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What should I do?

  • Improve my confidence and try my luck with girls.

    Votes: 3 100.0%

  • Be with guys as a fall back option and still enjoy myself.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Total voters
    3
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If your weight is a problem for your self image, then change it. If you're OK with it, not a problem.

The most attractive quality you can possess is confidence. Confident guys who aren't movie stars get laid more than insecure, low self esteem beauties. Plus they attract a higher grade of person.

You're correct to start with yourself, the image you put out there is a huge factor in what you attract, that goes for appearance (I'm not talking pretty, I'm talking clean and fit,) as well as presence and personality.

Some guys don't mind the weight, some girls don't either, but if you make yourself the best guy you possibly can, you'll get good results even if you're not the hottest guy on the planet.

Because if you're confident that you are a good catch, other people will see that, and believe it.
 
Yeah. I'm not understanding why you have to change damn near everything about what you've been doing to "obtain" a girlfriend. Are you looking for the stereotypical girly girl? Or would anyone of the female persuasion fit the bill.

As for deciding which to pursue? You're on your own there. No one can tell you what you enjoy.
 
seahawksteven777 said:
Well, I really don't know how to approach a girl in a certain situation. I go to a community college so approaching a girl in class or outside can be ackward in that the girl is probably busy and has things to do.

If I get some good tips on approaching a girl and what to say, I can put it to use when I gain my confidence losing weight.
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Well, it's been a long time since I was involved in straight dating dynamics, so I'm not sure I have much of use to say about that.

I would say that instead of trying to run some girl down outside of class, that you approach in a more social situation. That's how I find guys. Nights out, parties, friends of friends, etc.

Generally I just kind of strike up a conversation, doesn't matter about what really, just so long as you know how to keep your end of it up. Such as, if introduce yourself, don't stop there, then ask how she/he is enjoying whatever it is you're both doing at the moment. When he/she responds, acknowledge the response, then end with another question. The point is to keep the other person engaged, and let them understand you're interested in them and what they're saying.

That's not to say you couldn't just ask a girl out that you like.
 
seahawksteven777 said:
Me being fat and having acne severely affects my confidence. Maybe losing weight and acne isnt enough but it also boosts my confidence so that is 3 good things right there.

Im just looking for a girl that I "like". its really hard to explain what I am after but that is the best way I can say it.
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So you know what you want and it's nothing to do with a girl or a guy. It's you. You want to like you.

It may be that you're making yourself the enemy. It's the fat. Or it's the acne. Well, that's you. If you don't like those things, what are you gonna do about it so those things aren't you?
 
If you can get a guy you can get a girl. I'd work on the weight just because of your age. The acne should be treatable. Go back to your doctor.
 
I bet part of your acne problem relies on your diet, which also makes you overweight. And I think you should date whoever you want.
 
Lose weight.

See a doc about the acne.

Then be whoever you want to be.

'Settling' for guys because you can't apparently make it with girls is not the answer.

'Settling' for girls because you can't make it with guys is not the answer either.
 
>>>The acne problem I mentioned above is still a problem.

Guys with acne problems go on dates.
Guys with acne problems get laid.
Guys with acne problems get into relationships.

It's guys who feel their acne problems (or weight problems, or whatever other problems) will prevent them from going on dates, getting laid, and getting into relationships...that don't go on dates, get laid, or get into relationships.

Lex
 
What should you do? Stop hiding behind fat and acne; neither is a barrier to having friends, going out on dates and enjoying life.

That's not to say you shouldn't become more physically active and improve your diet, but don't pretend to yourself that you need to achieve some physical improvement goals before you start dating.
 
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