So here goes, I'm dating a guy (we've been on 6 or 7 dates) and I'm having a hard time getting a read on him. I'm debating whether I should just call it quits and move on but I kinda dig him!
For our first date we have coffee and chat then later that day he asks me out for a second date for that evening and we go to a club have drinks and dance (got a little touchy-feely). After that we go out a few more times movie, walks, happy hours, etc.
Normally I would say maybe he had a bad day or whatever but I'm noticing this is a reccurring theme, I ask him out, he accepts, then half way through acts like its an imposition.
In one instance, I asked him to a movie, he accepted then declined saying he was too busy. I go on about my day and go shopping at the mall when he calls me and asks what I'm doing. He's asks if I still want to catch a movie I say sure and we meet up (at the same mall). In the movie he looks bored out of his skull, so when its over he offers to walk me to my car then asks if I wanna grab some lunch. Now I'm really confused! We have lunch and talk it seems everything's okay. He drives me to my car and then suggests we go for a drive, so we do and I'm thinking hey this is going well!
Fast forward, a few days later he asks me to go on a walk with him and I accept. He picks me up and we go and we're walking and making small talk (mostly him telling me about his exes and what not). Half way through the walk we got on the taboo subject of politics and he's grilling me. Then he asks me about my relationships and what I'm looking for blah, blah, blah. I concede saying I admit he's a bigger man and he in turn uses it to insult me regarding my weight. WTF? It felt like an interrogation after he drops me off (still reeling from what happened) he texts me saying he sorry and shouldn't have said those things so I decide to give it another go!
So this weekend I invite him to a club and to meet some family and friends and he accepts. The night goes well (at first). We're drinking and dancing and having a good time then suddenly he's got an attitude. My friend whispers I don't think he's enjoying himself so I ask him if he's okay or if he wants to leave to which he says no he's okay. Now he's standing around looking seriously agitated and finally says he's gonna leave (although he did warn me he mite want to leave early). I offer to go with him and he says no I should stay with my friends. He kisses me good night (our first) and heads home. He texts me later thanking me for the night and saying he had fun.
The more I get to know him the more confused I become! I'm relatively new to the dating scene and at first I thought it might be some sort of defense mechanism. So I'm not sure whether I should give him the benefit of the doubt or cut my losses and move on. I kinda already know what I should do but I'd appreciate any advice.
For our first date we have coffee and chat then later that day he asks me out for a second date for that evening and we go to a club have drinks and dance (got a little touchy-feely). After that we go out a few more times movie, walks, happy hours, etc.
Normally I would say maybe he had a bad day or whatever but I'm noticing this is a reccurring theme, I ask him out, he accepts, then half way through acts like its an imposition.
In one instance, I asked him to a movie, he accepted then declined saying he was too busy. I go on about my day and go shopping at the mall when he calls me and asks what I'm doing. He's asks if I still want to catch a movie I say sure and we meet up (at the same mall). In the movie he looks bored out of his skull, so when its over he offers to walk me to my car then asks if I wanna grab some lunch. Now I'm really confused! We have lunch and talk it seems everything's okay. He drives me to my car and then suggests we go for a drive, so we do and I'm thinking hey this is going well!
Fast forward, a few days later he asks me to go on a walk with him and I accept. He picks me up and we go and we're walking and making small talk (mostly him telling me about his exes and what not). Half way through the walk we got on the taboo subject of politics and he's grilling me. Then he asks me about my relationships and what I'm looking for blah, blah, blah. I concede saying I admit he's a bigger man and he in turn uses it to insult me regarding my weight. WTF? It felt like an interrogation after he drops me off (still reeling from what happened) he texts me saying he sorry and shouldn't have said those things so I decide to give it another go!
So this weekend I invite him to a club and to meet some family and friends and he accepts. The night goes well (at first). We're drinking and dancing and having a good time then suddenly he's got an attitude. My friend whispers I don't think he's enjoying himself so I ask him if he's okay or if he wants to leave to which he says no he's okay. Now he's standing around looking seriously agitated and finally says he's gonna leave (although he did warn me he mite want to leave early). I offer to go with him and he says no I should stay with my friends. He kisses me good night (our first) and heads home. He texts me later thanking me for the night and saying he had fun.
The more I get to know him the more confused I become! I'm relatively new to the dating scene and at first I thought it might be some sort of defense mechanism. So I'm not sure whether I should give him the benefit of the doubt or cut my losses and move on. I kinda already know what I should do but I'd appreciate any advice.
