Need some help

[biguy562]

Hey guys!

My boyfriend just this week moved about 55 minutes away to school. He moved Wednesday and it's feels like its already been forever!!!! I was wondering if anyone could help me as far as advice on long distance relationships? I trust him completely and I have no worries as far as that is concerned. Well in a way I am but in a way I'm not haha!

I try to keep telling myself it's only an hour away!

 

[biguy562]

In addition, while he is at school I am planning on coming out to my parents. Advice on that would be helpful too! Thanks!

 

[KaraBulut]

Out of curiosity, why didn't you move with him?

 

[biguy562]

well we've only been dating 3 months we have talked about us getting an apartment in a year on so

 

[pai mei]

well, i can't help you with the long distance relationship, but i hope the coming out process goes well.

 

[KaraBulut]

At 3 months, that's wise. It's not a bad thing to have something like this to test whether the relationship is the real deal. Long distance relationships can stress any relationship but a hour distance is still close enough to continue the relationship and make it work.

 

[biguy562]

Yes, we both agreed it was too soon for me to move with him. I have no doubt though we can make it work!

 

[Rand]

You might find some ideas on this. John mentions that he and his bf have been working out their relationship for the last year.


Rand

 

[Seasoned]

It can work. Separation can be a good thing and a perfect time to concentrate on family and friends-a perfect time to come out.

 

[SonOfSlobone]

I'm not even sure I'd call that long-distance. I used to drive that far just to have dinner -- on a work night.

As for coming out to your parents, it's hard to give advice without knowing more about them. Parental reactions can range from accepting to total freakout. If you think the latter is likely, I wouldn't be in a rush to do it. Sometimes it's just simpler to wait until you're out on your own.

 

[biguy562]

Thank you all for the responses! I really appreciate it! I am going to ride down this weekend and see him .

He wanted me to come today but I told him the weekend would be better because I could stay longer. If I went tonight, we would've only had like 3 hours together. This weekend we would have all day.

Do yall think that is ok? Waiting until the weekend? I want to see him as often as I can but when I do see him I want to make it longer than a few hours.

 

[KaraBulut]

Do yall think that is ok? Waiting until the weekend? I want to see him as often as I can but when I do see him I want to make it longer than a few hours.

I can be a combination of both things. And you don't have to spend hours together everytime you see each other.

Plan on having a mixture of casual time and quality time together. Since he's about an hour away, find places halfway in between to have dinner, see a movie or just hang out during the week (assuming that you both have transportation). Then plan for more time and overnight stays on the weekend.

 

[biguy562]

Well, he does not have a car at the moment. It actually broke down while we were taking him to college. It is being fixed. I am not able to stay over night because he has an apartment (and roommate) through the school and no one is allowed to stay overnight and I don't want to get him into trouble.

Also, I am doing a 3 month internship 30 minutes in the other direction haha.