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Need help from drag queens/ crossdressers/ androgynous males

innocentbychoice

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Hi guys,

I don't know if this is the right place to post this but I figured it could be because it's a no flame zone. The idea of expressing my feminine side has become bigger and bigger within time. I really don't know what I am, I don't know if I'm a potential crossdresser, or if I wanna be a dragqueen or just androgynous. It is not a sexual thing or a fetish per se like it is for most crosdressers, though I do enjoy the fantasy of guys being attracted to me when presenting as a female but at the same time I also think it would be really cool to dress up in the open and do shows or sing like drag queens do. On the other hand, just trying a more androgynous look 24/7 is something that attracts me and seems really fun but at the same time I don't know if I'm willing to look more feminine all the time and sacrifice the attention I get by the way I look now.

See all my confusion? Oh Gosh I think reading that got me a headache. That's why I want advice from someone who has been through this, I don't even know what I am or where to start. It's kinda weird that I sort of feel the same way I felt when I started realizing I liked guys, I kinda feel that I need to know this new part of me and come out of the closet all over again at some point.
 
I can't help with your main issue, but I'm wishing you well as you pursue what you wish to pursue. Maybe getting close to a drag queen or two would help you do some exploring. Have fun with this. :)

This is a good forum for this as it's a form of coming out.
 
Must be nice to have a choice! I get called a tranny just for having long hair, and I consider myself "straight-acting" (I hate that term, but will use it to get the point across).

If it's truly what you want to do, then experiment, see how far you want to go before you start to feel uncomfortable. Just know that you need to prepare yourself for the backslash that will come.

I mean, in a lot of situations, people won't even know that I'm Gay. I'm never called camp by people who know or encounter me. I guess my long-haired look comes from my metal-head days and had just stuck since then, I'm a bit of a rocker at heart.

However, I'll go for a night out with friends, a lot of the time to straight clubs, and I'll ALWAYS get comments. Whether it be "Are you a tranny?" or when I walk into the male toilet and get "Get out of here, the girl's toilet is next door" etc. I mean, I'm used to it a bit now, and if the people who say these things ever get to talking to me they instantly take it back when they see that I'm a 6 foot 2 tall, hairy, deeped voiced bloke. It still gets to me in ways though, and it can be intimidating when you don't know if these people will go further than name-calling. Luckily, I've never been beaten up for it, probably because of my size, but there's always a risk.

Make sure you know what it will entail, and prepare yourself emotionally if you are going to crossdress in everyday life.
 
Howlly said:
If it's truly what you want to do, then experiment, see how far you want to go before you start to feel uncomfortable. Just know that you need to prepare yourself for the backslash that will come.

Make sure you know what it will entail, and prepare yourself emotionally if you are going to crossdress in everyday life.
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The thing is that I'm still not prepared to do anything in public just because I still don't even know what I want or what I am. I'm guessing I'll just go with whatever feels right and then I'll figure out who I am but I thought talking to someone who had gone through it could help me.

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Seasoned said:
I can't help with your main issue, but I'm wishing you well as you pursue what you wish to pursue. Maybe getting close to a drag queen or two would help you do some exploring. Have fun with this. :)

This is a good forum for this as it's a form of coming out.
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Thank you so much :).
 
innocentbychoice said:
The thing is that I'm still not prepared to do anything in public just because I still don't even know what I want or what I am. I'm guessing I'll just go with whatever feels right and then I'll figure out who I am but I thought talking to someone who had gone through it could help me.

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Thank you so much :).
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Yeah of course talking about it will help! :) I'm not saying that, I guess it's just different for everyone. You don't seem like you have a massive amount of confidence in yourself at the moment, but in time that will come, work your way up to it, reach your limit. :)
 
Thanks. Actually I am very confident with they way I look now, I just don't know how I would deal with people's reactions in case I do what I feel inside. But oh well time will tell.
 
If the glitter is in your soul, you should run with it.

 
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