need an advice =(

[Lefty]

If this is not a troll or hoax thread then I make the following remarks.

How did you live before he came along?
How happy have you lived with him in your life?
Do you know of anyone who died from popping
a carbuncle from their ass or using an ointment
to rid themselves of a nasty rash? Have you ever
lost "had someone die" that you loved and that
reciprocated that love?

Deep breatch lad, think perspective...or...just think.

 

[greathollow]

If this is not a troll or hoax thread then I make the following remarks.

How did you live before he came along?
How happy have you lived with him in your life?
Do you know of anyone who died from popping
a carbuncle from their ass or using an ointment
to rid themselves of a nasty rash? Have you ever
lost "had someone die" that you loved and that
reciprocated that love?

Deep breatch lad, think perspective...or...just think.

i was misrable b4 he came along...
i was happy with him up until i started to understand.
my oldest brother was killed by terrorists =(
imagaine how awesome is my life & now this

 

[4older]

i was misrable b4 he came along...
i was happy with him up until i started to understand.
my oldest brother was killed by terrorists =(
imagaine how awesome is my life & now this

You should really consider seeking some counseling for this beyond the board. From what you've said here things were not very awesome when you were with him. Not being with someone that upsets you generally should make you feel better. Since it's not, you should consider professional help to get things sorted out.

 

[Lefty]

For what it is worth,

I am in total agreement

with 4older. At least find

a friend that will old and listen.

 

[greathollow]

i understood that he didnt love me from the way that he easily gave up on me , when i told him am leaving him he didnt sound like he care.. althought later he did sound hurt , but still then later he told me the truth about the EX.
he said that after he broke up with him he felt so bad , but didnt allow himself to love him again so he wouldnt get hurt again.. & promised himself he will talk to him everyday for the rest of hes life...
& thats not what he told me , he told me he was trying to help him & the minute he feels that the EX is alright & can let him go , he will & just yesterday i knew it was all lies.
althought am hurt from this , the way of telling me loves me & i am the only 1 in hes life its still hard for me to hate him which will make the feelings for him go away easily.. this is the 1st day & i feel like shit , so sad & desperate i dont know what to do. its hard for me to just start dating other guys beacuse i am really in love with him but the good thing is that i broke up with him

 

[CallMeHTD]

Don't start dating other guys just yet. You went thought a LOT with this one. And from everything you have wrote, it sounds like you absolutely made the right choice. You need time to grieve, and you need time to heal. It's hurts now, yes, and it will for a while. But when the clouds clear you will have a perspective on the relationship. And you will also have a much clearer idea about the kind of man and kind of relationship you will want in the future as well. You (and only you) will know when you are ready to start dating again. Good luck with everything, greathollow.

 

[altlover85]

There's no need to start dating someone anytime soon.

Take some time out for yourself and try and process this so you can learn the lessons you need to.

Once you've done that and feel better, then I would think about dating.

 

[greathollow]

thanks guys , i do feel a little better , but most times i just fight my feelings.. i start think about him & try to wash it away & it doesnt go.
i do feel bad & am not shy of my tears so yea also i cried alot yesterday =(

 

[altlover85]

thanks guys , i do feel a little better , but most times i just fight my feelings.. i start think about him & try to wash it away & it doesnt go.
i do feel bad & am not shy of my tears so yea also i cried alot yesterday =(

I think crying is good. It's better than keeping things bottled up.

 

[Naughty_Monkey]

hi guys.
i met him through an online dating site with a purpose of us being a couple eventually.

Sorry to say but that's your mistake right there.

i'm sure some guys hit it off after meeting online, but most guys with a profile have had one of some kind for years and even if they meet someone special, the temptation to check back to see who wants a quick hook up is too strong.

if you want a relationship or monogamy you have to go another route or take it a lot slower. guys on hook up sites are out for fun and using traditional speed of a few dates and getting to know each other will always put off the ones who are just out for a quick wad blast.