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anchihiro
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Relax, for the moment forget trying to label yourself. You sound young, I'd say for the time being get comfortable with it, develop more your own understanding of the sexual things that excite you. Everyone's sexuality is different and many guys who are majoritively heterosexual have some form of gay fantasy. I'd say simply try internet porn.
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How can you know what you like or don´t like if you don´t try it? It won´t make you straight, gay or bi. Maybe it´s hard for you to realize you´re gay, maybe it´s simply curiosity, maybe you´re straight but like to fool around out of your safety area... too many maybes to even think about it. Try as much as you want and can before having a serious relationship, but stay safe!
Forget societies labels and do what you want and what makes you feel good inside. Labels are for food on the shelves and not ourselves. If you want to feel a cock sliding into your ass and it turns you on and makes you feel good, do it. If you try it and find that it is not your cup of tea then you know. Maybe you will find you only want it once a year at Christmas. Explore your body and your senses and what makes you feel good and then do it and to hell with what society tells you.
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Society loves labels, and if you are out there dating or on hookup sites, you kind of need to label yourself so the others can approach you...find out if they are interested in you. I'd probably have to say at this point that you are "curious", since you know you like women, identify as straight, but know that the idea of being fucked by a guy appeals to you. You may come to realize that this is or isn't the way you identify yourself.
Label can be confusing depending upon who you talk to. Realize that each have their own subsets, as well personal interpretations of each are a factor. The boundaries of labels are debated all the time. There are bisexuals that feel they can love and be in a relationship with either a man or a woman, and there are some that feel no emotional attachment to the person but enjoy the sex act...probably dozens of other definitions in between. Some people think that they can still classify themselves as straight even tho they've had sex with the same gender. Some gay men have had sex with many women and have been married, yet still think of themselves as gay...while others look upon them as being bisexual. Again...personal interpretation.
I think it's more a matter of you coming to terms with the idea that the thought of having sex with another man appeals to you, realizing that there is nothing wrong with feeling this way, and that there is nothing wrong with acting upon it. You'll figure out your sexual identity in time and come up with your own label, if necessary.
Label can be confusing depending upon who you talk to. Realize that each have their own subsets, as well personal interpretations of each are a factor. The boundaries of labels are debated all the time. There are bisexuals that feel they can love and be in a relationship with either a man or a woman, and there are some that feel no emotional attachment to the person but enjoy the sex act...probably dozens of other definitions in between. Some people think that they can still classify themselves as straight even tho they've had sex with the same gender. Some gay men have had sex with many women and have been married, yet still think of themselves as gay...while others look upon them as being bisexual. Again...personal interpretation.
I think it's more a matter of you coming to terms with the idea that the thought of having sex with another man appeals to you, realizing that there is nothing wrong with feeling this way, and that there is nothing wrong with acting upon it. You'll figure out your sexual identity in time and come up with your own label, if necessary.
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Let your sexual desires as long as they are with other consenting adults lead you to sexual fulfillment. Judging and stifling causes obsessive thinking and interferes with quality of life issues. Some people find comfort in labels; some do not. Be honest with yourself about needs and wants and let them lead you to becoming a satisfied person. Good luck and stay safe.
You do realize that a penis will have to be inserted in your anus...right?
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Really, man, stop worrying about labels. I mean, we're in 2013. Labels are mostly a thing of the past. In many cases they're just boring, useless, stupid and archaic. The only thing you should be worrying about is BEING YOURSELF. Be who you are. And who/what are you? Well, you are a dude named: (Insert your name here). That's it. Everything else is pure circumstance. Let boring, uninteresting people worry about labels. Good luck.
i know that i'm defo not gay because i can never imagine myself being in a relationship with a guy. it's just that whenever i watch porn, i think that i'd love to be the guy being fucked. it's only the sex that appeals to me. :-(
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nothing wrong with just wanting a good ass pounding. 
there are a lot of guys out there that are interested only in sex with no strings attached...some won't even care to ask your name. You just have to put yourself out there...hookup sites, gay bars, etc... play safe tho.
there are a lot of guys out there that are interested only in sex with no strings attached...some won't even care to ask your name. You just have to put yourself out there...hookup sites, gay bars, etc... play safe tho.
i'd never go to a gay bar because i'm well known around where the nearest one is and CAN NOT risk people seeing me leave with a guy or even get caught going in to one. where i am from, it's very quiet so no one form round here will go on hookup sites :-( wish i could have a friend who felt the same way as me! would be so much easier!! :-(
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When I was in my teens and early twenties, I kept asking myself, what am I? I was looking for something to call myself, something to identify myself with. I used to watch porn of all descriptions, I was attracted to women and increasingly to men. Now in my mid twenties I'm married, I still have those feelings of attractions to men, I still get off to gay and straight porn, I don't really call myself bi-sexual because as much at times as I have wanted to have it off with a man I haven't so in the end until someone slips a eight incher up my arse I cant really say if I'd like it or not., and the chances of that happening within the confines of a committed monogamous heterosexual relationship are slim to none.
Ask yourself what you want, it may be you simply don't know, much like I did not know, it may be that you have the capacity to have sexual relationships with both genders, or maybe only one. You will never really know until you do it. I only really know that a heterosexual relationship worked for me because I'm in one, but at the same time I remember every time a muscular pretty boy in a tight t-shirt walks past that that particular itch never got scratched.
It's up to you. If you are living in a small and fairly isolated community - to be fair I do too - it can be very difficult to experiment without being discovered by someone especially if you are well known. In small communities it is much harder to blend in with everyone else when you are going through something like this in your mind, but as others have said you can only find out ultimately by doing it. You can jack off to as much porn as you like but its no substitute for the real situation and until you are in it you will never know how your mind will react. For me, it was as much the fear of the unknown as anything else, I only really ended up in the relationship I'm in now because my other half basically decided for me, otherwise I would have just bumbled on merrily by myself in a constant state of indecision.
Whatever you decide to do, play it safe, be confident in yourself and enjoy it. And remember you are not alone, you are not the only person with these thoughts or ideas, it would be easier to have a real physical friend who felt the same, and for all you know you may well do.... but there are hundreds of people who use this forum so do what you have done and ask for advice you are bound to get some, some good some bad, some in between, but take it on board.
Ask yourself what you want, it may be you simply don't know, much like I did not know, it may be that you have the capacity to have sexual relationships with both genders, or maybe only one. You will never really know until you do it. I only really know that a heterosexual relationship worked for me because I'm in one, but at the same time I remember every time a muscular pretty boy in a tight t-shirt walks past that that particular itch never got scratched.
It's up to you. If you are living in a small and fairly isolated community - to be fair I do too - it can be very difficult to experiment without being discovered by someone especially if you are well known. In small communities it is much harder to blend in with everyone else when you are going through something like this in your mind, but as others have said you can only find out ultimately by doing it. You can jack off to as much porn as you like but its no substitute for the real situation and until you are in it you will never know how your mind will react. For me, it was as much the fear of the unknown as anything else, I only really ended up in the relationship I'm in now because my other half basically decided for me, otherwise I would have just bumbled on merrily by myself in a constant state of indecision.
Whatever you decide to do, play it safe, be confident in yourself and enjoy it. And remember you are not alone, you are not the only person with these thoughts or ideas, it would be easier to have a real physical friend who felt the same, and for all you know you may well do.... but there are hundreds of people who use this forum so do what you have done and ask for advice you are bound to get some, some good some bad, some in between, but take it on board.