgin and bisexual and i dont know if i should turn gay fully (i love mens asses...) or follow my religion and brain and be straight

I must have missed that part of religion that said "be straight". Oh well, too late now.

cause to be honest i dont get horney over a dick but i wouldnt turn down gettin a blowjob from a guy or fuckin a guy... another thing if i am gay any tips of how 2 come out? thanks
oh and another thing i view rimming as dirty (virgin...lol) but im thinking its gotta be dirty cause people take dumps an all sort! but whats it really like

Think of sex as a buffet. Have a little of this.. a little of that. . No one says you have to like everything on the buffet. Go back for seconds on the stuff you like.

Read the stickies on STDs and be safe.

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=171378

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=198186

 

[KaraBulut]

i love mens asses
damn man we aint fuckin

Yet.

 

[rareboy]

While the 'shtreet' vernacular and textspk may seem to make life more colouful, I think that it underscores a problem that the OP and many other guys in similar situations have these days.

'S'all goofin. eh?? People are becoming so inept communicating with one another that in the end, they are afraid of communicating in real time at all.

No one here can tell you whether you're gay or bi or straight. There is tons of advice here though on how to come out based on individual cases. You haven't given enough information about your situation to give any really meaningful advice on how you should ease out of the 'bi' label and emerge as a gay guy.

I would say that if you start turning up with your boyfriend at events, people will figure it out sooner instead of later.

There is a lot more to gay than where you put your dick and that is something you need to start thinking about.

 

[Telstra]

i'm reading the advice other people gives.


watch queer as folks series ....

 

[rareboy]

So what advice are you actually looking for here?

I've suggested you need to learn to communicate more clearly. You're in college for heaven's sake.

Tell your friend you are really interested in having sex with guys next time you're feeling him up. See what he does with that information.

 

[Telstra]

u havin the same problem?

not really but there are plenty of similar stories/advice on the forum.

 

[Telstra]

man i told him on the phone 2day an he was lyk okaiii... and said he was busy 4 the1st time i feel heartbroken

"busy" is a delaying tatic ... its time to move on.

 

[Lube]

man i told him on the phone 2day an he was lyk okaiii... and said he was busy 4 the1st time i feel heartbroken

Relax. Might not mean much. He may be as interested in you as you are in him--but you surprised him because after all those months of joking around, you finally got the balls to tell him the truth.

Give him some time.

If you see him when you're alone, don't talk about what you said (unless he brings it up). Just act normally. Do what you normally do. Touch him like you used to touch him--but this time, linger a little longer. Not long enough to freak him out, just long enough to get him to remember what you said.

If he doesn't jump away (and he might), then keep going down the same path. DON'T TALK ABOUT BEING GAY. Just touch him. Get him to enjoy it.

See what happens. No guarantees, but it's worth a shot.