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Hi guys,

I was hoping to get some advice about having sex for the first time. I'm a virgin and positive I'm a bottom (but I guess I don't know for sure) and I feel like I'll be having sex with a guy I've been talking to for a while, but I'm having really bad nerves about that. I've never been with a guy sexually or even just on a date so the nerves are extremely high, I've never even kissed someone. Something that really scares me is that I won't be clean enough, I bought a ball douche and wet wipes to clean but I'm still very nervous about this.

I was hoping you guys could give me some advice on this subject, and kissing.
 
Sometimes shit happens no matter how well you clean and prepare. Sometimes it doesn't happen even without cleaning. It's a flip of the coin but goes with the territory sometimes.

Good luck on your first time. Use lots of lube, have him go slow with one, then two fingers first if you bottom. Relax. Breath, and push out just a little as he enters you. It may be a bit uncomfortable (not really painful) at first, then it gets awesome.

Btw... make sure to use a condom if anal penetration, either way.
 
Only eat small amounts the whole day... preferable yogurt and drink fluids!
 
If you go over to Health & Wellbeing, at the top of the forum is a Sticky section that has a lot of the very commonly-asked questions about sex. See if that answers some of your questions.

But... what is not in those threads is the answer to the question, "Am I ready for this step?". Going from never kissed a guy to anal sex is probably too much, too fast.

There's two schools of thought on this kind of stuff:
One school of thought is the "get it over with" approach. Some people who take this approach end up having a mediocre or bad experience the first time.
The other school of thought is to find someone that you like, that you're comfortable with. You kiss, You talk. You hold hands. When if feels right for both or you, then it happens.

Maybe, before you do anything, you need to give some thought to whether this is moving faster than you're ready to go?
 
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That is what I did. I met my boyfriend online and we really got to know each other before anything sexual happened. The second "date" we had, ended with my first kiss. Then by the end of the month we moved on to making out and a few weeks after that was oral sex. When we went on a mini-vacation about a month after that, we had anal.

Everyone will tell you this but you need to experience it, the first time is nerve wracking, awkward, and not fun at first. That is why having someone who likes you is probably better than someone who you just hook up with.
 
Thanks for all the help guys, I'm going to talk with him I think I'd prefer to take it slow (I mean it's my first time, I don't want to rush it) I really appreciate everyones input it was all really helpful :)
 
Let us know how it goes.
 
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