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I've known I was bi since I was 12 and have been in love with my best friend since. We're both 20 now and I have never given any indication I was bi. I always thought he was straight until last night. We were in his house and he was making a phone call in another room. I was checking something on his computer and I decided to take a quick peek in his history. My heart started beating faster when I saw several gay sites. I quickly closed it and was shocked. I was so shocked I didn't know what to say and stupidly never said anything all night. It'll be a week before I see him again and I don't know what to say. I don't want to tell him I was snooping in his history but I fear ifI tell him I'm bi, he'll deny he is. Help
 
I'd say you're in a good spot. Your friend might not admit to being gay or bi. Hell, he may not even BE gay or bi - he might just have been "curious". But whatever his situation, he at least appears to not have any issues with people who ARE gay or bi. In other words, he'll almost certainly accept you the way you are.

So just go with that. Come out to him. Tell him you're bisexual - that you find both (some) guys and girls attractive. But that's it. Don't mention that you're crushing on him, or what you found on his computer. The first step is that he knows, and that he accepts it. There's a decent chance that he'll take that opportunity to come out to you, as well. He may take it, he may not. (Or, as I mentioned, he may not be gay or bi.) But at least you'll have cleared that first hurdle.

Lex
 
When I admitted it the first time to a friend, we were driving in a car, so there was no eye contact. After the initial weirdness it was comforting having someone to talk with about it. He admitted some sensitive things to me too, though, he's not into guys.
 
I'd say that at first look, there's a good chance that he might be interested.

Are there other users on that computer that you know of? Also, you'll need to find a way to "break the ice" and do this gently. If he gets a weird feeling, he'll find any excuse possible. He could say it's an adware infection on his PC causing porn pop-ups, etc. Make him feel comfortable and in his own element before you try it.

P.S. (Certainly don't tell him you looked in his history --- I don't see that going over well)
 
ABSOLUTELY DON'T tell him that you were SNOOPING on his computer...

That is kind of creepy...

OTHERWISE -- Lex's advice is 100% CORRECT (as usual)...

BEST OF LUCK to you...

:):):)
 
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