Nervous as hell

[NorthSouth]

I've been reading posts on this forum for a while but never posted. Now I need to turn to y'all for a bit of help.

I've always been a straight guy but also always noticed guys. I was briefly married several years ago and I'm currently engaged. This is kinda the last chance before I get married to meet up with a guy and try out some urges I've had for a while. So I put out a craigslist ad and have a tentative meeting to meet up with a guy tomorrow. He seems pretty easy going as there were a lot of crazy replies. He says he also has a gf and has only hooked up with guys twice. Claims to be as nervous as I am. We planning to meet in the morning to see how things go but we have discussed hooking up. We agreed that either of us can call it off if we need to and walk away.

I'm really nervous about this. Nervous about meeting a guy like this and actually nervous about performing sexually. I mean if I go through with this I want it to be good right?

Anyone out there have some advice on how this should go tomorrow?

Thanks...

 

[locksmithers]

JUST GO FOR IT!

This is your only chance before you get married. If you don't do it, you'll be forever thinking of what could have been.

Go see a movie and sit in the back. Then start from there, if you know what I mean. ;-)

 

[locksmithers]

And tell us what happened!

 

[blackbeltninja]

I'm inclined to agree with "go for it" but there is a big part of me which says "isn't that cheating?"

I hate to spoil your fun, and I know where you're coming from, but... are you sure you know what you're doing? If this all comes out at some stage, you're not going to be the only one left with scars.

Good luck either way.

-d-

 

[dapanzo]

I am gonna give you an advice: don´t get marry with a woman until you are sure of your sexual orientation. Why am I telling you this? Because if you are more inclined to your gay side, your marriage is gonna be horrible both for you, and your girl.
Don´t rush to the altar, take your time to know your sexuality well. There are lots and lots of married men who find themselves trapped in straight marriages, when they really aren´t into it...and of course, think about all the pain that you could give to your poor girlfriend if this would happen.

 

[JNewYork]

Yeah, I would hold off on marrying again.

Do you want your future wife to have a secret sex life? Then you shouldn't have one, either.

Your upcoming marriage is going to be built on a very weak foundation. A foundation of secret sexuality.

Ask yourself, Do you REALLY and TRULY want to be married to this woman? Or do you TRULY and REALLY want DICK?

 

[ballcaphair]

Take care to love yourself first, share yourself with others second. We're here for you. Be excited, not nervous. Enjoy yourself!

 

[NorthSouth]

He never showed.

Not sure where this leaves me on things.

 

[chillyboi]

Ah go for it, i have & it was great

 

[spencer]

what happened to the time after you were married but before you met your fiance? are you so rich that you can just pay alimony to all your ex's if the 2nd marriage doesn't work out. I would tell your fiance that you're not ready because of your last marriage not working out and in the mean time take time to figure out your feelings now, cause walking down the aisle isn't going to suppress your feelings and then you'd be cheating on your wife (as opposed to your fiance). granted it's not much of a difference but financially (if it leads to a divorce) is a big difference. you owe it to yourself and to her to find out.

what city do you live in, pm me

 

[spikebaltar]

I would avoid random anonymous hookups from CL. Just too much weirdness out there including the killer that was mentioned. Also stuff like people setting up friends for gay encounters as a joke, etc.
I would never meet somebody unless I had chatted with them numerous time, met them in public, etc.

 

[SkinnyBoi87]

Just use your head when you're out. Be safe, and bring something to defend yourself with, like a tire iron

 

[palemale]

He never showed.

Not sure where this leaves me on things.

Forget craigslist. Try Manhunt, Adam4Adam, Gaydar, Dudesnude, etc. I've been doing it for almost a year and have met some very nice guys.

 

[xdudex123]

don't get married until you determine what you actually want. why get married again if you're having thoughts of men and with a strong chance it'll end badly? you should explore you're options with a guy first just to see if that's what you want. maybe you'll find a good guy..who knows. where are you? let me know ill show up hahah.

 

[star-warrior]

He never showed.

Not sure where this leaves me on things.

Well, that was a month and a half ago, almost.

If you're gonna get married, I wish you both the best luck in the world. I also hope you stay decent and do the right thing.

Else, if you stray, do at least take all the precautions with safe sex you can. You owe it to your wife, and ultimately, if you have kids, to them too, if not yourself.