Need some advice guys!

[collegejock20]

Ok... something happened to me yesterday that is SO confusing to me! I need some advice from an outside (or many outside) points of view!

This guy and I have been talking for about 2 months. We have hung out several times and really enjoy each others company. We had the whole "where do you see this going" discussion and we both agreed that we enjoyed one another and would like to continue this but not rush into anything. Good, right?

For the story telling purpose, let's call him John.

So my best friend and I went out yesterday... we went lots of different places but eventually ended up at a very popular gay bar here in town. We were there for a while and I was at the bar ordering a beer when I see John walk in. He is there with one of his friends and was standing at the door. I go back to where my friend is which is in clear view of John.

So I am standing there for about 5 minutes and we finally catch each others eye. I wave to him and he smiles and waves back... and then instead of walking in MY direction around the bar, he and his friend walk the OPPOSITE direction around the bar and go stand on the other side of the bar.

So I was like... huh... that's weird... so we are there for a little bit and I am keeping an eye on him out of the corner of my eye... well he and his friend end up walking out. He didn't so much as look at me... nothing... not a wave, not a nod, not eye contact, not even the middle finger. So they are gone for about 10 minutes and they come back. Well... when they come back they are standing in the door again but this time his friends walks around the bar towards us... so John follows. He stops, gives me this TIGHT hug asks me how I am, how my day was, where I watched the game, told me about his day.

So then he continues to the bathroom and then I don't see him again. I texted him and have YET to hear anything.

Am I over reacting? My feeling are REALLY hurt.

 

[impregnator]

Dude, he came back for you. Give him a break. He may need some time for his friends. That's all

 

[skips]

I'd say that you should sit down and have a heart-to-heart with John to sort things out. It's difficult for us to get the proper "feel" of the situation based on what we've been told.

You two are the only ones who fully understand the situation, including what all is at stake in the relationship.

Talk to John and see what's going on with him, as well as the two of you as a couple. I hope that you may just be reading too much into this but if he tries to rationalize his behavior, move on.

 

[Croynan]

on to the next one

eM.

 

[rareboy]

Move on. It is still early in the year to snag a guy for next New Year's Eve.

 

[racer2438]

I would have a sit down talk and say--
what happened the other day at the bar?

Because it made me feel like X........and listen to what he has to say. If it sounds reasonable take it with a grain of salt and move on. If it does not sound right, then you should decide what is best for you....no time to waste it on games, life is to short..

 

[mxpxl199]

Actions speak louder than words. He'll come up with some excuse but remember where there's smoke there's a fire. (Sorry for the cliches but it fits)

 

[andyspete]

I would try not to be offended and just see what happens the next time you two talk. There are a lot of reasonable explanations as have been mentioned by others in this thread. Give him a chance before you let your emotions take charge. I know that's easier said than done but I would definitely try. Good luck to you. Hope you get the answers you're looking for.