Need someones opinions SMH

[Theit10101]

I just came out my mom and sister like 10 minutes ago and....i wish i haven't. Now it wasnt bad its just that at first they thought i was joking and then they were like how i make a bad gay! OMG! Now, i dont act "gay" or like how normal people act and thats the first thing they said. Dont know why but that made feel so bad. OMG! I wish i was back in the closet...it sucks being out cause i feel right now is judged! Plus i still gotta come out to my parent....and my mom who didnt react at all just came out her room and said "wheres the gay boy at"! why why why did i do that! SMH SMH SMH!

 

[crzyrazn]

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Dude, lighten up. You should laugh along with that shit. Your mom and sister are hilarious. This is a good coming out.

 

[Theit10101]

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Dude, lighten up. You should laugh along with that shit. Your mom and sister are hilarious. This is a good coming out.

cant really laugh right now...its not how i pictured it at all! (You got a point though kinda....its kinda funny! ill laugh at it later!)

 

[rareboy]

Oh for heaven's sakes. Relax.

They're being cool about and using humour to deal.

Way better than screaming and tantrums

And now you can ask if you can borrow their eyeliner.

And congrats on being out.

 

[TX-Beau]

I just came out my mom and sister like 10 minutes ago and....i wish i haven't. Now it wasnt bad its just that at first they thought i was joking and then they were like how i make a bad gay! OMG! Now, i dont act "gay" or like how normal people act and thats the first thing they said. Dont know why but that made feel so bad. OMG! I wish i was back in the closet...it sucks being out cause i feel right now is judged! Plus i still gotta come out to my parent....and my mom who didnt react at all just came out her room and said "wheres the gay boy at"! why why why did i do that! SMH SMH SMH!

First off what’s “SMH?”

Second, a little less “OMG!...(insert partial sentence)… OMG! …” and a little more clarity would be helpful. I’m not sure what your mother was doing.

Was she saying you can’t be gay because you don’t “act gay.”

Was she saying that you’ll make a bad gay man? If so why? Was she being humorous? Upset? Angry? What?

Second, how does one act “gay?” I suspect you mean effeminate, and you don’t do yourself any favors by on that score by all the over the top drama.

Third:

OMG! Now, i dont act "gay" or like how normal people act and thats the first thing they said.

Huh? You don’t act “gay,” OR how “normal people,” act? Being gay isn’t abnormal. But since you’re drawing that distinction, if you’re not acting gay or how normal people act, what did they mean by this? Why exactly are you “going to make a bad gay?” What is a “bad gay.”

It’s hard to reply when the context is murky. Punctuation and grammar are your friends. We can’t help you if we can’t understand you.

 

[Halifaxboy8]

First off what’s “SMH?”

Second, a little less “OMG!...(insert partial sentence)… OMG! …” and a little more clarity would be helpful. I’m not sure what your mother was doing.

Was she saying you can’t be gay because you don’t “act gay.”

Was she saying that you’ll make a bad gay man? If so why? Was she being humorous? Upset? Angry? What?

Second, how does one act “gay?” I suspect you mean effeminate, and you don’t do yourself any favors by on that score by all the over the top drama.

Third:



Huh? You don’t act “gay,” OR how “normal people,” act? Being gay isn’t abnormal. But since you’re drawing that distinction, if you’re not acting gay or how normal people act, what did they mean by this? Why exactly are you “going to make a bad gay?” What is a “bad gay.”

It’s hard to reply when the context is murky. Punctuation and grammar are your friends. We can’t help you if we can’t understand you.

TX, man, you're a bitter old thing, aren't ya? Just re-read your last few posts (and i've read them) and you'll see what I mean. Maybe you just need more sleep.
His punctuation and grammar are within understandable limits. If you want to be a Grammar Nazi, do an ESL tour.

To the OP: You got a response that was unexpected. It wasn't shitty, and you should be thankful. They, perhaps, had a flamboyant gay image in mind. Can you blame them, really? Its not a you thing for that. Popular media hasn't painted gay culture positively..yet?

You've JUST come out. Take that into greater consideration.

Your parents are in shock, perhaps a bit. As are you, yes? You have just told them something about you that you've kept hidden for a while. You've had time to think about all this stuff (years?). They've had what, an hour or two?

Its going to be weird. Really weird. And when you wake up tomorrow, man, same deal. But..its going to wear off, and hopefully soon. Its not a forever thing.

 

[TX-Beau]

TX, man, you're a bitter old thing, aren't ya? Just re-read your last few posts (and i've read them) and you'll see what I mean. Maybe you just need more sleep.
His punctuation and grammar are within understandable limits. If you want to be a Grammar Nazi, do an ESL tour.

Oh please. The above is and remains a request for clarification. I don't care if your grammar is perfect, but it does help if we all try.

How you got "bitter old thing out of that," is beyond me.

If you think he's perfectly clear, then you're free to tell him so. He'll either respond or he won't.

Certainly no one in here is interested in your opinion of me, and for my self, if that's what you want to think of me, knock yourself out.

 

[Theit10101]

Sorry about the errors i guess but typos love me.
SMH = Shaking my head. My bad also for the text talk.

My mom and sis were pretty much saying how i don't act gay as in i don't act effeminate and that im a bad gay which mad me feel like shit for some reason. They weren't mad at all and i guess this was a pretty successful coming out. I will tell my dad before i leave back for college but not now. I'm srry, the person I was trying to tell didn't pick up the phone and i needed to tell someone so i mad a post! Thanks for the replys. I was freaking out before but i know it will get better.

 

[tallguy297]

Certainly no one in here is interested in your opinion of me, and for my self, if that's what you want to think of me, knock yourself out.

Yup...correct, so guys if you could wander back on topic that would be great...

 

[tallguy297]

My mom and sis were pretty much saying how i don't act gay as in i don't act effeminate and that im a bad gay which mad me feel like shit for some reason. They weren't mad at all and i guess this was a pretty successful coming out. I will tell my dad before i leave back for college but not now. I'm srry, the person I was trying to tell didn't pick up the phone and i needed to tell someone so i mad a post! Thanks for the replys. I was freaking out before but i know it will get better.

Mate, thats a good thing trust me... you're actually going to end up teaching your mum and sis a lot of what it means... and doesnt mean to be gay. Right now they it seems that they are carrying around the mainstream view of what it is to be gay... and you and the rest of here know just how far that is off the mark.

So with a little time, and the acceptance they already have of your sexuality, you can show them and those other people in your life that you choose to tell, just how little an issue being gay is. Its just another part of being you... it doesn't make your voice get high pitched, or make you dress differently, walk differently. Those things were already you... they are you.

And being gay is also you. Now they know, you can get on with just doing more of the same, and when they see that nothings really changed, that adjustment they need to make will happen quickly and easily... so yes mate, it will get better!