Nervous about meeting a jo bud from Craigslist - lot of "bad signs"

[Cockatrice]

I've been on CL and Adam4Adam every now and then looking for other married / bi guys with whom I can meet to jo. This wouldn't be for sex, it would be just jerking off and I'm always very clear about that.

In the last few days I've been conversing with someone from CL. We've spoken on the phone once and he sounded pleasant enough. But now that I have his real email address, I confess I've googled it and....

....he's on about 200 different hookup / fetish websites with a different claimed age, location, orientation, and even ethnicity in every one of them. In one of them he listed an IM, which when googled produced another few hundred hookup sites each of which similarly listed everything different.

Just looking at what I've already written, I anticipate all the responses I get will be "he's a prostitute / scammer / psycho, GTFO", and I think that will be my reaction after all. It is just a bit harder to back away having actually spoken to him on the phone and finding him to be quite seemingly pleasant, eager, and discreet.

IN GENERAL - if other guys here have managed the jo bud thing online, that is NOT how it is supposed to proceed, correct?

Thanks for any tips.

 

[HunterM]

Don't understand why you can't back away if you're seeing red flags? If you are concerned about your own safety, why go through it? Find someone else.

 

[TheLyingGame]

RUNNNNN!

 

[Oldschoolboy]

Yeah, you could even be honest. Obviously don't tell him you've googled him and so, just tell him you've been thinking about meeting someone from CL and you don't feel comfortable enough.

Seeing his background he's not gonna be devastated, so expect him to be like "ok, bye then" after that talk...

 

[BrianPGH]

I'd definitely say the red-flags are too numerous to ignore in this situation. Despite him sounding like a nice guy on the phone, and despite your (understandable) eagerness to find a j/o bud, I wouldn't let this go any further if I were you.

Best of luck finding someone else you'll feel comfortable with, buddy. You'll know the right situation when you find it.

 

[AlmondMilk]

Saying you're not interested anymore in a reply is better than just ignoring his emails and such. Tell him you're not into it, then find someone else who makes you more comfortable.

 

[JJW234]

just don't do it looks like a serial killer that's scary!

 

[whydatkine]

Don't do it. That to me already screams psycho. Who in there right mind has all that time on their hands to create that much aliases? Good looking out on digging up some info on him and if I were in your shoes I'd block this guy out completely.

 

[palemale]

Stay away. There are plenty of decent guys on sites other than CL.

 

[Cockatrice]

thank you all so much for the advice & encouragement. You are right - it was too much of a risk. And so, even though he seemed nice on the phone, and his cock looked gigantic and stunning, I did back out, and thought I did it politely, but the guy got unbelievably furious at me and sent 50+ angry emails over the next 3 hours. Gah! Thank goodness I never gave him any traceable email address and always blocked my phone #.

I'm married so don't want to get in over my head - just want to have what every single one of my straight guy friends had with me in hs / college, the chance to relax with aother guy and jack off to pussyporn together. Guess I'll have to keep looking. But I suspect people here are more "real" than CL!

 

[KURT10677]

I've been on CL and Adam4Adam every now and then looking for other married / bi guys with whom I can meet to jo. This wouldn't be for sex, it would be just jerking off and I'm always very clear about that.

In the last few days I've been conversing with someone from CL. We've spoken on the phone once and he sounded pleasant enough. But now that I have his real email address, I confess I've googled it and....

....he's on about 200 different hookup / fetish websites with a different claimed age, location, orientation, and even ethnicity in every one of them. In one of them he listed an IM, which when googled produced another few hundred hookup sites each of which similarly listed everything different.

Just looking at what I've already written, I anticipate all the responses I get will be "he's a prostitute / scammer / psycho, GTFO", and I think that will be my reaction after all. It is just a bit harder to back away having actually spoken to him on the phone and finding him to be quite seemingly pleasant, eager, and discreet.

IN GENERAL - if other guys here have managed the jo bud thing online, that is NOT how it is supposed to proceed, correct?

Thanks for any tips.

Dont understand if you just wanted a jack off buddy and thats it why would you start some background check like you guys are getting married or smething, that seems weird to me and makes me think your kinda weird. Besides women do things like that.

 

[ChicagoNormalGuy]

Dont understand if you just wanted a jack off buddy and thats it why would you start some background check like you guys are getting married or smething, that seems weird to me and makes me think your kinda weird. Besides women do things like that.

What don't you understand? Why would a jack-off bud be less of a problem than blow bud or fuck bud? I think there was something about the guy that Cockatrice had a weird feeling about so he Googled the email. Turns out, based on the guy's reaction to being turned down, he was kind of a nutball. I don't want to talk to nutballs at a local bar, let alone get naked and jack off with a nutball.

I'm not going to judge the idea of being married and having a secret jack-off bud thing. But if you are going to do it, why in the world would you not do your best to make sure he isn't going to eventually screw up your life?

 

[KURT10677]

What don't you understand? Why would a jack-off bud be less of a problem than blow bud or fuck bud? I think there was something about the guy that Cockatrice had a weird feeling about so he Googled the email. Turns out, based on the guy's reaction to being turned down, he was kind of a nutball. I don't want to talk to nutballs at a local bar, let alone get naked and jack off with a nutball.

I'm not going to judge the idea of being married and having a secret jack-off bud thing. But if you are going to do it, why in the world would you not do your best to make sure he isn't going to eventually screw up your life?

First of all if I was going to do something like hook with some random guy, if I talked to him on the phone and got a weird feeling I would just not return any of his calls and stop the emails period. I wouldnt go google him trying to found out his fricken life story becuase I really wouldnt care. If your married and that paranoid dont go fucking around with men on Criaglist of all places.

 

[goldpuma]

Dont understand if you just wanted a jack off buddy and thats it why would you start some background check like you guys are getting married or smething, that seems weird to me and makes me think your kinda weird. Besides women do things like that.

I agree with Kurt, I think both parties dodged a bullet that night. You managed to avoid a compulsive liar and he managed to avoid the paranoid detective

 

[jonahjonah179]

I think you've found obvious warning signs and should've known the answer before even thinking of posting this thread.