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I have an important question! ( I do not know where to put this question, so thats why I put it here)

Nowadays I buy my fish at a local fish store. A guy who works there, is always eager to help me when I visit there, and when he helps me he keeps smiling me to me. Also the time I am there, (I need to wait 20 min for my fish), he looks at me all the time. I dont mind this at all, but I am confused about it. Does he mean something with the smile and looking or is it pure customer service?

Please help me out of this!
 
I'm just at a total loss for ideas here! Help, somebody!!
 
First off, see if you can observe his behavior with other customers. Perhaps stop by when it's busy. Does he seem as friendly and open with all the other customers?

Find a way to expand your conversation a bit outside the realm of fish. (I can't believe I just typed that sentence.) Are you new to the area? If so, ask if there's any good restaurants nearby, or perhaps good places to go have fun after work. If he sort of shrugs off the answers, or gives you monosyllabic answers, he's probably not interested. If he engages you in conversation, he's probably interested. If he offers to take you, he's definitely interested. :)

Lex
 
I'd go in and buy fish at least twice a day if i were you.

Have you ever thought of inviting him over for a nice juicy fillet?

Or get a nice piece of tuna and ask him if he's ever eaten it raw?
 
G-Lexington said:
Find a way to expand your conversation a bit outside the realm of fish. (I can't believe I just typed that sentence.) Are you new to the area? If so, ask if there's any good restaurants nearby, or perhaps good places to go have fun after work. If he sort of shrugs off the answers, or gives you monosyllabic answers, he's probably not interested. If he engages you in conversation, he's probably interested. If he offers to take you, he's definitely interested. :)

Lex
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Ditto-- Enage him in some non-consequential discussion... And just see how it goes from there.. Good luck..
 
He is interested in you. It doesn't mean he's gay and even if he is, it doesn't mean the interest is sexual.

The obvious thing is to eat more fish and to find a way to talk to him beyond the purchasing transaction.

The easiest way is to ask for advice about fish... ones that you've never tried, ways of preparing it, what's healthier, what you shouldn't eat too often (mercury, etc) and so on... then you have a chance to give him feedback and get into a routine. Find ways of interjecting personal questions to establish his domestic situation and of telling him more about you.

Maybe he knows some good seafood restaurants and maybe you take him out to one to thank him for all the good tips he's giving you...
 
After a long time i went to the fish store again, and guess what the dude hadn't forgotten me, he asked me like long time no see. I just gave a persuasive reason.
After a long time I talked to him beyond a purchase transaction. I introduced myself aadn we exchanged names and shook hands. I am gonna try to get this puzzle solved and get this further! Plz help me with what to do next
 
Wow, you're a very patient guy!

What did you talk about? How did the conversation go? If it's something of common interest, bring it up next time you visit. Let the conversation branch naturally from there (which it will, if you have common interests).

Use the advice you've already been given. Ask him to meet outside the store--maybe at something related to your conversation.
 
Lube said:
Wow, you're a very patient guy!

What did you talk about? How did the conversation go? If it's something of common interest, bring it up next time you visit. Let the conversation branch naturally from there (which it will, if you have common interests).

Use the advice you've already been given. Ask him to meet outside the store--maybe at something related to your conversation.
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I agree with Lube. We need more info. Details my dear boy.:gogirl:
 
Hey!

Yes Lube, I am a very patient guy. You figured that out very well. The patience comes from the fact that I dont rush into anything and think clearly about everything I do.

I talked to the dude, about different things, we exchanged names, told him that why i didnt came a long time, and some cliché stuff.
I don't know about his interests yet, but will talk to him about that next time. The bad thing is, the fish store is a very busy one so mostly i didnt got to talk to him that much.

Thats all!

The fact he recognized me after all these months amazed me!
I do want to get him know more, without being pushy!
 
SO, given that you were more than a little interested in the guy who works there, why didn't you go in for all these months?
 
Keep greeting him by name.
Ask him more questions about his wares.
Ask if there's any fun places nearby that you should try.

Lex
 
Or, you could ask him where the gay bars are around there and see if he knows. :jk:

Seriously, the thing is, the longer you just keep this an in-store "friendship," the more he's going to think of you as a nice customer who's either not interested or not available. It could be that he's thinking the same thing about you--wondering how to ramp this up a notch without appearing pushy, forward, or crossing that professional line of employee-customer relations.

Help him along. One way to do that is tell him you admire his knowledge about fish and you were wondering if you could chat with him more informally, say, grab dinner (or a drink) down the road? Ask him if he'd have the time, or interest, to do that? If he's interested, he'll make time and jump at the chance.

I think the biggest cue, though, is what Lex said above. Watch him--how does he treat other customers? Is he as outgoing and interested in them, too? With women as well as men? Or, has you singled you out for special treatment?

Get moving--it's time you get answers to this one. After all, a year from now, you don't want him to be the fish that got away (sorry, I literally could not help myself).
 
When you see him next time, greet him by name...have a friendly smile and something to talk about...any by all means have your cock out of your pants during all of this.

~~~Bri~~~
 
Is there a cafe or coffee shop nearby? Ask if he'd be interested in going there to talk over his lunch break.
 
A bit progress not too much but aftert talking i now know his working times so i can adjust my visits to that!
 
This thread started almost a year ago---hell---ask him out already!---if he says no--I am sure there are other fishmongers about. I really do wish you luck---I am a bit shy as well.
 
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