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Aside for making sure he's of age, I see no problem with it.

Go for it!!
 
Yes, it sounds like fun. But, first, make sure he's legal. Second, 'teens' aren't known for their discretion - can you trust him to keep this stuff on the dl? I'm just saying that because you said you are married... If discretion isn't an issue then I'd say go for it too.

Well, jmho - good luck!
 
I agree with the other posters. Make sure you get PROOF of age. The "as far as I know" is not good enough. That's not proof. The age is everything. Even if he ends up having no discretion at all, as long as he is not a minor, it doesn't matter. Needless to say, if he IS a minor, dismiss the idea immediately. Otherwise, go for it and enjoy it for as long as it lasts. Teens are also notorious for changing their minds from one minute to the next.
 
audioboard said:
I am near 50. Have a teen who is interested in HJ/JO/BJ with me. This kid is hot, legal (as far as I know), and clean. I have never done anything like this and am curious, married, straight (lived all my life as...). Should I write this off as a midlife crisis?
Should I act on it?
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Okay, I just want to make sure I understand you correctly. You are currently married, right? If so, is she aware of the situation?
 
I say act on it. Fulfill your fantasy. Have fun and try it out. Why not?

Not everyone get lucky enough like you. Take your chance. Atleast later on you can still say you've done it, rather than say "i've only dream about it."
 
audioboard said:
no, she is not...clueless
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Why would you cheat on her? If she is your wife, doesn't she deserve some respect and your faithfulness. I was married cause I was too afraid to come out. But I never cheated on her, I couldn't. I'm not trying to preach or act holier than thou. I just think if someone is gay or bi or curious you need to respect the person your committed too.
 
natedogg323 said:
Why would you cheat on her? If she is your wife, doesn't she deserve some respect and your faithfulness. I was married cause I was too afraid to come out. But I never cheated on her, I couldn't. I'm not trying to preach or act holier than thou. I just think if someone is gay or bi or curious you need to respect the person your committed too.
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Wow, I did not realize this until I read it. I have to apologize and take back what I said before. Honestly, I still think you should give yourself a chance to experience but, if you're in a perfectly fine relationship, that is something you shouldn't do.
In your situation, curiousity will definately kills the cat.

I realize my mistake now for telling you to go on ahead. Hopefully you can realize yours too. Imagine what will happen when she finds out. Can you hide it forever? What if it becomes an addiction? Forget about it, your wife is more important.
 
audioboard said:
No harm, I have decided not to do this. It goes against all that I can reason. I just feel like the emotional portion is some horrible secret I have lived with since I was teen and wanted to act on an impulse. I had plenty of opportunities to get this out of my system when I was a teen and never did. My relationship is fine with my wife. We have 3 great kids. I guess I just feel dirty about what I sometimes think. Do many guys think this way and just not dare to talk about it?
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audioboard - That is exactly what I went through. I know exactly how you feel. I have been attracted to guys since I was 12. That means from 15 - 22 I was with my girlfriend then wife and hiding this horrible secret. There were days in my marriage that I cried myself to sleep. I wanted to be with a guy so badly but my love for her was greater. I made the decision to tell her. It wasn't fair to her or myself to live a lie. I'm not saying this is what you should do, but you have to think about her and your 3 kids before you decide to cheat. I'm really proud of you. It was big of you to turn down the offer and not go through with it.
Even though this is going to sound shitty, audioboard...this isn't going to go away. I thought it would, but it never did. I'm still torn. I love my wife, always will. But I can't be with her cause i want to be with a guy. If you need to chat or want a friend to talk to ... PM me. (*8*)
 
Hey audio ... you did the right thing! After reading the above posts I felt bad about saying you should go for it if you could do it discreetly. If you have a good relationship with your wife you shouldn't risk hurting her on an impulse.

I also don't think you should 'feel dirty' about what you 'sometimes think'. It's OK -- you're human. You're definitely not the only guy who has these kind of feelings.

As far as the future - I think 'crossing that bridge when you come to it' may be the way to go. Anyway, good luck!
 
audioboard said:
i just wonder what it would be like. I don't want to live as a couple, I just have thoughts about tryin it. I would never give up the relationship I have now, it is complex, but pretty great. I guess the grass always looks greener ...
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The problem is this....

Lets say you do it. You take that guy up on his offer. You go into it knowing he's just fulfilling a fantasy. Your not going to leave your wife and kids for him. But from what I've read thus far in your posts I believe it will eat you up. Every time you look at your wife, or your kids your going to know what you did. It will suck and it might cause you to lose every thing you have now. Things have a way of coming out, if you know what I mean.

Please understand I'm not trying to scare you or make you feel bad. Dude I've been there and I lived what your going through. I couldn't do it, I couldn't cheat on her because I knew I wouldn't be able to look at myself in the mirror. If you truly didn't care about what "could" happen, you would have already sucked some dude off. If you are living unhappily. If this is driving you crazy and feel like there is something missing in your life. Then you need to do something about your current situation. I'm not telling you to leave your wife but it would be better for you to do that then to cheat on her.

I don't know what else to say that hasn't already been said. If you want to talk further PM me.

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